opazen:
JW hits all the important points about sexing banggai not bengaii. I spell this correctly for you so you can do a websearch and get real hits, not to correct your spelling.
Bottom line is you really can't tell the --- of these fish, and if you try the group method of sexing make sure any fish which is cowering, hiding, or getting picked on gets removed immediately.
If you want to read more on raising/breeding banggais
<a href="http://www.eparc.com/banggai/banggai.shtml" target="_blank">http://www.eparc.com/banggai/banggai.shtml</a>
frank