Do Children of same gender marriages have more of a tendency to become GAY?

snakeblitz33

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IBTL!!!!! MUHAHAHA
My brother's gay... He said that he was attracted to boys since before kindergarden. You can't make that kind of choice in kindergarden, can you?
 
nwdyr

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I think gay people will be offended by the use of the word "normal" here
anyway , being gay is not a choice ....like hmmm I think i will wear a black shirt today and um,,,,,,, I think i will try boys instead of girls.... come on , does anyone REALLY think you can be influenced one way or the other???
Being gay is not a choice..... This is only a argument with straight people , ask 1,000 gay people. I would be willing to bet 1,000 will say its not a "choice" Just like I didn't "choose" to be straight , I was born that way.
 
teresaq

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I fully agree. My brother in law is gay, has been since I've known him. Had lots of girls as friends in school, but never a girl friend.
I love it when he buys my girls cloths, he has good taste.
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aquaknight

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Originally Posted by nwdyr
http:///forum/post/2848755
Being gay is not a choice..... This is only a argument with straight people , ask 1,000 gay people. I would be willing to bet 1,000 will say its not a "choice" Just like I didn't "choose" to be straight , I was born that way.
How do you explain Lindsay Lohan then?
 
t316

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But I submit that it is still a CHOICE to act upon such desires, even if they were born with these desires. I have a DESIRE to sleep with every Victoria Secret model out there, but I CHOOSE not to, first because I love my wife, second because it would be immoral, and third...well, of course, as famous as I am, they would have a hard time fullfilling that dream of their's....
 
lovethesea

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Originally Posted by AquaKnight
http:///forum/post/2848763
How do you explain Lindsay Lohan then?

she is NOT gay, this too will pass for her. Just like Ann Heche, she thought she wanted to be with Ellen Degeneres who IS gay. Ann was a messed up, confused, hollywood type that needed an idenity. She used Ellen to escape whatever problems she was having. That did not last long. Lindsay is a messed up hollywood kid. too much indulgence,parties, drugs, booze etc. It all becomes boring so you start experimenting. She has been through a few rehabs, but just a few days ago was filmed (through a security cam) adding Grey Goose vodka into her virgin drink at a party. If she IS really gay and decided to live her life openly gay.........good for her. BUT if she is doing this because she needs attention and is only getting it from a true gay woman and using her, well that is sad.
 
petjunkie

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By that logic nobody would be gay. I have a cousin who I knew the second I met him he was gay, he didn't come out to his family for another few years and they still love him but never talk about the fact that he's gay and are ashamed of it. Sorry but just because you don't like or accept it isn't going to make it not happen. I certainly didn't "choose" to be straight and fail to see the logic in the belief that gay people "choose" to be gay.
Everyone likes to push their beliefs on other people when honestly they should butt the heck out. If they are adults, consenting, and paying taxes then who cares? Seriously, the "normal" family doesn't exist with a mommy and daddy, three kids and dog. My parents have 7 marriages between them, I've had two different step-dads, terrible relationship with my real father, not a great one with my mom and somehow I turned out alright. I own a home, am in a long-term relationship, pay my bills. Stay out of my life and I'll stay out of yours.
Also I'm pretty sure there's been studies on this exact thing and it turned out the opposite, less gay children of gay parents than straight. I really don't see how it matters, is it better if they turn out straight? Are they more acceptable then? Less of a person if they turn out gay? I'm sure we could do studies on how people are raised to believe exactly what their parents taught them, whether it be openess or hate.
I also can't stand the idea that even if you "feel" gay, you should just ignore it and be celibate since it's so wrong in the eyes of the religious right. Might be my complete lack of religion speaking there though. I'm living in sin right now OMG. Difference is I can get married, even with no religious beliefs while gays who do believe in God cannot. It'll change, eventually and there will still be people who can't stand it, just like there are still people who think my parents shouldn't have married because they are different races or believe my father is less than a person because his skin isn't pearly white.
 
