Aubrie Richard~~R.I.P

[reef_magic]

Hi guys, sorry I haven't been on for the past couple days, it's been really hectic. One of my friends who I have grown up with and went to school with every day for 10 and a half years was killed in a car accident Sunday morning. She was driving with her boyfriend when her ex-boyfriend and one of his friends sideswiped Aubrie (17) into a utility pole. Her boyfriend (Jason Leonardo, 18) was killed on impact and she died from injuries at the hospital.
Our whole school has been torn apart over all this and the pole is beautifully decorated with flowers in Aubrie's remembrance. All I can ask of you guys is to keep her friends and family in your prayers and hearts as we all grieve over this. The viewing is tomorrow followed by the funeral on Thursday, it's gonna be so hard for all of us.
Thnx so much, Mark

 

[fishman830]

that's sad, what's yto come of the guys that side swiped her?
Justice shall prevail

 

[reef_magic]

there is no real evidence i guess, to prove they sideswiped her. one ran off and they cant even find him. but the other has been going to all the prayer services and memorials for them both. i dont know the true story, but thats what is being said
....and i pass that corner everyday to school:nope:

 

[birdy]

That is so sad, I am sorry to hear about that, you all will be in my prayers.

 

[midwest reefer]

Im praying for you bro, hang in there. Im just a sophomore and Ive had 3 friends die recently and a good friend of mine walked home to his dad hanging in the back yard, so Ive been in your position a few times before. All I can say is to remember that god has a plan for everyone, just put some faith in it and it will all work out.
My friend dustin hill was "t-boned" in fall of 02, and died after a week of being in a coma. The lady who hit them ran a stop sign, and she got a ticket and that was it. From what I understand, the person whose fault it was cannot be prosecuted unless they were driving under the influence of something, or without a license or soemthing of that nature.
Just wondering, did they have seatbelts on?

 

[lovethesea]

very sad, I am sorry for both of your losses. Its a very large reminder of how precious life is and no matter the age there are no guarantee's.
Reef, you can only hope there was not malious intent, but since he has chosen to run, his car will show the evidence and will be having to answer to at least a hit and run charge. The passenger will hopefully come to his senses and tell the truth.

 

[reef_magic]

thank u guys so much. i just really need to talk to someone. everyone at school has been really quiet and no one wants to talk about it. it makes me feel so much better to have u guys to talk to.
i am so sorry for ALL the crap i have caused in the past. this whole experience has made me look at things in a totally different way. I am just so upset i don't know what to do. the wake is tonite and im really hesitant about going.
Mark

 

[lovethesea]

you need to go........things like that you will regret.

 

[reef_magic]

ya, i am gonna go. i guess i should have said "affraid" instead of "hesitant"

 

[reef_magic]

she musta been really messed up if it was a closed-casket :nope: i just wanted to see her for the last time

if u wanna read, here's her obituary:
http://www.southbendtribune.com/stor..._Aubrie_L_.sto
and a story from the paper, showing the pole:
http://www.southbendtribune.com/stor...ourn_South.sto
i guess the police found out Jason's blood alcohol was .20 :nope:
all this for one night of partying.....i dont get it :nope:

 

[tony detroit]

You must believe that every day that the people that you meet, that that may be the last day you see them, and also it may be the last day they see you. Be kind to everyone, show love to everybody. Treat everyone with respect and fairness and they will do the same to you. Remember how truly precious life is and what a gift it is to live it.
Pay your respects and do not forget the past, no matter what happens. Sorry about your loss.
tony

 

[jokerswild]

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

 

[cprdnick]

