I have had great success with Pom Pom Xenia pulsing in my tanks. But the other species of xenia (I forget what the are called) NEVER pulse.
You might want to try a different species. I almost killed 3 xenia frags during a 2 hour car ride. The frags were in the corner of the bags being crushed. It took a week, but they are the healthiest things I've ever seen. They pulse like crazy.
It is possible that because my tank was new (2 months old), iodine was low, and nutrients were low, they did not want to pulse. This second time around, tank is 7 months old, they are hyper-pulsers.