You'd be surprised how much weight the foam can take without crushing. I placed a 180 gallon tank on a piece of 1/2". I estimate the load comes to about 2000lbs, and I measured about a 1/8" compression.
Your concerns about pushing on the tank are concerns I had to, so I actually did what you are talking about, I put a wood frame on top of the foam so the tank does not rest directly on the foam. This worked fine for me and should work fine for you, but the one thing I'll warn you of is that whatever you put between the tank and foam has to be dead flat. If not, it defeats the whole purpose of the foam.