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stang66200
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bbb
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Originally Posted by Mimzy
...depends who you're trying to talk to....
It's a girl I like but I don't know how to start a good conversation with her. I wish I had been nicer last year.
The best time is in 4th period and we only have one more week until we have exams and change classes for the 2nd semester. Please help me. :help: We also have second period together but it's not as good since fourth is the last class of the day for us and we usually have time after class when we can talk. I can't believe I'm putting this online, at least all of you might help me and not flame me (I hope and I know most of my friends would give me a hard time if I told them any of this).
...depends who you're trying to talk to....
It's a girl I like but I don't know how to start a good conversation with her. I wish I had been nicer last year.
oficedepot
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oh no~ not this again!
but at least you have a good start! you sort of know her!
but at least you have a good start! you sort of know her!
petieaztec
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ask her if she understands the material, and if so then ask her what she is taking next semester. good starter!!
hagfish
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Since you have the same classes together and you've got exam's coming up, ask her about how ready she is for them. That should at least get you started.
Is this someone you have at least talked to before?
I always had trouble with this stuff when I was in high school. I think I was too worried to say the wrong thing or that my subject wouldn't be good enough. Now I don't think it matters nearly as much as I used to think so. Just say something, don't be nervous, and see what she says back. You may want to think of some other questions to ask too in case she's not interested in talking about her test preparation. It helps to know something about her so that you can get her to talk about something you know she has some interest in.
Is this someone you have at least talked to before?
I always had trouble with this stuff when I was in high school. I think I was too worried to say the wrong thing or that my subject wouldn't be good enough. Now I don't think it matters nearly as much as I used to think so. Just say something, don't be nervous, and see what she says back. You may want to think of some other questions to ask too in case she's not interested in talking about her test preparation. It helps to know something about her so that you can get her to talk about something you know she has some interest in.
oficedepot
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does she like office supplies?
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bbb
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We've been in the same class since fourth grade, so yeah I do kind of know her. Plus since fifth grad we both went to AG together and in sixth grade our AG class only had 5 or 6 people in it. I just need a way to start talking to her and then I think I can wing it from there on my own.
bbb
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Actualy we don't really have fourth period together but it's PE/Health and our classes have the same time in the Gym. I've talked to her before. At the beggining of the year she tried to start some conversations but of course I was stupid and didn't try to keep it going.
Maybe I can ask her about Geomtry (second period).
jmick
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I’d complement her, if she is wearing something new (something she obvious got over for X-mas) I’d say something like is that a new sweater, it looks really nice did you get for x-mas? Or, I really like that necklace, where did you get it? Remember, girls like to be complemented and make sure you smile a lot when you talk to her. After that keep the conversation flowing.
oficedepot
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i was told that to ask a girl you don't really know many questions is creepy and may make her feel uncomfortable
bbb
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I know she likes her dog. She was into softball at one time but I don't know if she is anymore. I do know where she lives only because one of my friends lives right across the street from her. I'm sure she would think it was weird if I all of a sudden started asking her a bunch of questions. I think in fourth period I could ask her if she gets the Geomtry stuff. I think she is usually by herself when she first comes out of the locker room, that might be a good time to ask her since our teacher makes us weight outside the gym anyway I know I would see her.
hagfish
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The compliment idea might work. That comes off more like you're hitting on her than just talking about normal stuff though IMO. And that might be fine, just depends on what angle you want to take. If this is someone you see every day, I'd be inclined to build a little friendship first, then try asking her out later. If you almost never talk to her and suddenly you point out that you watch her closely enough that you can tell the Christmas presents she received then you're taking a chance in hoping that she is happy to see that you're checking her out. She might also think it's creepy. If that's the case, you are pretty much out of luck altogether.
I think it would be good to build on any common ground you already have. Any classes you have together or have had together in the past are a good starting point. I think that's a safer bet since you see her a lot. But hey, I'm no expert. If this forum was around when I was in high school I would have probably posted the same questions as you. But you learn things with age.
I think it would be good to build on any common ground you already have. Any classes you have together or have had together in the past are a good starting point. I think that's a safer bet since you see her a lot. But hey, I'm no expert. If this forum was around when I was in high school I would have probably posted the same questions as you. But you learn things with age.
hagfish
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Originally Posted by BBB
I know she likes her dog. She was into softball at one time but I don't know if she is anymore. I do know where she lives only because one of my friends lives right across the street from her. I'm sure she would think it was weird if I all of a sudden started asking her a bunch of questions. I think in fourth period I could ask her if she gets the Geomtry stuff. I think she is usually by herself when she first comes out of the locker room, that might be a good time to ask her since our teacher makes us weight outside the gym anyway I know I would see her.
I think questions are OK as long as she seems interested in the conversation. If she doesn't, maybe take it slow and just talk to her when you know you both have something to talk about at first. Bottom line is that you've got to talk to her. Most women like to talk about themselves so I think it should be fine to ask questions like that. Just don't ask anything that shows that you know something that makes you look like a stalker, like that you know where she lives. Keep this in mind, if you ask her about Geometry and run into a dead end 2 sentences in, it's just going to seem wierd if neither of you have anything else to talk about. Maybe you could work on some geometry together (or at least act like that's the reason for getting together).
I know she likes her dog. She was into softball at one time but I don't know if she is anymore. I do know where she lives only because one of my friends lives right across the street from her. I'm sure she would think it was weird if I all of a sudden started asking her a bunch of questions. I think in fourth period I could ask her if she gets the Geomtry stuff. I think she is usually by herself when she first comes out of the locker room, that might be a good time to ask her since our teacher makes us weight outside the gym anyway I know I would see her.
I think questions are OK as long as she seems interested in the conversation. If she doesn't, maybe take it slow and just talk to her when you know you both have something to talk about at first. Bottom line is that you've got to talk to her. Most women like to talk about themselves so I think it should be fine to ask questions like that. Just don't ask anything that shows that you know something that makes you look like a stalker, like that you know where she lives. Keep this in mind, if you ask her about Geometry and run into a dead end 2 sentences in, it's just going to seem wierd if neither of you have anything else to talk about. Maybe you could work on some geometry together (or at least act like that's the reason for getting together).
madman133
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heres an idea for you that has worked for me in the past. Ask her what classes she is taking next semester and take out your scheduel and compare it with hers. Make sure your sort of close. If she is whereing perfume say something to the effect of you smell good today. Then from there if you have any classes with her you can talk about maybe the rumors that you've heard about the teacher or something. dont ask too many but gradually work up to aking her out. You want to be comfortable around her and you want her to be comfortable around you.
oficedepot
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Originally Posted by HappyVac
I got similar problems to this.
Except, one huge difference: I'm wicked short. Short as in 4'8" in 8th grade...girls don't wanna date anybody shorter than them, so I dunno what to do.
All I do is work out all the time so at least I won't be weak xD
too much weight lifting might stunt your growth, height wise
let it alone and you'll hit the growth spurt soon enough.
I got similar problems to this.
Except, one huge difference: I'm wicked short. Short as in 4'8" in 8th grade...girls don't wanna date anybody shorter than them, so I dunno what to do.
All I do is work out all the time so at least I won't be weak xD
too much weight lifting might stunt your growth, height wise
let it alone and you'll hit the growth spurt soon enough.