Good Grief we're doomed

reefraff

reefraff

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Just saw an advertisement for some marriage counseling outfit and they were making a big deal about a dating site called Ashley Madison which guarantees a discrete affair. So someone has built a business out of making sure you can cheat on your spouse and not get caught. Good God what is this world coming too.
 
mantisman51

mantisman51

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I've seen those ads. It's pretty despicable. To say America has become obsessed with s@x is a colossal understatement. I and my wife are(I've come to understand) a rather oddball couple. We waited to have s@x until after we were married. We never had s@x with anyone before we got married either. I really thought that was what most people did. I am shocked at how casually most people I've spoke with approach s@x. I have a theory: If a person is willing to have s@x outside of marriage before they're married, it makes it alot easier to have s@x outside of marriage after they're married. I am not a particularly religious person, but I really think there's pretty good reasons for Biblical restrictions on s@x, because this modern "have s@x with everyone you can until you have s@x with the right one" sure isn't working. I think the lack of respect for s@x before marriage has pretty much destroyed the respect for s@x in marriage. OK, off my soapbox.
 
meowzer

meowzer

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Let's keep watching shows like The Jersey Shore
....what the heck does that promote
slutty girls and manwhores

Our teenagers and young adults love these shows and think it's cool.....OH YEAH.....the more sex partners the better....how about the spread of std's.......I HATE the fact that I have grandchildren growing up in a world that thinks this way, and shows like this are what's popular
I'll tell you this....THEY DO NOT WATCH THEM AT MY HOUSE!!!!!!!!!!!
 
reefraff

reefraff

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I am no prude but I never slept with anyone I didn't have feelings for.
I just wonder what people are thinking. The wife just told me about her trip to the store. She was in an isle behind a mom and her kid. Mom was nicely dressed but the kid had on the wool hat with the pants hanging half way to the knees with the boxer shorts hanging out. They turned around to go check out and the kid turned out to be a girl! I've seen middle school girls walking around with their shorts unbuttoned and the zipper half way down. I don't get what the heck these parents are thinking.
 
socal57che

socal57che

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Originally Posted by mantisman51 http:///forum/thread/383055/good-grief-we-re-doomed#post_3347265
I've seen those ads. It's pretty despicable. To say America has become obsessed with s@x is a colossal understatement. I and my wife are(I've come to understand) a rather oddball couple. We waited to have s@x until after we were married. We never had s@x with anyone before we got married either. I really thought that was what most people did. I am shocked at how casually most people I've spoke with approach s@x. I have a theory: If a person is willing to have s@x outside of marriage before they're married, it makes it alot easier to have s@x outside of marriage after they're married. I am not a particularly religious person, but I really think there's pretty good reasons for Biblical restrictions on s@x, because this modern "have s@x with everyone you can until you have s@x with the right one" sure isn't working. I think the lack of respect for s@x before marriage has pretty much destroyed the respect for s@x in marriage. OK, off my soapbox.
indeed
 
ironeagle2006

ironeagle2006

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My wife and I both had been married before we got together and we as soon as we met knew that we were met to be together. Yes this last year was trying for us with her father dying and then my mothers health issues and finically with her being out of work for a few months. Yet not one time has the thought of cheating on her ever crossed my mind nor will it ever cross my mind. Her and I have this understanding that when we are having issues we talk them out and we fix what is going wrong it may not be easy to correct the problems BUT WE GET IT DONE. She has realized something about me I do not quit she asked my father something one day just how sick was I in 2001 when I had my double strokes. She found out that my Ex-Wife was already getting ready to Bury me when she found out that I had a Basal Artery tear and bleeding into my brain. Yet I survived that and the second stroke 2 days later. Now for those that are not familar with the Basal Artery it is the same thing that Killed Dale Earnhart when he tore his in the Crash at Daytona 10 years ago.
Yes we screwed up at first she was Pregnant with our daughter when we got married however wewere already Engaged and wanted to be married we were stopped by a law written in Wisconsin. Wisconsin if you get divorced up there refuses to let anyone that gets divorced there remarry in anyother state EVEN IF THEY ARE NOT A RESIDENT ANYMORE OF WISCONSIN. So even though I was not a Resident of Wisconsin my Ex Screwed me again one last time. The Law is Six Calander Months past the end of the Month from whent he Divorce is Final. So we got married in December our Daughter was born in April.
 
mylady

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Well, in this day and age it's very old fashioned to wait until marriage. I tried, I really did. The pressure is amazing though. I did wait until I was engaged though and in my 20's before taking that step. Of course, we ended up breaking off the engagement. My husband (Monsinour) and I lived together for 3 years before we got married. Making a commitment to someone doesn't need a piece of paper to make it more serious. You either have morals and values or you don't. Whether I was married to my husband or not I never would have cheated on him. Heck, I was dating someone and found myself attracted to someone else and broke it off back in highschool. The guilt was too much. I can't even imagine the guilt of actually having an affair. How does one look at themselves in the mirror and like what they see?
 
