someones stalking my girlfiend

[kittykitty]

Originally posted by fshhub
IF he is an employee, but at a different location, he has no business there unless he is shopping. and if he isnt buying, then he is loitering(violation of law and is probably posted)... see a manager.......
.........blah blah blah blah.....
Yeah, OR, you could have her get his name and phone number, and make it look like she's all interested, have her invite him to her house, which would actually be YOUR house, and when he shows up at YOUR door with flowers, proceed to beat him to a fine pulp. Yes, violence is the answer.

 

[fishkiller]

HERE HERE!!!!!!

 

[tangman99]

Originally posted by fishkiller
HERE HERE!!!!!!

Damn Fishkiller, you need to go kick someone's ass and get it out of your system.

 

[elitsoh]

letting him know where you live bad idea.....find him alone woop him ....and just say 1 thing stay away from her.....he will know who you are talkin about

 

[rbmount]

The bad thing about a restraining order is, I'ts only as good as the person it's served on--- it ain't worth $__T! I think the butt whoppin would be best served.

 

[fshhub]

do what you want... i can only advise based upon experinces.
beat him, good answer but in 5 or 10 yrs you may regret it.
arrest him, another good answer but a m ajor hassle for months to come.
restrain, not a bad alternative, butcauses resentment and also involves courts.
talk with the mgr. best, IMO short sweet and to the point, and can NOT get you into trouble.
I can tell you that personally.....
Been there DONE that. in all the scenarios listed. And on both sides of the table for almost each and averyone. and now at 36 yrs old(over a decade has passed) I wish that everyo0ne had been handled differently except for the ones that involved the little pow wow. Not to mention the money i spent to correct my mistakes that I made while trying out the other alternatives.
And do not invite him for dinner. ESP if he is a stalker or dangerous. AS well, because you just turned a simple matter, or one with a good ole buttwhopin (and fine) into a major hasle for you and your girlfriend. I cna guarentee you that the legal matters taht you would bring her into would cause her to hate you as well as the money it will cost you BOTH(she will likewise be arrested). PLUS, he will know where she lives, as wel as anyone else he wishes to tell. Not to mentin that some people may say they hate someone but if they get put into the middle of a fight over jealousy, they may swing sides too.
IF you have never been arrested, have the chat with the mgr. You dont want this to be ther first time, not for this. If you have, then make your own decision. But, dont come back whining about the outcome.

 

[fshhub]

Originally posted by waterfaller1
Yeah,then you could have a BIG gun!! Well said fshub!
that is what i meant.
They can have my gun; ....................................

 

[fshhub]

Originally posted by rbmount
The bad thing about a restraining order is, I'ts only as good as the person it's served on--- it ain't worth $__T! I think the butt whoppin would be best served.
i would not wory about his friends, this is not a violent person, seeking vengance or harm. BUt someone with a crush, the last thing he is gonna do is send someone else to flirt with her.

 

[fshhub]

Originally posted by TangMan99
Damn Fishkiller, you need to go kick someone's ass and get it out of your system.

he definitely needs something, but maybe not a fight. Instead maybe peace, extasy and relief. Something that still involves 2 people rolling around on the floor.

 

[jarre]

Some years ago I had to deal with this exact problem. The stalker would follow my ex-wife to work, home from work, call her when I was at night school etc. I called the police and we where told that nothing could be done until he broke the law. Then the officer told me he would personally find a new friend. Mr. Smith or Mr. Wesson.
I personally dislike guns. Accidentally shot someone once at point blank range, just doesn’t do the psyche very well…LOL
This is how I solved the problem. I started stalking the stalker. Once I was able to determine where he was making the phones calls it was time to confront him. So we waited until he called one night and I got into the car and headed to the restaurant he was using to place the calls. Fortunately for me I frequented the place so the employees knew me.
I intentionally made such a stink the entire place heard everything I said and watched knowing there was going to be a fight. This gave me witnesses that he was present. I then informed him my phone had been tapped and I could now prove he was at the location where the call had been made. Couple that with the voice print from the message machine we used to record the phone calls and the photos I had of him stalking and I would have him in jail very fast if he didn’t stop.
That was all it took, he stopped and the problem was solved. Of course, we didn’t have any photos or recordings, but he didn’t know that!!

 

[fishkiller]

LOL!!! fshhub- You could not make a more accurate statement! I other brain needs to unwind everyday as well. And, YES there are 2 brains. Wasn't there a dinosaur that had a seperate brain in its tail? That's like us guys. Only dif is that the tail is on the other side. I like whoopin ass when it's called for, and I know I'll be in the clear when the boys in blue show up. THAT is what I'm very careful about, not getting arrested. That's why it is so crucial to let THEM attack YOU, so that YOU are the victim. After the 1st blow (landed or not), start returning fire as hard and as fast as possible. I'm a very peaceful person, believe it or not. I use every opportunity to chill and unwind, but these days do not always allow time for that. I at least try to fit some noogie (the other activity that invlolves rolling around on the floor w/ a person, just not a male person), and the screams are are different too!! Sorry, that's about as x-rated as I'm getting here. Just b/c I enjoy the opportunity to beat some booty (I do kickboxing as well) doesn't mean I'm a bad guy. I'm just a 6'5 white boy w/ A LOT of aggression that needs to be purged from time to time. :nervous:

 

[innsmouth]

The thing is with the beatdown theory is that you assume he CAN beat the guy down. Maybe the dude is sick with his hands, ya never know. You can't underestimate ANYone and the last person I would underestimate is some freak stalking my old lady. Chances are he's done this before so he's dealt with angry dudes in the past. He probably can't help himself. Best way to go about it I think is just have her talk to the guy, be down to earth with him. If that doesn't work and the police are no help then you might have to threaten him but be careful. Just because the guy is mental doesn't mean he won't bust you up.

 

[purity]

good point inns. in my experience, if they push and you shove then they'll punch. why play the game? why take the pawn when you can checkmate the king?

 

[tangman99]

Having them throw the first punch in front of witnesses is smart, but you have to ready for it and anticipate it happening. Don't believe all the Hollywood fighting glamour where guys trade punches back and forth until the rightous one is victorious.
Many year ago when I was in Law Enforcement, I was a self defense instructor that taught FBI self defense techniques. One vital stastic that most people find out the hard way is that in 75% of all fights are won by the person that throws the first punch.