I'm so sorry IronEagle, you are dealing with so much. I also have young children and know the tonradoes they are. If I was closer I'd offer to take the kids for some playdates. My kids would be thrilled. I lost my mom 3 years ago unexpectedly. She was living with my sister and I get a phone call that my sister is home from work and can't find our mom. Car is there, keys, purse, but no mom. I was on the phone with her when she walked into the basement and found her. Her heart had just stopped while doing laundry, she was 55. My mom always turned to me when she needed help as she knew I was the one that was most likely to be able to actually follow through, I know that pressure. My dad had a heart transplant 7 years ago. I remember the worry and seeing him in the ICU month after month waiting. It's such a helpless feeling and so draining.
I have found that I need to accept help when offered. The people in my church were wonderful when I was at my worst. Dropping meals off on my porch and ringing the bell knowing I was in no condition to see anyone. They even offered to come clean my house but I was too embarassed to let them in. I had let everything go to hell.
I'm glad you are getting some reprieve. The weight of that kind of pressure can seem suffocating. I pray your mom recovers quickly. You need all the energy you can get with two little ones at home. Mine are a bit older now (7 and 4) but they were 1 and 4 when my mom passed and it was about all I could do to get through the days trying to take care of them. I let them eat pretty much whatever they wanted, wear whartever, watch however much TV etc, if they were still alive and well when hubby got home, the day was a success back then.