reefraff

reefraff

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Quote:
Originally Posted by MyLady http:///forum/thread/383055/good-grief-we-re-doomed#post_3347855
Well, in this day and age it's very old fashioned to wait until marriage. I tried, I really did. The pressure is amazing though. I did wait until I was engaged though and in my 20's before taking that step. Of course, we ended up breaking off the engagement. My husband (Monsinour) and I lived together for 3 years before we got married. Making a commitment to someone doesn't need a piece of paper to make it more serious. You either have morals and values or you don't. Whether I was married to my husband or not I never would have cheated on him. Heck, I was dating someone and found myself attracted to someone else and broke it off back in highschool. The guilt was too much. I can't even imagine the guilt of actually having an affair. How does one look at themselves in the mirror and like what they see?
My first time was with the first wife. Marriage was a mistake. Lived with the current wife a few months before getting married. Live and learn and you really can't learn enough about a potential spouse until you've lived with them. I think you should limit the physical relationships to someone you have an emotional relationship with. Other than that smoke em if you got em.
 
flower

flower

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Quote:
Originally Posted by MyLady http:///forum/thread/383055/good-grief-we-re-doomed#post_3347855
Well, in this day and age it's very old fashioned to wait until marriage. I tried, I really did. The pressure is amazing though. I did wait until I was engaged though and in my 20's before taking that step. Of course, we ended up breaking off the engagement. My husband (Monsinour) and I lived together for 3 years before we got married. Making a commitment to someone doesn't need a piece of paper to make it more serious. You either have morals and values or you don't. Whether I was married to my husband or not I never would have cheated on him. Heck, I was dating someone and found myself attracted to someone else and broke it off back in highschool. The guilt was too much. I can't even imagine the guilt of actually having an affair. How does one look at themselves in the mirror and like what they see?
+100.000
I also broke off with a boy in highschool rather than cheat. Either you want to be with someone or you don't.
 
oceankid

oceankid

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This world is getting worse, it's making me sad to hear that kind of news, did ever think how many broken families are there in this world? It's the children whose suffering, not the parents.
 
mylady

mylady

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Quote:
Originally Posted by Flower http:///forum/thread/383055/good-grief-we-re-doomed#post_3347882
Quote:
Originally Posted by MyLady http:///forum/thread/383055/good-grief-we-re-doomed#post_3347855
Well, in this day and age it's very old fashioned to wait until marriage. I tried, I really did. The pressure is amazing though. I did wait until I was engaged though and in my 20's before taking that step. Of course, we ended up breaking off the engagement. My husband (Monsinour) and I lived together for 3 years before we got married. Making a commitment to someone doesn't need a piece of paper to make it more serious. You either have morals and values or you don't. Whether I was married to my husband or not I never would have cheated on him. Heck, I was dating someone and found myself attracted to someone else and broke it off back in highschool. The guilt was too much. I can't even imagine the guilt of actually having an affair. How does one look at themselves in the mirror and like what they see?
+100.000
I also broke off with a boy in highschool rather than cheat. Either you want to be with someone or you don't.
Yeah, and at the time my boyfriend was in the army as he was a year older. It would have been EASY to cheat and never get caught but I just couldn't have done that to him. We actually ended up getting back together after a few months. Nothing happened between myself and the person I had been attracted to and I didn't even try to make anything happen, I just figured if I was atracted to someone else I must not have my full heart in the relationship I was in and that wasn't fair to him. We ended up being together for about 3 years and he was quite respectful and never pushed me to sleep with him knowing full well I wanted to wait until I was married. Unfortunately I didn't find most men quite as patient.
 
flower

flower

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Quote:
Originally Posted by MyLady http:///forum/thread/383055/good-grief-we-re-doomed#post_3347938
Quote:
Originally Posted by Flower http:///forum/thread/383055/good-grief-we-re-doomed#post_3347882
Quote:
Originally Posted by MyLady http:///forum/thread/383055/good-grief-we-re-doomed#post_3347855
Well, in this day and age it's very old fashioned to wait until marriage. I tried, I really did. The pressure is amazing though. I did wait until I was engaged though and in my 20's before taking that step. Of course, we ended up breaking off the engagement. My husband (Monsinour) and I lived together for 3 years before we got married. Making a commitment to someone doesn't need a piece of paper to make it more serious. You either have morals and values or you don't. Whether I was married to my husband or not I never would have cheated on him. Heck, I was dating someone and found myself attracted to someone else and broke it off back in highschool. The guilt was too much. I can't even imagine the guilt of actually having an affair. How does one look at themselves in the mirror and like what they see?
+100.000
I also broke off with a boy in highschool rather than cheat. Either you want to be with someone or you don't.
Yeah, and at the time my boyfriend was in the army as he was a year older. It would have been EASY to cheat and never get caught but I just couldn't have done that to him. We actually ended up getting back together after a few months. Nothing happened between myself and the person I had been attracted to and I didn't even try to make anything happen, I just figured if I was atracted to someone else I must not have my full heart in the relationship I was in and that wasn't fair to him. We ended up being together for about 3 years and he was quite respectful and never pushed me to sleep with him knowing full well I wanted to wait until I was married. Unfortunately I didn't find most men quite as patient.

LOL...99.99% of teenage boys have no desire to wait...they live for that moment when the girl, any girl says yes.
 
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