OT Being polite & Respectful

[reefnut]

Ok, does nice guys always finish last?
I was at my 6-year olds B-Day party tonight at Mc Donald's. I ran to the car to get something and on the way in I opened to door and as I walked through I noticed someone behind me so I spun around to catch the door and pulled a ligament in my shoulder.
Now I'm not saying I'm a nice guy but it's polite and respectful to hold the door for someone. The lady I caught the door for didn't even say Thank You.
Makes it kinda hard to be nice when there are people in this world that does not appreciate it.
And the sad thing is I'll catch the door the next time this happens... Hopefully with better results.

 

[rabid frog]

Well im the same way being form the south you are kind of raised to hold the door for people, sorry to hear about your shoulder I guess it is a blessing to sit by the tank and just nurse the urt shoulder. lol

 

[lesa]

Yes Good Guys finish 1st.

 

[thomas712]

Need any saltwater or Epsom salt? I've got plenty of Epsom salt for that shoulder to soak in.
Stay that way, polite that is, we have someone at work who if he sees you coming within 30 feed of a door he just came out of or up to he will hold the door for you, for as long as it takes you to get there. We even have a double door next to a single door on a ajoining wall, I've seen him hold both doors for people during heavy traffic. One of the nicest people I have ever met. NEVER a cuss word or bad thing to say about anyone in his life. He is really freaky, Ive often wondered if this guy could walk on water. This guy doesn't even know he has 5 vacations a year, they have to make him take them. It used to be we earned certain points to which we got some type of cash card worth 5-10 or 25 bucks to shop with. This guy one year for xmas turned a ton of these points in for several hundered bucks worth of cash cards and gave them away to needy children. He has the respect of everyone he works with.
Anyway your selfless act made me think of him.
Stay polite for the same reason that many people are not, because you were brought up that way. My compliments to you and your folks.
Thomas

 

[discusking]

Where I live people are stuck up and dont even care if u opent he door for them..Not even a tnak you Oh well what do u expect.

 

[beth]

Yeah, women can be rude about that....However, guys are not the only ones who hold the door for others. I always do that too. Men always say thank you, and only about 50% of the time will women say thank you. The elderly, men or women, always appreciate it.
Now how about the crowd of people who want to get thru the door and they see you standing there holding it while person after person files thru. No one will take up the task of holding the door! LOL
Now, what gets me are the people in elevadors. I've been standing in front of the door and have had people cut me off so they can get in or out first. LOL Give me a break.

 

[phoenixrising]

I also hold the door for folks and so does my husband. It is not a matter of whether or not someone has the strength to hold the door (such as many of our seasoned citizens) it is the curtesy and kindness of the act that makes the difference. For the record, I ALWAYS smile and say "Thank You" when someone has been gracious enough to hold the door for me.

 

[hairtrigger]

Manners are part of the backbone of society. Perhaps this is why much of the world is going down the tubes.

 

[reefnut]

I'm still wondering how I could pull my shoulder catching a door? I've been sitting behind this computer for to long .
Thanks Thomas, It's really all my parent's doings.
Well I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one. My parents were born and raised in Mississippi, I was born there but pretty much grow up in Wyoming. Through out my school years the teachers thought I was some kind of angle because I always said yes Mame (sp?) no sir. Little did they know that was just a habit because I was certainly no angle.
I lost that habit for several years but regained it in my current job... Dealing with clients and vendor. (we deal with client and vendors from Kansas to Texas and over to California) It amazes me some of the responses I get back. Some people really understand your just being polite, others think your kissing --- and some (the majority up here) think you just called them an old fart.

 

[sammystingray]

I hold the door for everyone without fail. I don't worry that much about a thank you. I would say closer to 80-85 % of people say it. The effort isn't that much, unless you swing around and pull your shoulder, and I get more aggrivated by larger thankless acts. Honestly, opening the door themselves wouldn't have been much harder most of the time.....I agree, it's not about that though.

 

[naturelover]

Being Born in Srilanka I do respect everyone and hold door for everyone, but i had to change that when i was in norway because people in norway don't have manners at all. My wife( from south) visited there and got mobed for saying hello, thank you or even keeping the door open. Since then she stopped doing it for everyone except elderly( I was like that too). But here I do keep up my old culture style again. I Don't expect any thanking either. But most people will thank here( not like norwegians).

 

[fishkiller]

Wanna hear something funny? Ok, I hold the door open for everyone, unless it is some sleaz bag trying to get a close-up of my fiance's butt or her legs. Then I am not only rude, but obvious about it too. I'll just stop walking so they either half to run into me or stop and divert themselves around me. Most of them go around, because that is what most guys do when there is a 6'5, 240 lb dude standing right in front of you, giving you THE STARE.. Then they are like Then I'm like and say excuse you. But the funny thing I was going to mention is that most people that do not say thank you for holding the door for them (which REALLY irks me) Those people are usually northerners. And it's men just as much as women that do it. Now I don't wanna cause another civil war here or anything, but it is just my experience.

 

[elan]

i always hold the door, but usually say your welcome whether or not they say thank you...... usually it gets a lowering of their head response.
but what i really hate, is when i stop my car for someone to cross the road, and they dont even awknowledge it.

 

[phoenixrising]

I'm a northerner and never ever fail to smile and say thanks any time the door is held for me. I incorporate weight training in my exercise program and deal with 1500 pound horses daily so holding my own door is not much effort. The "thank you" is a quick and simple acknowledgement of the grace and good manners demonstrated. Southerners aren't the only folks who can appreciate good old fashioned graciousness!

 

[david s]

Those people are usually northerners. And it's men just as much as women that do it.
I am a northerner and i hold the door till they get real close then try to hit them in the nose with it . If they run or speed up to get in. I stick my foot out.and when all else fails I act like I droped somthing and do a football tackle. ROFL ahh seriously north south people are people. some say thank you and others are sh*t heads and walk by like the world owes them somthing.

 

[fishies]

I think it's great that everyone tries to be curteous. North, south, east, west, there will always be people who aren't as polite. However, as a lady, no matter what, I always strive to be polite and friendly. Granted there are moments where it may be difficult to maintain niceness(stupid bad @#&% drivers,lol), I keep one thing in mind, Karma

 

[aggie05]

I am very thankful to live in the South, and especially to live in College Station. You will never meet a nicer group of people than the students of Texas A&M and the community of College Station. I will always hold the door open for you, no matter how long it takes. And luckily, I almost always get a thanks, even if they know it is going to happen. I guess this keeps me in the nice guy mode, because I have been very down about finishing last a few times. But I don't think I will ever change. I can't get screwed over every time in life, right?

 

[dreeves]

I hold the door for elderly and handicapped...everyone else is open season on the door in the face...if they look like real d*ckheads...I make sure it gets 'em....

 

[azonic]

Beth: The elevator people you mentioned; that is my pet peave. Another thing which really pisses me off is when your in the elevator, going towards your floor, and when it gets there, people start to get onto the elevator before you can get off. THAT is the worst IMO.

 

[brinkdrum]

I wouldn't worry too much. You'll get repaid in the end, I would like to believe. For everything that you do that you think goes unnoticed will get repaid to you when you least expect it.