At what point is it inappropriate for your child to see you n-a-k-e-d?

[mimzy]

Originally Posted by Tizzo
http:///forum/post/2667200
my kids got to an age where they didn't want me seeing them. I knew then was the time they no longer needed to see me.
my daughter will be 5 in aug and she no longer wants dads help in the bathroom, and no longer wants him to see her in the shower. I'm ok still but not dad. Exact opposite was true for my son. He didn't want me seeing him around 3, grampa and uncle ok, not me.
so that's when I think you stop letting them see you.

 

[fats71]

Originally Posted by EL GUAPO
http:///forum/post/2667071
When the oldest got to the point where she started asking questions about everything under the sun was when it was nolonger ok . She has been going thru a stage where she is just barging in to rooms . At her moms house that excepted but at mine its a no go . So here we have to lock bedroom and bathroom doors .

My boy is 8.I still strip down from the pool in the sun room as to not track thru the house toss a towel around me as does he and never says a word.
At 3 he made the comment "daddy has a big one".
He asked questions we explained boys are different than girls very simple he never asked again and never seems to care either way.
My wife is a psych therapist and has been published and her and I's belife is hide it they will always' be curious act as if it is nothing and they never care.
It has worked very well for us with this being my actual grandson and us having 5 others upto age 30.
I guess we are not a modest family if thats what you wanna call it.
My wife however changes out of site.

 

[crimzy]

Originally Posted by Fats71
http:///forum/post/2671610
My boy is 8.I still strip down from the pool in the sun room as to not track thru the house toss a towel around me as does he and never says a word.
At 3 he made the comment "daddy has a big one".
He asked questions we explained boys are different than girls very simple he never asked again and never seems to care either way.
My wife is a psych therapist and has been published and her and I's belife is hide it they will always' be curious act as if it is nothing and they never care.
It has worked very well for us with this being my actual grandson and us having 5 others upto age 30.
I guess we are not a modest family if thats what you wanna call it.
My wife however changes out of site.
Would you feel different if you were dealing with a little girl as opposed to a little boy?

 

[fats71]

Originally Posted by crimzy
http:///forum/post/2671623
Would you feel different if you were dealing with a little girl as opposed to a little boy?

My kids are 30 oldest female she passed 6 years ago however, 18 female, 17 male, 12 female, 8 he is grandson and son of my oldest daughter.
I do not think it is appropriate for the opposite --- after about 4 to 5. With that said If my daughter walked in at 10 and I was

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I would turn around and not make a large deal of it to keep her from making a huge deal out of it.
My oldest waited till she was 21 to get married and it was her first time. My 18 year old focuses on school and is still a virgin. and so down the line.
My daughter was top of her class voted most likely to succeed and homecoming queen blah blah blah so she is not unliked by the males she just is'nt all caught up in it and she says it is because we were so open.
We always' discussed things openly with them and were always honest other than me telling them they got preg-o if they french kissed but they just all laughed lol.
Anyway, I honestly have no problem with being

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I came in that way and I will be leaving that way. Working as a medic I guess I just do not think much of it and do not lust after people as some whom never saw someone

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before...

 

[stdreb27]

Originally Posted by crimzy
http:///forum/post/2671623
Would you feel different if you were dealing with a little girl as opposed to a little boy?
Same --- wouldn't bother me at all once they got a little older, it isn't as if once they get into sports in jr high and high school they aren't going to be in a lockerroom type situation anyway.
There is no way I'm having band geeks.
Now me wandering around my house

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. Will probably have to curtail that when they get out of diapers.

 

[el guapo]

Originally Posted by stdreb27
http:///forum/post/2671999
Same --- wouldn't bother me at all once they got a little older, it isn't as if once they get into sports in jr high and high school they aren't going to be in a lockerroom type situation anyway.
There is no way I'm having band geeks.
Now me wandering around my house

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. Will probably have to curtail that when they get out of diapers.

