Girlfriend Troubles? The girls are messing with me!

[beth]

My guess is that your ex heard about the new love and suddenly realized she lost her control over you. Instinct kicked in and she decided that she wanted you. Do you know if she knows about the other girl?
Its seems you have a good thing going now with someone you like, so why blow it for a relationship that has been bad for a long time.

 

[ice4ice]

Tell your ex to "Hit the road, Jack !" You want to go through more heartaches with your ex and her bad temper ? Not me !! Don't feel sorry for her cuz women can be manipulative and will do anything to get you back to her. Stay strong and stay with your new girl. I'm not bashing all women but there are some that will do that. Good luck.

 

[nvmycj]

Originally Posted by earlybird
Which is better looking? J/K
Tough situation here and I was in the same predicament with my current wife. We had dated for over a year or so and then she needed space just like that. I couldn't figure it out. Things were good but got dull I guess. I dated around but still couldn't help feeling empty inside. 4 months later she wanted back into my life. It would have been real easy to give her the boot and move on but I didn't because I was still in love and I knew this was the one. So I took her back and things were different. I knew what I was getting but we also knew that in order to make it work some things had to change. They did and we've been married for 5 years and have a 2 year old daughter. Things could have been very different but I don't have any regrets only happiness.
Only you'll know what to do. Trust that voice inside your head. It knows you better than anyone.
Good luck
Your circumstance, though very happy ending-ish, is the exception rather than the norm. Good to see someone's acceptance of an ex worked.

 

[autofreak44]

i say that you go for the new one... jmo

 

[npage]

Putting spoiled milk back in the fridge never makes it any better.

Loose the ex. My guess is she probably had someone else in mind when she broke up with you and when that didn't work out she came calling back.
Happens all the time.

 

[miaheatlvr]

Thank you all for your help, opinions, views, life experiences, pros and cons. I think the OVERALL consensus was "move on" with one or two "go back" and one or two "do what your heart tells you" I always thought inside the "move-on" route was the prevelant one in my mind anyway as hard as thats gonna be. Still alot of pain and healing ahead. I want other people to know reading this forum that this forum can also be a good source of non-partisan solid advice on a wide range of ALL subjects and suggest to others in similar life experiences to share them if they would like to and that it really helps to talk things out! CHEERS! M.H.L.

 

[kingfish8302]

I know i'm a little late for my $.02 but i agree with Npage to jmo.
You can polish terd. Its still a terd.

I was in your position at one time to a certain point a few years ago. I was with my ex for 2 year and another we were engaged. One day she ended and the next day she was dated her guy friend of 4 years. I was depressed and blah blah. I got over her after few months. But since then she calls me just to talk to me and tell me how much she misses me and more blah blah. I stuck to my guns and never caved in or fell over anything she was trying. Now after 2 years of her doing this every week she finally got the point and stop calling a couple of months ago. Yes I tell her my mind and kept telling her, “You have better odds at winning the mega jackpot then getting back with me”. I told her that line more than my age.
Anyways to the point, I think she heard about the new girl and also she finally felt like she lost control of you and wants the control over you again. Do like me and stick to the new girl. My new gf and I have been together a year starting last week and both of us are saving up for a new house.
For NVMYCJ situation is very very rare nad I’m happy for them.
I vote for the new girl.
Good luck man

 

[coral keeper]

Originally Posted by kingfish8302
Anyways to the point, I think she heard about the new girl and also she finally felt like she lost control of you and wants the control over you again. Do like me and stick to the new girl. My new gf and I have been together a year starting last week and both of us are saving up for a new house.
For NVMYCJ situation is very very rare nad I’m happy for them.
I vote for the new girl.
Good luck man

I agree.

 

[nigerbang]

Originally Posted by kingfish8302
You can polish terd. Its still a terd.

WTF?!?!?! That made me bust out laughing...
Anyways, On the the topic at hand...Tell her that you dont feel the same anymore..(If you don't) Tell her that you are sorry but she missed her window and that her temper was the downfall (if it was) and that the Hawks are going to kill the Heat..J/k..I dont know anything about Basketball

 

[kingfish8302]

i was refering the ex. She can polish herself up on the outside but still same person in the inside.