someones stalking my girlfiend

[skirrby]

yeah how should we go about dealing with this guy. he constaly comes up to her work before she gets there.. checks her schedule, and shows up intentally on her break and after work... its really starting to bother her.. what can we do short of me beating the @#$% out of him.. which i dont feel like doing jailtime for :nope:
what should we do to get rid of this guy.:help:

 

[nicky1.8t]

call the cops if they dont help than a good ole fashond beating is inhand

 

[clown-lover]

that happened to me when i first started working at the SBC Center (where the Spurs play) and it's a service there for the security to take you on a cart ride to and from your car.
i have to walk a good five or six blocks to get to the entrance and one night the stalker got brave and came up to my car (as i was running to it to get in) and started banging on my window....after that, it's been cart ride city for me

 

[moraym]

contact the place of business, if theyre aware this is happening then they have a legal liability to do something about it, at least attempt to help in the situation.
if that doesn't work, call the 5.0

 

[tangman99]

Definitely call the cops and make sure they provide you with a police report of the incident. Have her keep a detailed record of the occurances. If she feels threatened, you may want to consider a restraining order.
At the least you now have a written account and a police report to verify the activity so if you do have to "stomp a mud hole in his ass and walk it dry", you have some supporting documentation to possibly back you up. It doesn't hurt to have a few planted witnesses that will swear you were just trying to talk to him when he took a swing at you.

 

[fishman830]

there was a stalker on my street just liek 2 weeks ago.. scared the crap out of everyone.. got cought.. but all he got was a slap on the wrist... cop's arn't gonna do much

 

[lovethesea]

is this guy an employee? If not, how is he getting to look at her schedule? If he isn't I would raise holy h@ll with the employer that they are allowing total strangers to view the schedules. She really needs to start letting someone know especially when he is there.

 

[fishkiller]

COPS ARE NOT GOING TO DO A DAMN THING! I can promise you that......... This is a simple one. CONFRONT HIM! Tell him that if he is seen around here, and/or speaks to her again, you will have him arrested AFTER you kick his ass. ANTAGONIZE him, and try to get him to attack you, so that you can a) kick his ass, and b) have him arrested and be able to EASILY file a restraining order against him w/ a police report. Get a concealed weapons permit and a small NICE handgun. Get use to carrying it. This may sound extreme, but it may be necessary. It's your choice. Oh yeah, and contact the manager about the privacy laws which they are violating, allowing him to know her schedule.

 

[polarpooch]

Maybe this is a dumb question, but has she told him to GET LOST? If he's a true psycho it won't do a thing, except get it on record (have her do it in front of friends or coworkers). If he's just got a silly crush, it will get the point across.
If he's truly nuts, she's tried everything she and you can think of---then you need to get the cops invovled. Period. Get everything on the record. At least in Wisconsin, it's the "pattern" of offense that helps a stalking case.
Or, kick his ass. But you could be opening an ugly can of worms if the guy is nuts and decides that YOU are the barrier between him and your girlfriend, and sees you as a threat...bad news.

 

[skirrby]

yeah shes told him to get lost.. and he is employed by the same company(publix) but works at another store. they post everyones schedules by the front of the store for the managers to use.. she told them they shouldnt have them posted there.. now all they do is block out the last name.. dont help when shes the only amanda lol. i agree that cops dont always help alot with some things.. i have a feeling we will contact the cops for documentation just like suggested.

 

[vyperone]

Again, I must agree with Waterfaller. Publix has already had their fair share of lawsuits, they don't need another one for failing to take action against an employee who is clearly sexually harrassing her. The buzzwords/phrases to use skirrby for amanda to her supervisors is "sexual harrassment" "unsafe work environment" "I feel threatened", "I feel he may hurt me", etc. If her supervisors don't do anything I would advise Amanda to start keeping notes of what she said to which supervisors on what dates. Actually whether they do anything or not I would start keeping notes. Judges like factual information with details when handing out judgement awards at trials... Publix has already been inhot water over gender discrimination lawsuits, they don't need anymore trouble. If they fire Amanda, then I would get an attorney....
And for all of you getting down on the cops.... get off of them. Fortunatley ( or in this case unfortunately) the cops can't go around arresting people for things they MIGHT do. And even when they do arrest them its the judges that slap them on the wrist, not the cops. Following Amanda, asking her for a date, showing up at breaks is not against the law, whether she likes it or not.
The best course of action at this point is for Amanda to notify her supervisors, using the buzzwords/phrases I mentioned above. If the actions of this guy starts to progress then it may be neccessary for her to file for a restraining order, which she can do at her local courthouse.
Good luck and be safe.