 

[nina&noah]

Originally Posted by stdreb27
http:///forum/post/2671999
Same --- wouldn't bother me at all once they got a little older, it isn't as if once they get into sports in jr high and high school they aren't going to be in a lockerroom type situation anyway.
There is no way I'm having band geeks.
Now me wandering around my house

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. Will probably have to curtail that when they get out of diapers.
Just for the band geek comment, now your going to have science club nerds!!

Band geeks unite!!!!

I have a boy, so it's different. However it is still the opposite s e x. I plan to b r e a s t feed until he is 2, maybe longer, so he is going to be seeing me for a while. I don't know at what age I will stop getting dressed in front of him. I guess when it gets akward.

 

[spiderwoman]

I think your cultural upbringing will have a lot to do with this. Like I said earlier, I come from a *freer* cultural background and I don't have a problem with n.u.d.i.t.y and it doesn't mean that I'm a freak either

 

[fats71]

Originally Posted by SpiderWoman
http:///forum/post/2672048
I think your cultural upbringing will have a lot to do with this. Like I said earlier, I come from a *freer* cultural background and I don't have a problem with n.u.d.i.t.y and it doesn't mean that I'm a freak either

+1
Think of it like this. My son is 8 owns and has saved money to purchase his own hunting rifles. He knows where they are kept ( in safes) but has been told to get one and bring it to me " I also watch though just because i'm his dad and I want to see my boy do the right thing and know he will"
He has always' had access to them gone to the ranges been hunting every bow season and everyday of rifle, primitive etc for deer season the past 4 years. He was not allowed to hunt however until this past year but observed watched listened took everything in and actually subscribes to buckmasters mag reads the tips of the week and also is into several other hunting things DVDS. Hunting games via the net. I mean the kid actually stalked a deer for three days in a game passing up huge deer ( in game) to take the one that he had been watching. Ok with this said. Now take your child coming to my home and knowing we have guns. What is he going to beg my kid to do ? SHOW ME SHOW ME I wanna see it. Lets play with them blah blah blah.
Keeping my son in the know teaching him what is right and wrong I feel was and is the key with all things. My son could care less if someone begs to see them he is strong in his convictions even at age 8 and I feel that carries over to something as silly as n.udity.
Tell a kid they can;t do something hide it from them and they will at the very first oppertunity jump on the band wagon to see or do it IMHO and the Opinions of most of the mental health peeps in the biz.
I am not saying flaunt yourself to a child but do not make it a huge deal and they will not either.
within reason by the way and not with other peoples kids for the love of GOD. Kids of the opposite --- their is a age limit where you alot for privacy for them more than for you.

 

[stdreb27]

Originally Posted by nina&noah
http:///forum/post/2672046
Just for the band geek comment, now your going to have science club nerds!!

Band geeks unite!!!!

I have a boy, so it's different. However it is still the opposite s e x. I plan to b r e a s t feed until he is 2, maybe longer, so he is going to be seeing me for a while. I don't know at what age I will stop getting dressed in front of him. I guess when it gets akward.

Don't worry I married a band geek.

 

[nwdyr]

wow....gotta tell ya , my family never walked around

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. Like NOBODY ....like EVER..... ALL THIS N-A-K-E-D around kids stuff is just a little too weird for me

having said that we also grew up without any bad effects from not seeing MOM and DAD ..... yikes!!! It's just a pic I don't find necessary to paint for my kid. Could there possibly be a "good reason" for this???? trust me , not any "prudes" in the family ,but .....ewwwwwww

 

[fats71]

Originally Posted by nwdyr
http:///forum/post/2672639
wow....gotta tell ya , my family never walked around

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. Like NOBODY ....like EVER..... ALL THIS N-A-K-E-D around kids stuff is just a little too weird for me

having said that we also grew up without any bad effects from not seeing MOM and DAD ..... yikes!!! It's just a pic I don't find necessary to paint for my kid. Could there possibly be a "good reason" for this???? trust me , not any "prudes" in the family ,but .....ewwwwwww
Well, it is not like a everyday occurance and we shut doors to use the bathroom etc and dress in our own rooms but if he walked in and i was changing I would not run behind the bed screaming get out and freak out.