snakeblitz33
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Alright. Thank you for all of the advice everyone. It has really helped me think straight. Thank you.
A dilemma
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slice
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12 years from now, when you are standing in a stream teaching your child to fish, none of this will matter.
Chill.
Besides, have you ever spent 6 months without sleep? You will. There may be a time when your mother-in-law may become your BFF.
Consider this an investment for those times in the first 3 years you want to have a quiet dinner or weekend retreat with the wife.
Turn this around to your advantage.
Chill.
Besides, have you ever spent 6 months without sleep? You will. There may be a time when your mother-in-law may become your BFF.
Consider this an investment for those times in the first 3 years you want to have a quiet dinner or weekend retreat with the wife.
Turn this around to your advantage.
snakeblitz33
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Agreed, Slice.
I'll make it work. We talked it out this morning. I think it's all going to be alright.
And you're right - a couple years from now it won't even matter.
Yes, I have spent around a year with insomnia, sleeping two to three hours a night at max. Stress, things going on, business, financial troubles etc. So yeah, I can say I know what it's like. Just minus the baby.
Due March 13th, 2012. Four days from my b-day! lol
I'll make it work. We talked it out this morning. I think it's all going to be alright.
And you're right - a couple years from now it won't even matter.
Yes, I have spent around a year with insomnia, sleeping two to three hours a night at max. Stress, things going on, business, financial troubles etc. So yeah, I can say I know what it's like. Just minus the baby.
Due March 13th, 2012. Four days from my b-day! lol
stdreb27
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Originally Posted by SnakeBlitz33 http:///t/387429/a-dilemma#post_3408954
Besides - can anyone just agree with me for once?!?!
lol, I believe THE BEST time to bring this up, is right there and then... Let your anger boil over, while she's in labor...
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Originally Posted by SnakeBlitz33 http:///t/387429/a-dilemma#post_3408987
And "being cut out of it" is just a feeling that I have - not because it has ever happened before.
But seriously, you have a problem with your wife's mom being in the room, when you have Jr? Dude, well, first of all, you'll NEVER win that argument, it will turn out to be you're wanting to keep my mom from one of the happiest moments of the life.
2, woman eat baby-ness up. Showers, baby clothes, this and that, room decorating. And imo you're way out in left field as far as it bothering you, isn't it that big of a deal. There is no equation between your mother-in-law in the bedroom and her in the delivery room. There is no way in the world, being in the bedroom should work (unless your mo-in-law is Heather Locklear, did I just say that lol), but people are in the delivery room all the time... Hell, people bring in video cameras, (weirdos). Second, her not asking, is no big deal either, because most people have their mom's sister's best friend in the room, unless you've already let her know, and she blatently ignored you, that you think there should be a guest list, I wouldn't get mad, because well, it is out in left field...
Originally Posted by SnakeBlitz33 http:///t/387429/a-dilemma#post_3408954
Besides - can anyone just agree with me for once?!?!
lol, I believe THE BEST time to bring this up, is right there and then... Let your anger boil over, while she's in labor...
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Originally Posted by SnakeBlitz33 http:///t/387429/a-dilemma#post_3408987
And "being cut out of it" is just a feeling that I have - not because it has ever happened before.
But seriously, you have a problem with your wife's mom being in the room, when you have Jr? Dude, well, first of all, you'll NEVER win that argument, it will turn out to be you're wanting to keep my mom from one of the happiest moments of the life.
2, woman eat baby-ness up. Showers, baby clothes, this and that, room decorating. And imo you're way out in left field as far as it bothering you, isn't it that big of a deal. There is no equation between your mother-in-law in the bedroom and her in the delivery room. There is no way in the world, being in the bedroom should work (unless your mo-in-law is Heather Locklear, did I just say that lol), but people are in the delivery room all the time... Hell, people bring in video cameras, (weirdos). Second, her not asking, is no big deal either, because most people have their mom's sister's best friend in the room, unless you've already let her know, and she blatently ignored you, that you think there should be a guest list, I wouldn't get mad, because well, it is out in left field...
flower
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You put stuff on the site to see what opinions will be so......I didn't read through every post, just a few. Having a baby, that 1st or 3rd...everytime it is a scarey thing. You do really feel like you are going to die. You push it to the back of your head...but it's there in the bad dreams, then switch up and worry baby will be fine...feeling horrible sick and fat...9 months of misery and at least 12 hours of labor (horrible crushing pain) if all goes smooth.
