Broken Hearts- Share your stories...

[fishkiller]

Ok, this is the 2 nd time this girl has done this to me. I have been with her 8 years now. She left me 2 years ago b/c she had feelings for another guy. Four months later, she was begging me to dump the girl I was dating to get back together with her. So I did. She left me again about 1 week before my birthday, 2 days before finals started. She said I'm just too negative. I recognize that, but I'm usually stressed out. I can't pretend to be happy when I'm not. But, it took this to open my eyes to just how happy I really was. It's been over a month now, and the reality is hitting me all of a sudden. It's everything I have to not beg her to come back. It scares me to even think of her not being in my future. I didn't know this kind of love existed. This is the kind of love that they write songs and movies about. I would turn the world up-side-down for this girl. I would die for her, with no hesitation. I'm 28 now, and 3 weeks from finally graduating. All I'm missing in life is her. I don't know what to do anymore. When she left, so did all my motivation, all my drive, all of my sunshine... Hopefully, with the help of finer pharmecuticals, I'll be able to get my life back on track. You guys have been my therapy for the past few weeks. I love you guys! Thank you.

 

[ruaround]

hmmm... if she was the one she would have stuck with you through this stressful time...
time heals most everything... stop being her yo yo... youll do just fine!!!

 

[miaheatlvr]

I know this is 1billion more time easier said then done, but life goes on, learn from any mistakes, pick yourself up and move on, you have no alternative because if you ever did get back together again you run the risk of this happening over and over again.

 

[seasalt101]

trust me on this one it will get better i came home from a 3 week tour to find my ex in bed with a black guy on martin luther king day and my 2 year old son in bed with them, this was ok when i was home as he had breathing problems, not ok now, i put my biggest knife to the guys throat and woke him up very abruptly he about turned white, well looking over at my son i realised i did not want to be a prison dad so i kicked the guy out of the house and me and her broke up, the worse part of this is when we went to court the judge did not listen to me at all, she got custody, i got screwed, well here is the bs of the story i'm in the middle of fighting cancer i have my son for the weekend and he tells me aj has been choking him i call cps they find reasons to do a follow up and they leave state i have not seen my son now in 11 months and i miss him everyday hopefully in a few days we are going to court to review the child support order and i plan on having a cop there for contempt of court and maybe getting my son that way, the bright side was i hooked up with a much much better girl that has been there through all of my being sick and has showed me what true love is...tobin

 

[fishkiller]

I know, but that's like someone telling you that if you cut your legs off, you will get over it and feel better eventually. This should be considered an actual medical condition. With it comes high blood pressure, insomnia, no appetite, weakness, etc. This sucks, but I know something will happen soon. I can feel it. But thanks yall, seriously....

 

[fishkiller]

Tobin- wow. I'm sorry to hear that. I would be in prison if I were you. My family was torn up by custody battles in the courtroom. Be the better one.

 

[badtrigger]

FishKiller, long time no see.. Sorry to hear about your misfortune. Know this may sound mean but get back with her if possible and in 3 days dump her. Give back what she gives. On the 4th day pack a bowl and sit back and relax..But really the best thing to do is leave it all in the past and move on. Get your job back at the fish store so i can get expensive fish real cheap again. If you dont remember, i drove the red wrecker to the fish store all the time

 

[jennythebugg]

ok so when i was 14 i got put in private school cause i was bad anyways met a boy and we became best friends he wanted to be a youth pastor.
when i was 16 and he was 18 he asked me to marry him i said no i was too young ,he joined the marines,i ended up getting pregnant a year later by my then current boyfriend , he once again asked me to marry him i again declined because we were both in relationships.anyways when i was 26 i had gotten divorced and we ended up getting together and got married had a son and everything was perfect because i was married to my best friend,until i found out 3 days before christmas that he was touching my daughters i wigged out long story short he is in prison but about a month after our split is when tobin(seasalt) and his woman split and we got together and i guess healed each others broken hearts......love you tobin...bugg

 

[jennythebugg]

seriously that sounds like a good idea though let her feel the hurt

 

[fishkiller]

Badtrigger- What's up bro??!! You need to give me a call man. Give me your email so i can send you my #. I mentioned your dog in the "who's got the prettiest dog" thread. Check it out.
Also, getting back together is not a new idea. I've been trying for a few weeks now. But, if I did, I don't think I could break it off. AINT LOVE GRAND???
Jenny- You sound like a strong soul. You and tobin are very fortunate to have each other. I'm very happy for you guys. Keep it up and stay strong. And thanks!

 

[hattrick58]

I don't know anyone who hasn't been hurt in a relationship. Trust me on one thing: "This, too, shall pass." It will be hard. It will take time.
Learn from it. You will find that in the course of your life you will be sharing this experience
with others who are hurting emotionally as you are now.
You are above this. You are better than this. And now you are stronger and wiser!

 

[jennythebugg]

hey fishkiller sometimes what's right is only right for a little while, i think you should move on, how do you forget a woman you get another woman, when it's right for both of you, you will know. she your ex is wanting you to be something you are not it will not work out, it will end up just like a month ago and you hurting all over again.

 

[badtrigger]

FishKiller, do they have a thread for the meaniest and prettiest dog? I think mine would win both.. Just Kidding. My dog is sweet and lovable, just not to anyone else. This girl is not the same girl you use to bring to the store is it? If it is i can see why it would be hard to get her off your mind or stay away from her. But if she wants to go on down the road let her go. In time things will get better. By the way i still cant get my dog to take milkbones from strangers.

 

[earlybird]

Should have listened to Miss. Boucher
"Girls are the debil!"

 

[fishkiller]

Badtrigger- Yeah, it's Jasmine. She really screwed me up man. Most people don't understand unless they have met her. Give me a call, or I'll give you a call. We need to go have a couple beers and catch up. My email is campbellryan97@yahoo.com
Earlybird- You couldn't be more accurate if you tried. She was right! That and foozball....

 

[jennythebugg]

Originally Posted by earlybird
Should have listened to Miss. Boucher
"Girls are the debil!"

HEY !!!! i resemble that remark !

 

[smartorl]

From the girl standpoint, I think you should move quickly to the nearest exit and not look back. It sounds to me as if she is a serial dater and does the tarzan move (one vine to the next) and while I don't doubt that she has feelings for you, she is not anywhere ready to settle down and be in a real relationship. A girl who genuinely wanted to make a go of it, would never have asked you to end another relationship! She would have cared enough for you to be a friend and see where your heart went. I assure you, she sees you as safe and would bet the farm that she will be back again whenever she is between victims and is looking for something comfortable to fall into. You deserve much better than that, don't see yourself short. As far as you being negative, unless you did a radical change from before she knew that when she wanted to get back together. She tried to make it all your fault so that she left you feeling inadequate so that you would be vulnerable and ready the next time she needed a safe place to land. Good luck and I know there is no easy way to deal with it, it hurts regardless, but think of it as ripping off a bandaid, a short term pain, then you will forget about it.

 

[fishkiller]

You're good! wow.... I have been ripping the wound open every day. No wonder it still hurts so bad. We need a Saltwater Singles Forum!!! I'll be the first. Thanx Smartori!!

 

[hattrick58]

Girls are only the debil if we let them be the debil. I learned a long time ago never to let them be the debil.

 

[fishkiller]

What's the trick, hattrick?