God (or whoever you pray to) will watch over you and the families of the deceased. I am 23 years old, in high school I lost 2 friends. Since graduation in 1999 I have lost 9 friends, 7 to auto "accidents", 1 to cancer, and one to suicide. There was only 2 of these that were open casket. I have also lost all but one of my grandparents since I was fifteen. God helps us through times like this, remember that, and make your purpose in these times, not to grieve, but to comfort, as the family will need it more than anyone as they have known her throughout her entire life. Cherish everything and anything you have right now, you may not have these things tomorrow. The end of life on earth is not far away, whether it be by God's hand or an asteroid. If tomorrow never comes have you told everyone you love how you feel about them?
"I thank my God every time I remember you. In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now, being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus".
Philippians 1:3-6
"But our citizenship is in heaven. And we eagerly await a Savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ, who, by the power that enables him to bring everything under his control, will transform our lowly bodies so that they will be like his glorious body."
Philippians 3:20-21
In our prayers you and her family will find peace.
Clint

 

[reef_magic]

that means so much, thank u all!

 

[reef_magic]

thnx Carole.....well, the funeral was today and it was so beautiful. the church was almost full. i broke down and started balling.
Rest In Peace Aubrie, we will never forget you and your love remains in us all!

 

[skirrbysgf]

Dear Reef_Magic,
I cannot exactly say i know how you feel but 2 of my friends have died in the past year. Skirrby knew one of them but i knew both. It is so horriable to know that you will never see them again. Im completly sorry for all your pain. And i will pray for her family, and you to stop grieving (sp). I know its hard but give it time.
The first of my two friends (chris mcdonald) was driving drunk from a party one night and a SUV hit the side of his car and he was killed instintly.
The second (Chuck Gross) was driving on 408 (a highway) and went around a corner to fast and ran into the trees and was tossed around in his car until he died.
Skirrby and i go by his cross on the highway every weekend we have only once stoped to give him flowers. I couldnt help but want to cry. Its going to be ok I PROMISE! much love to you and the family.

 

[reef_magic]

thnx so much SGF, it makes me feel so much beter to hear u guys tell me ur stories and know i'm not alone. im sorry for all of your losses as well. i've only lost 2 people i was close to the othe rbeing my grandpa frm cancer. i was only 10 but it hit me hard. i just hate driving by that pole on the way to school:nope:

 

[lovethesea]

the one thing my Dad used to swear me to do was to always call him if I couldn't drive or the person who drove me couldn't drive and "no questions asked". One time that happed and the girlfriend I was with couldn't drive and she insisted...I called my Dad, he came NO QUESTIONS ASKED..as promised. To this day (and I am OLDER than all of you put together almost) I will never forget that, he has never asked and I hope that when I tell my kids that, they trust me. PLease trust SOMEONE in those situations OTHER than the person driving.
p.s. I just lost my dear grandpa this morning

he spoiled me rotten and loved me with every ounce of his being and my 10 year old daughter is crushed she lost her great grandpa. (he spoiled her rotten and loved her dearly too.)

 

[reef_magic]

omg! i am so sorry lovethesea!
i obviuosly know what it's like to lose someone ur so close to. u and you family are in my prayers, believe that! if u dont mind me asking....what happened to him? i lost my granpda to cancer as i said before

damn, cant u just see those beautiful blue eyes (darn B&W yearbook photo) and that bright smile on Aubrie's face.....i almost cry every time i look at my avatar.....i might have to change it soon

 

[lovethesea]

thanks....he was going to be 90 next month. Can't really asked for anything more. Just decided he wanted to go. Really....
his cause of death was natural causes. What a wonderfull full life he had. Got around great, had a little job up until about 1 1/2 years ago, I think he was ready. Nice huh? I think so.
But it does't make it any easier for those left behind.
The one thing you must take from your friends death is that every action has a reaction. 17 years and 4 days is too young to leave this earth, she should have lived to be a grandma (or great great grandma). Very beautiful girl...there are people just like her everyday in the news . Just heart breaking. When my Uncle passed a few years ago, the most thing I remember from his visitation was the visitation of 2 highschool kids that was in the next room. PACKED with other kids greiving the loss of these 2 beautiful kids. They were both intoxicated.
Make it stick with you and your friends and your kids too.
(some day )