bad news

[jennythebugg]

they scheduled the surgery for yesterday(monday) but the anesthesiologist said he wouldnt do it because tobin did not have good blood levels so they kept him on the i.v. and did the surgery today what was supposed to be an hour and a half stretched into 2 then four then 5 hours when the surgeon came out he said that the tumor was more involved than the cat scan showed and they removed his spleen his left kidney, part of his colon and part of his liver and had to 'scrape' it off of his diaphram .the doc said they would call us when he got out of recovery but the doc was back in about 20 minutes later and said that he was bleeding internally so they would have to go back in and repair it that took another couple of hours. he is in icu right now and they had to put an iv in his groin and a 'pic line' in his chest opposite his portocathe when he started to come out of it he fought and pulled out his breathing tube so they had to re-do that and since his blood pressure is so low they cant give him anything for pain right now so they gave him some more of the stuff to paralyze him and tied his arms to the bed
i dont know what more i can say except that its touch and go right now at this point and please pray for him...jenny

 

[socal57che]

done
I only know you guys from what you type and I feel like you are family. I know people say this all the time, but if there is anything I can do for you please let me know. Tell him we're thinking of him and praying for him even if you think he can't hear you.
Sincerely
Phil

 

[reefkprz]

damn.
my best wishes are with you and tobin.

 

[jennythebugg]

thank you . i don't know what to do besides sit around and cry right now they won't let me in there me and my mom tried to go back after the pic got put in and the nurse said that he doesnt need any stimulation right now because when we talk to him he starts to thrash .theres tears running out of his eyes and im so scared ,ive never seen him cry

 

[socal57che]

There's nothing wrong with crying so if you feel like crying let it out. It's a natural response that really helps. God made us that way.

 

[jennythebugg]

To top it all off the surgeon won't tell me anything directly because i am not his wife its frustrating i am the only person that has been there with him since the beginning of his cancer im the one that takes care of him gives him his meds cleans him up feeds him dresses him , i bust my butt working and taking care of him 3 kids the house - everything .his dad was at the hospital maybe 20 minutes and they live right down the street from it they almost never visit him when he is in there and if they do they are never there more than 20 or 30 minutes .i have to drive from the next town over and i was there all day until a little while ago when they told me we couldnt go back anymore till they got him stabilized which would likely be in the morning im worried , angry and tired

 

[1journeyman]

Praying for you both.
Crying and praying can go hand in hand Jenny. Nothing wrong with that at all.

 

[1journeyman]

Originally Posted by jennythebugg
to top it all off the surgeon wont tell me anything directly because i am not his wife its frustrating ...
Well, as soon as he gets better slap him and make him ask you to marry him so that kind of thing is never an issue again!

 

[nigerbang]

Originally Posted by 1journeyman
Well, as soon as he gets better slap him and make him ask you to marry him so that kind of thing is never an issue again!

Well said...
OMG...I dont know what to say..I am at a loss...Keeping you guys in my prayers..Let me know if you guys need ANYTHING..You have my email addy..

 

[alix2.0]

Originally Posted by 1journeyman
Well, as soon as he gets better slap him and make him ask you to marry him so that kind of thing is never an issue again!

for real. like someone else stated, although ive never met anyone from the boards, you guys are like my family and i am praying for ya!

 

[nemo_66]

sorry about that. it really sucks. my aunt has a tumor on her brain, and its really heartbreaking. i'll pray.

 

[miaheatlvr]

I dont know what to say? Im speechless, sad and imenseley depressed! Will keep praying!

 

[lovethesea]

Jenny, don't waste your energy on what you can't change with his father. What matters is that you are there for Tobin and Tobin knows who has been there taking care of him. He is in good hands, so also take care of youself. Your children and Tobin need you healthy.

 

[perfectdark]

Its so hard to find the words that make you feel better in a situation like this. But at the least knowing there are people out there thinking about you and Tobin, praying and hoping for a speedy recovery, might bring you some comfort. Add one more to that list....

 

[kjr_trig]

So sorry Jenny...Hang in there

 

[bronco300]

Our prayers are with your Jenjen and Tobin....I'm sorry things did not go as well...but hang in there, we're all behind you both.

 

[jtrzerocool]

we are keeping you both in our prayers jenny and tobin...please do not lose the faith that he is going to pull through this...

 

[socal57che]

Originally Posted by 1journeyman
Well, as soon as he gets better slap him and make him ask you to marry him so that kind of thing is never an issue again!

Just an FYI.
A few months ago I recall a post wherein they said that the only reason they didn't get married is to keep Jenny from being buried in Tobin's mounting medical bills.

 

[ice4ice]

I'm speechless and sorry to hear about tobin. My prayers go out to you and tobin.

 

[1journeyman]

Originally Posted by socal57che
Just an FYI.
A few months ago I recall a post wherein they said that the only reason they didn't get married is to keep Jenny from being buried in Tobin's mounting medical bills.
(Shhh... I know, but I was trying to cheer Jenny up)