Popping the question

farsight32

farsight32

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I have been seeing a girl for awhile now. I love her, she loves me....I'll skip the usual romantic tirade.
Anyways, I picked out a ring, and I am trying to think of a great way to propose. She is the kind of girl who wants it to be very special and very memorable, so no fancy restaurant with the ring in her champagne glass (boring). I have decided I need some inspiration.
So anyone out there who is married, going to be married, been married, or thought about getting married, what do you think? I would love to hear what have you seen/heard/done that worked, what hasn't worked (I love those funny stories), or anything else you can contribute. I am kinda nervous about asking for love advice on the internet, but i bet this could be useful, or at least funny.
Help me out here.
 
reefraff

reefraff

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I know someone who bribed the ferris wheel operator to stop the wheel with them at the top for a few minutes while he popped the question. Would have been better if he had know she was kinda scared of heights LOL! But she still said yes.
Last year a friend here in Colorado did the coolest thing. They took a one horse open sleigh ride out in the woods to a lit and heated gazebo where dinner was served and he asked her there.
 
snakeblitz33

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My wife and i were engaged on christmas day. She unwrapped it as a gift and i got down on one knee before she was done opening it. She was very surprised and very happy.
Its not how grandiose you can be, its hoe special you can make the occasion.
 
reefraff

reefraff

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First wife we were kicked back in my room and I asked her what she was doing the rest of her life. Second wife I told her I'd never get married again without living together first. She thought that was a good idea so I said I'd move in in September and if we hadn't killed each other by Christmas we'd set a date.
I am such a romantic.
 
acrylic51

acrylic51

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Originally Posted by reefraff http:///t/393451/popping-the-question#post_3500382
First wife we were kicked back in my room and I asked her what she was doing the rest of her life. Second wife I told her I'd never get married again without living together first. She thought that was a good idea so I said I'd move in in September and if we hadn't killed each other by Christmas we'd set a date.
I am such a romantic.
Kinda how I was Reef.....Told my 2nd wife I didn't want to get married......Was going great till her mom asked me about it and I said to her why buy the cow when I can get the milk for free.....Needless to say I was married 6 months later......
 
snakeblitz33

snakeblitz33

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Eh. Im kind of a romantic. I bring my wife flowers and a card out of the blue every now and then and surprise her with things or events here and there.
Why dont you do it at a big family gathering?
On a vacation?
In a museum?
At her favorite outing?
At her work? At your work? School?
On a holiday (the best because you never forget the date)?
Fortune cookie?
Breakfast in bed? Coffee?
How about where you both first met?
Somewhere something happy happened.
 
reefraff

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Originally Posted by acrylic51 http:///t/393451/popping-the-question#post_3500389
Kinda how I was Reef.....Told my 2nd wife I didn't want to get married......Was going great till her mom asked me about it and I said to her why buy the cow when I can get the milk for free.....Needless to say I was married 6 months later......
LOL! When my wife took me home to meet her parents just after we moved in together we were down in the family room with her mom and dad. Her dad had just refilled my drink and when I sat down she says "Well I'm going to bed". She was up and around the corner headed up stairs before I could say a word. LEFT ME ALONE WITH HER PARENTS!!!!!!!!!!!
So maybe a minute after she went up, with God as my witness these were the exact words her dad says "So, what are your intentions towards my daughter?"
I explained that I had been down the road before and wasn't smart enough to figure it out without living with someone 24/7 for a while first. They bought it.
 
flower

flower

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LOL...I proposed to my husband, I said to him, "I want to get narried" and he said, "me too someday" and I said how about next year on such and such date...and he said "okay". We were married 33 years...He died Nov 1 2010.
As for a good idea...think of what your beloved likes...for example the SW tank, a fellow put a ring in a shell like what I saw on the show tanked....anyway build a theme around the favorite and incorperate it into a proposal.
 
farsight32

farsight32

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First off, I love your choice of diction flower, beloved is one of her favorite words. And Snake seems to be on the right track.
I have two ideas in mind.
Idea 1- We are going on a family ski trip together, and I was gonna do it at the top of the mountain.
Idea 2- She is a middle child, like myself, and she loves to get attention. So i was gonna send her on a scavenger hunt that ends at a big auditorium. Have one of my friends take her in and set her in a crowd of all our friends and family. Then have a movie made with pictures of us throughout the relationship (I have saved them all, and have got shots of us at all of the big moments we have had together). Finish it by sneaking up behind her and proposing. I just figured she would get a kick out of having a crowd, and a movie to always let her relive it.
Am I way off? Too cheesy romantic? As you can see form the details I provided, I have put much more effort into #2.
PS, who says you can't find love advice on a marine aquarium forum.
 
