Okay, let me give you a totally different perspective on it...
I would agree that it's better to go with a medium or smaller size, mainly due to the territory and aggression established in your tank.
If you're adding an aggressive fish, it's always best to add it last, this allows the other animals to stake out territory and defend it. Having "home turf" reduces the stress for your fish. Adding an aggressive fish last reduces encroachment. Now if you add a smaller aggressive fish, many times as these grow (save triggers and eels) they keep their place in the tank and won't bother other fish, even though they could clearly dominate them.
I added a "large" antennate lion (about 6 inches) and he popcorned my cleaner shrimps and hermits. The small Russell's I added left everyone alone, even as he got bigger. He had learned that he had a place in the tank and since he was being fed regularly, he didn't have to go hunting.
The other thing is, add a caveat to your ordering where you specify they call you and get any approvals for substitutions. I haven't orderd from SWF.com (yet) but the previous service I went through substituted sizes without contacting me ("no need to thank us for the free upgrade", aaaccchhhhhh!). I didn't want a medium or large antennate just for the reasons I listed above, but I got one anyway.
Just my 2 cents.
Okay, 3 cents (I do tend to ramble)