With all that going on, you want to fight about who is in the room. Really???
I cast my vote for whoever and whatever makes MOM happy while she suffers to give you a little bundle of joy to hold. I TOLD MY HUSBAND TO GET OUT OF THE ROOM COMPLETELY. We were married 34 years...raised all three children. You have no idea how much she will hate you at that "magical" moment
With all that going on, you want to fight about who is in the room. Really???
I cast my vote for whoever and whatever makes MOM happy while she suffers to give you a little bundle of joy to hold. I TOLD MY HUSBAND TO GET OUT OF THE ROOM COMPLETELY. We were married 34 years...raised all three children. You have no idea how much she will hate you at that "magical" moment
snakeblitz33
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Lol, Flower,
We talked it out this morning and I agreed to let her in. After what Meowzer said yesterday - it made a lot of sense. I don't want my wife to resent me for it, so I agreed. Before I could tell my wife any conditions of her mom being in the room, she told me what her conditions were for it - and infact it matched what I was going to say. We're on the same page now, so it's all good. It will all work out. I guess I was just a little ticked off that my wife didn't ask me first about it.
We talked it out this morning and I agreed to let her in. After what Meowzer said yesterday - it made a lot of sense. I don't want my wife to resent me for it, so I agreed. Before I could tell my wife any conditions of her mom being in the room, she told me what her conditions were for it - and infact it matched what I was going to say. We're on the same page now, so it's all good. It will all work out. I guess I was just a little ticked off that my wife didn't ask me first about it.
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siptang
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Snake - If you are this adamant about it, talk to your mother in law about it and try to do it without hurting your wife.
As an older individual i think she can help you avoid anything terrible with the Mrs.
As an older individual i think she can help you avoid anything terrible with the Mrs.
deejeff442
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i say let her in there.then when the terrible two's hit you can remind mom that you let her watch so now you can babysit on date night.is this her first grandchild?
i dont have any kids but if i did i would let the whole family in if they wanted :O)
congrats
i dont have any kids but if i did i would let the whole family in if they wanted :O)
congrats
darthtang aw
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Trust me...you will be glad when she is in there. When your wife is screaming to just cut out this demon spawn the idiot just* &=%$# staring at me placed inside me.......it will give you some respite when she starts yelling at her mom about past trangressions as well.
Darth (always have a distraction) Tang
Darth (always have a distraction) Tang
teresaq
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ok, I read most of this, and having just watched my cousin go thru three days of labor, her husband was more then happy to have his mother and her mother and father there to comfort her and hold her hand. only the two mothers were going to be in the room for actual delivery, but he was happy to have their support.
after two days of meds and light labor and 12 hrs of hard back breaking pain, she had to have a c section and only her husband was there for the birth of their son but he would have welcomed the mothers too.
Seeing your wife in sooo much pain will effect you.
after two days of meds and light labor and 12 hrs of hard back breaking pain, she had to have a c section and only her husband was there for the birth of their son but he would have welcomed the mothers too.
Seeing your wife in sooo much pain will effect you.
kiefers
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Originally Posted by Darthtang AW http:///t/387429/a-dilemma/20#post_3409319
Trust me...you will be glad when she is in there. When your wife is screaming to just cut out this demon spawn the idiot just* &=%$# staring at me placed inside me.......it will give you some respite when she starts yelling at her mom about past trangressions as well.
Darth (always have a distraction) Tang
woooooowww. Flash backs!!!!! Great point!! Been there done that, not doing it again. Once is enough for me. will continue to buy Dane puppies!!!!
Originally Posted by Darthtang AW http:///t/387429/a-dilemma/20#post_3409319
Trust me...you will be glad when she is in there. When your wife is screaming to just cut out this demon spawn the idiot just* &=%$# staring at me placed inside me.......it will give you some respite when she starts yelling at her mom about past trangressions as well.
Darth (always have a distraction) Tang
woooooowww. Flash backs!!!!! Great point!! Been there done that, not doing it again. Once is enough for me. will continue to buy Dane puppies!!!!