Any advice would be helpfull

dlauber

Member
So there is this girl I see walking down the halls that I like, but shes not like other girls. Honestly shes not the kind you would see guys drooling over, but something about her gives me the butterflys when I see her.
One problem right off the bat is im a junior and shes a freshman...It kindof doesnt bother me too much, I am in a very small school so grades arent really seperated...and who knows we could only be about a year of age apart.
Another problem...I only see her walking down the halls. I dont have any classes (well...lunch, and we are aloud to sit wherever, so that could be important) with her nor have I ever even talked to her, the only thing I know is that she likes older music, like 'the ramones' and 'guns n roses'...the same kindof stuff I like.
I am not a stalker, its just a few things I noticed, like the ramones hoody I sometimes see her wair, and I heard her mentioned something about Axl Rose, I dont know exactly since I AM NOT A STALKER...I dont follow her around...seriously, thats freaky...I would never
Now Ive never been very good with the fairer gender. As ashamed as I am to admit it, ive only been with a girl once to a school dance...last year as a matter of fact, but thats someone I had known for 3 years. Now I am in a new school and dont have 3 years to fool around like I did before. (Oh ya, and the school dance thing didnt go to well...)
It just doesnt seem like Ill ever get a chance
Sorry for all you guys who dont want to hear about my pathetic problems, but I figured there could possibly be a couple females here who could maybe help me out. ^_^
 

miaheatlvr

Active Member
The only thing i regret about high school are the chances or opportunities I didnt take. I know it sounds 1 million times easier said than done, but try to take any opportunity to talk to her then you will find out for sure her feelings about you rather than living your adolescent life wondering what could have been.
 

dlauber

Member
I already have about a billion of those 'what couldve been' feelings...I think I need to stop ....doing nothing...
 

jmick

Active Member
Ok, as an upper classman it's ok for you to date a freshman--it goes with the territory. I agree with Heat, take some chances now or you will regret it! Everyone is nervous when approaching someone they have a crush on and chances are she will be just as nervous. You only live once so make the most of it!
 

sepulatian

Moderator
It has nothing to do with what grade you are in or if you are a year older.......You will laugh at the concept of a year when you are out of school. If you like her then go talk to her. You don't have to go ask her out, if you are not comfortable doing so. Go talk to her, find a reason to. If she drops something then pick it up for her and say hi. Make eye contact and go from there.
 

crashbandicoot

Active Member
Dont even worry about asking her out . Just go and make some small talk with her . If you go running up and say hey will you go out with me on friday shes gonna think your a STALKER. so just make some chit chat . My girlfriend and I started out as just friends talking about stupid stuff .
 

ice4ice

Active Member
Originally Posted by Crashbandicoot
http:///forum/post/2462217
Dont even worry about asking her out . Just go and make some small talk with her . If you go running up and say hey will you go out with me on friday shes gonna think your a STALKER. so just make some chit chat . My girlfriend and I started out as just friends talking about stupid stuff .
Good advice here .. though he beat me to it ... LOL !!!
 

kerriann

Member
do you/can you have any mutual friends in common?? i've always found it less threatening (esp. back in the HS days) when i met a guy through a friend. any after school activities she might participate in?? next time you see her in the hall start small - try smiling at her. she's probably more afraid of you if she's just a freshman...
 

perfectdark

Active Member
Just for the love of god, if she does smile back dont throw up from anxiety. Im telling you that will ruin the whole thing... LOL
Jk jk.. I know what its like... although its been years since high school for me, I can say with certainty the chances you let slip by now you will wish you hadnt years later. Take a chance talk to her, the worse thing that can happen is she isnt interested or she says no. And heck even out of all that you still have gained experience....
 

shinobi9119

Active Member
Originally Posted by Dlauber
http:///forum/post/2464442
Anyone think getting her to listen to the patridge family's "I think I love you" a little too much?

lol. im in hs too, i agree with everyone, just talking to get to know each other is a good place to start. I have friends at every grade level now. (im in 10th grade).
good luck!!!
 

luvmybizz

Member
if it makes you feel any better my i have like 3 friends that are juniors and they are dating freshies. Don't worry about it, just have fun in school and don't worry about what is cool or wat other people say. If you are one of those people that try to stay in the "cool" group and don't do wat your heart tells you to do, then you will be miserable the rest of your life and will be abiding by wat they think and THEIR rules!
 

dlauber

Member
....thats kindof alot different
Just be carefull, you could get into alot of trouble like that, or whoever your dating could
and anyways, I dont care what the other poeple think. I know what I want to do but I just cant get myself to talk to her, it just never seems like its the right place or time, theres no time in the hallways, and I cant just go sit at her table in lunch, its always over crowded... and I usually go to the library instead of lunch
Even if I did talk to her, I dont have my liscence, and I live 7 miles away from town.
... and a few more times
 

clown boy

Active Member
I would give my advice on this...
...but some of you old-timers to this forum already know what it would be... and besides, I don't think it would be accepted very well...
If you really want to hear it, though, just ask...
 

kerriann

Member
wow that sounds like a lot of excuses to me! i dunno, i usually don't let distractions stop me from getting what i want... while i know it's a bold step to just walk up to a stranger - ESPECIALLY in HS - that bold step is going to teach you one of two lessons: you try and succeed, you learn that you're missing out on a lot of great opportunities by not taking the step forward and trying or you try and she blows you off, you learn a great lesson in accepting "no". nobody likes this, but the sooner you get used to "no's" in your life the sooner you're going to lose that fear of trying. honestly, what's the worst that could POSSIBLY happen if you try to make small talk with this girl?? little humiliation that'll last all of 10 minutes because down the hall somebody else is doing some bonehead move that will distract everyone
 

renogaw

Active Member
Originally Posted by Airforceman
http:///forum/post/2466078
Yeah kind of the opposite but i'm dating a 19 year old and i'm 16


that's dangerous territory... especially with all the news out there of the older person eventually being considered a s-ex offender for "raping" a minor even though it was consentual...
best advise so far was don't throw up... LOL that made me laugh.
and CB, no one wants to know your advise... :p
 

renogaw

Active Member
Originally Posted by Dlauber
http:///forum/post/2462004
the only thing I know is that she likes older music, like 'the ramones' and 'guns n roses'...the same kindof stuff I like.

hmm, this offends me... Older music???
btw, i have a "use your illusion" tour tshirt if you want me to ups it to you... might be a great way to break the ice...
 

dlauber

Member
Originally Posted by renogaw
http:///forum/post/2466544
hmm, this offends me... Older music???
btw, i have a "use your illusion" tour tshirt if you want me to ups it to you... might be a great way to break the ice...
=D
I dont mean older music in a bad way...
and to that other guy, send me your advice in a message if you dont fell like posting it =)
 

renogaw

Active Member
Originally Posted by Dlauber
http:///forum/post/2466584
=D
I dont mean older music in a bad way...
and to that other guy, send me your advice in a message if you dont fell like posting it =)
clownboy's advise will be don't date anyone until you've found the woman you're going to marry, either by church or parent's setting you up.
as for "older music" :p G&R was just on the radio, and they are doing an album (yea right...) and are getting back to gether (yea right...)
that's some good music!
 
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