I happen to prefer the 10k MH bulb also, XM and Ushio give a good crisp brite light. I too like to balance the look with a couple of VHO URI actinic bulbs as well as a couple of URI 50/50 bulbs as well.
In this way I can click on the VHO for a couple hours before blinding the fish with the MH bulbs right away, then after the MH bulbs have been on they get shut off and then a couple hours after that the VHO go off.