Alone for the holidays.

windmill

windmill

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Just figured I'd whine a bit. Hey, i'm bored at work and still have a day tomorrow.
I'll be spending my X-mas by myself. It's not like I didn't try to find something to do or someone to hang out with. I just don't know many people. It's all good though, I have everything I want....well except for one thing. I'll get to hang out bein lazy, don't have to do any shopping for anyone so I can be happy about that.
I saw a funny article on the MSN homepage about a woman who was happy to be single during the holidays. She complained that her visions and fantasies of doing holiday stuff with some hot-bodied boyfriend were far from what actually happened. She tried to convince readers that those who are single get to hang out at the mall longer, not spend money on a lover, don't have to worry about going to a different family. It made me kinda bitter. Made me a little less respectfull of certain women. She drew a picture of how she wanted to walk arm in arm with her man through a tree farm and find the exact wonderfull gleaming tree, cut it down together, put it up together and then sit in front of a crackling fire cuddling. Then reality is different, she picks a man that wants nothing to do with a tree farm, not much to do with decorating it, and doesn't have a fireplace. It's not her fault she had crappy taste and a distorted perception of a quality man.....it's all the man's fault for not reading her mind and assuming the role of that fantasy dude. It's not like she could've actually tried to find out what she was getting herself into, ask some questions, have a little insight. She couldn't tell him what she wanted and ended up disliking him because of it.
Anyways, that kinda stuff makes annoys the hell outta me as you can probably tell. So i'll quit ranting and quit typing too.
 
demartini

demartini

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Have a merry christmas! I would get you a gift if you lived near me...a christmas tree rock!!! I love those.
 
mimzy

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windmill, im confused about which part of this whole thing irritated you - was it that she was happy to be alone on x-mas? or was it b/c she was so ademant that the "perfect" holiday was impossible, ignoring the fact that it just might be her own bad choice in partners that ruined her fantasy?
 
sharkboy13

sharkboy13

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ur lucky, i got $150 from selling all the stuff out of my 35hex and i lew all of it plus $30 out of my bank account on gifts..
 
aw2x3

aw2x3

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Hey, windmill...you're not alone. I'm spending the holidays alone too.
One of my best friends, from Chicago, had to go back to Australia (family emergency), with his wife and needed someone to watch his 9 salt tanks. I'm really the only one he trusts to take care of them, so he begged me to drive the 5 hours to Chicago and house sit. My parents werent too happy about it, but he's a friend I'd do anything for, so I came.
I still have MANY friends, here in Chicago, from when I lived here but they're all going home (most out of state), to be with family.
So...dont feel so bad...you're not the only one.
 
aw2x3

aw2x3

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Originally Posted by coachKLM
try spending christmas in iraq (it sucked)

I hear ya, coach...I did it 4 times...sucked BIG TIME.
 
ginarox

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Merry Christmas.........have A Great Night....i Am Off The Internet For A Few Days.....enjoy Your Holidays....
 
aw2x3

aw2x3

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Originally Posted by coachKLM
so you should be used to it by now
...stop ya whinning ...lol


LOL! I'm actually not whining about it. I was kinda glad, to tell you the truth. My family cant get together without fighting...somone is always pissed at someone else, or at something that someone supposedly did. So, a holiday without the family fighting was actually not sounding so bad. Dont get me wrong...I love my family to death, but after only 5 minutes with them, I'm ready to get drunk and not listen to what anyone has to say.
 
windmill

windmill

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I have a non-traditional view of Christmas. I don't want anything from anyone because I have everything I need and the majority of stuff I want. Christmas should be about those that don't have what they need and very little, if anything they want. I'll never spend another cent on jewelry or perfume for women, beer or tools or guns for men. All the money I'd usually spend on X-mas gets invested in small, usefull toys donated to Toys for Tots and Sponsor a Family.
I remember this one x-mas when I was pretty young; my brother was in jail after my mom pressed charges on him for borrowing her bank card and stealing several hundred dollars out of her account. As you can imagine, it was a terrible Christmas. I remember very clearly the tiny (maybe 18") fake tree on our coffee table, the stocking stuffed with toothpaste, toothbrushes, socks, underwear and a few 25 cent packs of gum. And the single actual present I got. Even though it was a 10 dollar Lego motorcycle I loved it immensely and played with it for many, many months.
Anyways, Christmas should be about being thankfull for what you have, helping those that don't have much, and making children happy. Not about corporations encouraging every consumer to spend their last hard-earned dollar on some useless crap somebody doesn't need. I don't participate in that Christmas anymore.
I get kinda bitter around the holidays if you can't tell. But things were never all that good for me. So when I see people driving their brand new SUV's spending hundreds, if not thousands of dollars on electronics and jewelry and crap nobody really needs, I can't help but get a little agitated.
And to Mimzy; a bit of both. The fact she was happy because she didn't have to deal with the wrong man during the holidays was irritating enough, but the idea that the holidays are less joyfull when you are with someone special was what really threw me for a loop. She's probably that typical type of woman who wants the perfect man but would kick that perfect man to the curb when she saw him because his hair was messy or his car wasn't shiney enough.
 
beth

beth

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Originally Posted by AW2x3
Hey, windmill...you're not alone. I'm spending the holidays alone too.
One of my best friends, from Chicago, had to go back to Australia (family emergency), with his wife and needed someone to watch his 9 salt tanks. I'm really the only one he trusts to take care of them, so he begged me to drive the 5 hours to Chicago and house sit. My parents werent too happy about it, but he's a friend I'd do anything for, so I came.
Does anyone see the "true meaning of Christmas" in this? I do. Good for you AW. And, on a side note....there are worse things then spending Christmas with loads of tanks.
 
beth

beth

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Originally Posted by Squidd
Yep...This is why I don't aspire to be the "perfect man"....

Susan and I can vouch for that.

jk ;)
 
squidd

squidd

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Originally Posted by Beth
Originally Posted by Squidd
Yep...This is why I don't aspire to be the "perfect man"....
Susan and I can vouch for that.

jk ;)
See...It's working...
 
poniegirl

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Happy holidays Windmill, and take heart..your "non-traditional" view of this holiday is very warming.
For years we tried to make the "perfect" trip to get the tree. Tree farms, trips to the mountains and cutting a poor defensless tree, EXPENSIVE tree lots...always ended badly, couldn't agree on a tree, tired, hungry, endless icky stuff!
This year, my 12 yr old and I were grocery shopping (without the one who is, on occasion, the perfect man) pulled into Rite Aid (a drug store, for heavens sake) and bought the 5th tree we saw! Painless, quick and cheap! Perfect. We were all happy. Mr Mostly Perfect didn't have to go and I think he was happiest!
I find that sometimes perfection seeks us out, we just need to be willing to pull into that parking space and give it a try.
 
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