 

[jkvjl]

First get her a can of mace. Then contact the police and get a restraining order

 

[saltymom]

and a cell phone.

 

[polarpooch]

The buzzwords/phrases to use skirrby for amanda to her supervisors is "sexual harrassment" "unsafe work environment" "I feel threatened", "I feel he may hurt me", etc. If her supervisors don't do anything I would advise Amanda to start keeping notes of what she said to which supervisors on what dates. Actually whether they do anything or not I would start keeping notes. Judges like factual information with details when handing out judgement awards at trials... Publix has already been inhot water over gender discrimination lawsuits, they don't need anymore trouble. If they fire Amanda, then I would get an attorney....
I AGREE. She must let her employer know...and she must keep notes on this nut, whether her supervisors react appropriately or not. Same reason you need to get the cops invovled. Documentation. Documentation. Documentation. Times, dates, phrases, activities. Using the buzzwords is a good idea, too.
She needs some pepper spray, at a minimum.
Poor girl. Like she needs this crap at work.

 

[scotts]

I have to agree with what has been said about the documentation. Granted it is not the fast solution that Fishkiller is looking for, but in the long run it will work out. In fact you might even want to take the documentation one step futher and have her write a letter to ber boss telling what has happened and that as a minimum they should move the schedule. If possible have the boss sign a copy of the letter, but the problem is she does not want to look like a trouble maker who is just looking for a lawsuit.
If they have a personnel department she should tell them about them problem as well. The personnel people are more up to date about work place harrasment problems and will be able to help her. Especially if the guy works for the same company. A definite "Not providing a safe work place environment" situation.
Get a notebook and keep detailed records of what she said including the date and time she talked to anybody.
Scott

 

[phreakemup]

I'm w/ fishkiller.......... I personally wouldnt do it w/ a gun, but rather my bare hands, and a knife in my back pocket for emergency.. Start stalking him, find him one night, and just go for it.. He'll never know, and if he does, say prove it...... Just my .02¢
Phreak

 

[bradttu]

Get a rope

 

[|2ain]

Lets beat this guy's a$$

 

[fishkiller]

LOL!!! HELLZ YEAH!!!!:happy:

 

[fshhub]

IF he is an employee, but at a different location, he has no business there unless he is shopping. and if he isnt buying, then he is loitering(violation of law and is probably posted)... see a manager
whether he works for them or not, she can have a pfa or restraint put on him. and him working for another location makes it soooo much easier, bc he has no busines there
following someone is against the law, esp after being told to cease and desist. that si called stalking and back in 87 or 88 they made that a crime. before that it was just bothersome.
talk to her manager, and if they act like she is being rediculous or uninterested, then(in the same conversation) use the key words and let them know that she is willing to write a formal complaint to the corporate center detailing that conversation..... their uninterest and unwillingness to assist............. as well as her problem with this person harassing her.
If this does not work, then talk to an attorney and write the before mentioned letter. But, I am sure that the little pow wow with her boss should do the trick, esp once they find out she is willing to persue the harrassment avenue and may have a claim. I guarentee they dont want someone going over tehir head esp when it involves sexual harasssment and are accusing them of looking away(to corporate)
all the managaer has to do is talk with this individual and let them know that his peresense is unneccessary and that unless he is shoping and buying he is loitering and making workers feel uncormfortable. and that his future presence needs to require the act of purchasing and not hanging out otherwise he will be asked to leave..... 1 time only............... His actions form tehn on will dictate what should be done. If it works, then great, if not then teh manager should again be informed and it should be out of yours and her hands.... Try that, in fact have the little pow wow together, you the manager and her, or at least another employee(probably better) merely as a witness to the conversation, if you think even a little you wont get any satisfaction. management hates it when you tie their hands by making harrassment accustation in front of witnesses. THEY THEN HAVE TO AT LEAST INVESTIGATE or get caught in it themsleves because ti then becomes an issue they want to settle. and him being an employee makes it sooo much better because they can more easily control it. a customer would be stickier and greyer. but an employee IS a company matter and definitely falls into the sexual harasssment laws.
pepper spray is a great idea. but i would stop there... just having the gun, even though she feels threatened can be a whole new can of worms that may backfire. and it really is not required in this case. so, why risk the hassle(if you lived in texas it would be a different matter).