jennythebugg

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ummm no i knew when i was in jr high that i liked girls too, both of my parents are straight , i went to high school with a boy that was being raised by 2 men he turned out as staraight as they get - its in your brain you dont decide to be attracted to one or another you just are and whether you want it to or not your eye still wanders to the same side of the fence.
 
aquaknight

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Originally Posted by lovethesea
http:///forum/post/2848815
she is NOT gay, this too will pass for her. Just like Ann Heche, she thought she wanted to be with Ellen Degeneres who IS gay. Ann was a messed up, confused, hollywood type that needed an idenity. She used Ellen to escape whatever problems she was having. That did not last long. Lindsay is a messed up hollywood kid. too much indulgence,parties, drugs, booze etc. It all becomes boring so you start experimenting. She has been through a few rehabs, but just a few days ago was filmed (through a security cam) adding Grey Goose vodka into her virgin drink at a party. If she IS really gay and decided to live her life openly gay.........good for her. BUT if she is doing this because she needs attention and is only getting it from a true gay woman and using her, well that is sad.

Originally Posted by sharkbait9
http:///forum/post/2849174
thats called trend.

All's I'm trying to do is point out a person who was 'born straight' and turned gay, and that it's impossible to label EVERYONE is either born-gay, or decided-to-be-gay. There's both types.
Lohan was just a popular enough example. I agree in that this is just a fad/attempt for popularity. But if the rare chance she does commit 100% to that lifestyle, the theory of being everyone born that way is incorrect.
 
sepulatian

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Well there are different kinds of people. Some just experiment or enjoy both, and there are those that only want to be with the opposite se.x. They cannot be rolled up into nice, individual packages. Back to the kids brought up in a gay house. How do you think that will make them gay? Many gay people come from straight houses. Why would you think that some gay contaminant would make the children gay too??
 
groupergenius

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Life is like a box of chocolates.....
Heat, is your question of a genetic or behaviour nature?
Are you asking if a same s e x couple used means to get pregnant, or use a surrogate, would the child be genetically disposed to following step?
Or is it just being raised in that environment, adopted or not?
Are you asking if it's a "learned" behaviour, or biologically pre-determined?
 
miaheatlvr

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Originally Posted by GrouperGenius
http:///forum/post/2850429
Life is like a box of chocolates.....
Heat, is your question of a genetic or behavior nature?
Are you asking if a same s e x couple used means to get pregnant, or use a surrogate, would the child be genetically disposed to following step?
Or is it just being raised in that environment, adopted or not?
Are you asking if it's a "learned" behavior, or biologically pre-determined?
I was going for more of a learned behavior route, That, being surrounded by the homosexuality might make you more likely to want to explore and experiment that route where if you were the product of a heterosexual marriage you would have an inner conscience that would tell you "NO I don't like and want to do that" because they are children in the impressionable, experimental stages.
 
groupergenius

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Originally Posted by MiaHeatLvr
http:///forum/post/2850507
I was going for more of a learned behavior route, That, being surrounded by the homosexuality might make you more likely to want to explore and experiment that route where if you were the product of a heterosexual marriage you would have an inner conscience that would tell you "NO I don't like and want to do that" because they are in the impressionable, experimental stages.
I think not. How many kids have parents that smoke cigs....yet the child never does. And Vice-versa. Heck, my parents are dedicated Democrats......I don't hate them for it, but I would never become one.

I would actually think the opposite of where your going, and the kids would reject it. As said before, Hetro couples have ga y kids, I seriously deny the "learned" philosophy.
 
mie

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The chances would be greater of you turning out gay if you were raised from an infant with two dads or two moms who are gay. With that being said i think it is detrimental to raise any child with same --- parents, children flatout need equal amounts of mom and dad. I will argue this to the death.
There are things that only a mom or a dad can teach the child.
 
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