flower

flower

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Originally Posted by farsight32 http:///t/393451/popping-the-question#post_3500554
First off, I love your choice of diction flower, beloved is one of her favorite words. And Snake seems to be on the right track.
I have two ideas in mind.
Idea 1- We are going on a family ski trip together, and I was gonna do it at the top of the mountain.
Idea 2- She is a middle child, like myself, and she loves to get attention. So i was gonna send her on a scavenger hunt that ends at a big auditorium. Have one of my friends take her in and set her in a crowd of all our friends and family. Then have a movie made with pictures of us throughout the relationship (I have saved them all, and have got shots of us at all of the big moments we have had together). Finish it by sneaking up behind her and proposing. I just figured she would get a kick out of having a crowd, and a movie to always let her relive it.
Am I way off? Too cheesy romantic? As you can see form the details I provided, I have put much more effort into #2.
PS, who says you can't find love advice on a marine aquarium forum.
LOL...This site has everything.
#1 could be hard with cold hands and big bulky gloves...I can just see the ring falling to the snow, and the mad rush to figure out right where it fell. Murphy's law in consideration and all.
#2 sounds like a more personal touch...Trying to get the family together without her knowing it...you will need a cover to pull it off...for example an Xmas party or Thanksgiving...some reason for the whole family to get together. Snakes right, it will mean never forgetting the date. The picture thing however kind of sounds like it's more for your 50th anniversary or a memorial at a funeral.
 
reefraff

reefraff

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Originally Posted by farsight32 http:///t/393451/popping-the-question#post_3500554
First off, I love your choice of diction flower, beloved is one of her favorite words. And Snake seems to be on the right track.
I have two ideas in mind.
Idea 1- We are going on a family ski trip together, and I was gonna do it at the top of the mountain.
Idea 2- She is a middle child, like myself, and she loves to get attention. So i was gonna send her on a scavenger hunt that ends at a big auditorium. Have one of my friends take her in and set her in a crowd of all our friends and family. Then have a movie made with pictures of us throughout the relationship (I have saved them all, and have got shots of us at all of the big moments we have had together). Finish it by sneaking up behind her and proposing. I just figured she would get a kick out of having a crowd, and a movie to always let her relive it.
Am I way off? Too cheesy romantic? As you can see form the details I provided, I have put much more effort into #2.
PS, who says you can't find love advice on a marine aquarium forum.
Not bad ideas.
The auditorium thing might be a bit over the top but on a smaller scale might be cool. You need to make sure you are reading her right on the crowd thing. If you want to catch her off guard a New Years or Superbowl party as a cover could be fun too. Especially the superbowl thing if she isn't a big football fan. Hit her with it at half time.
 
farsight32

farsight32

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You guys are spot on. I like the different perspectives. I have heard some good stories that work. Does anyone have some stories of failures? I like to learn form (other people's) mistakes.
Would it bother a girl who hates football to propose during a game? Any feminine opinions? I just feel like she might not appreciate it.
 
flower

flower

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Originally Posted by farsight32 http:///t/393451/popping-the-question#post_3500718
You guys are spot on. I like the different perspectives. I have heard some good stories that work. Does anyone have some stories of failures? I like to learn form (other people's) mistakes.
Would it bother a girl who hates football to propose during a game? Any feminine opinions? I just feel like she might not appreciate it.
Ever hear the term football widow? The men tone us out, and we are not existing. A good wife will laugh it off and understand, she has him the rest of the time. The only time we can talk to them is during half time or a commercial, I can't imagine that being when my beloved decided to pop the question..... when he had a spare second from football. Not to mention since that would be the anniversary of your proposal...and you would ruin every super bowl in the future with a fight with your wife as she is forever reminded of where she fits in on your priority list.
 
morgan175

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I looked at my wife one night and said I want to get married you so when your ready let me know. Three weeks later we were out and she looked at me and said yes I will marry you. I said well then tomorrow go out and pick a ring so I dont get it wrong. 12 years later we still hate each other as much as we did then.
 
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