Had to take my daughter to ER today :(

[nemo lover]

This is how it started. My daughter 2yrs old was crying in the middle of the night.(not normal she always sleeps through the night). So I Went in the room took her temp(normal) made her a cup, and took her into bed with us. Within ten minutes she was sleeping. She woke up real late at like 10:00, and was fussy- so I figured she was hungry made her breakfast(waffles). I noticed she wasn't using her right arm at all to eat, and was real frustrated, and fussy. So I tried to give her a cup, and she grabbed it with her left hand. She always grabs it with her right hand. Hmm so I let her finish eating,took her off the high chair, and followed her around for a while. It was like her arm was limp.. OMG called my hubby and took her to the ER. She had "nursemaids" elbow. It was dislocated.
They had to put it back in place. The doctors said its coming in kids.
I feel like the biggest peace of crap, I have never had to take either of my kids to the ER. And this must of happen the day before on our trip to the beach, and park. My youngest daughter was diagnosed in January with developmental delays, and she doesn't talk yet(just some basics) , and just started really really walking, she is really clumsy has no natural balance, when shes upset she arches her back, throws her head back, and doesn't care where she falls. I feel horrible cause I don't even know how it happened. I am constantly trying to avoid her accidents before they happen, and I specially keep both eyes on her all the time. I feel like I failed her.
I cant sleep either. what a day!

 

[celacanthr]

how old is she? That must of been horrible. Oh im glad that you were able to help her.

 

[snailheave]

kids don't usually talk until they are two or close to it, no? i don't have kids but my boss' son is almost two and he can speak only single words. and he just started walking not many months ago.

 

[tizzo]

Don't you dare feel like you failed her!! There is a fine line between over reacting and not even noticing... You noticed something was different and that is all you are supposed to do in the early stages. Then you watch it, and watch it some more til worry sets in and then when you definately know it won't fix itself or is something beyond your control then you go to the doc or hospital. You guys did everything right, so don't feel like you failed her!! You know as well as I do that you can rush to the hospital at the first sign of something out of the ordinary.
My son is 3 and he doesn't talk yet either, he had a hard little bump on the back of his head, and when I finally took him to the doc after about a week it was hard trying to explain why I waited so long. I didn't want to bring him in for a simple goose-egg, and it took a week to realize that it wasn't just a "bump on the noggin", but they totally understood. It ended up being a painless calcium accumulation.
Point being, there is an order to treatment and you did everything perfect. Hope your daughter os ok now! :jumping:

 

[nemo lover]

my daughter is 2ys old this month July 10th. she only says momma, Dada, sippy, numnum(for food). By 18 months a baby should be walking.By 24 months they should be able to run, and jump, also say at least three word sentences. I am not a so worried about her fine motors skills as I am with her moods. She is really cranky, she doesn't like much change. She also walks on her tippy toes. I try to have shoes on her at all times. I think its helps a a little bit.The doctor wants her to see a neurologist, and geneticist.
Mothers instinct tells me some things not exactly right.
From the time I was eight till about nineteen. I used to volunteer, and help teach mentally and physically challenged children how to ride horses, and help in special Olympics.
So I know something about most of the disorders. But most of the kids I saw were not as young as my daughter. If I had to guess I would go with Autism, Not a severe case but low to medium.

 

[nemo lover]

thanks Tizzy- shes doing better today already using her arm again. It's so hard seeing them in pain, and hold them down so more pain can be inflicted upon them.

 

[moraymike]

Hi, nemo lover. I've got two kids (7 and 2 yrs.). We had a similar exprience with nursemaid's elbow with our 7 yr old when he was almost 2. Listen, kids have things happen to them... they get hurt... Yes, we do our best to lookout for them, but stuff happens. Keep your chin up and do the best you can. :yes:

 

[celacanthr]

oh i couldnt walk till i was 2 and 1/2 but that was something different. I was rather big and tall for a baby and i had had an ear infection at 2 or so so that kind of threw of my sense of balance.

 

[birdy]

I have two year old twins and believe me they have been in their share of some pretty scary almost accidents, a dislocation is very very common and easy for them to do at this age, and it doesn't take much for it to happen. Try not to beat yourself up (So hard to do as a mother).
Glad she is feeling better!
I hope you get some answers from the neuro, a friend thought her little boy had Autism, he is also two and not talking and showing a few of the typical signs (not making eye contact and he twirled his wrists when excited), but not some of the most important ones, her neuro thought he was just delayed not autistic. I hope you guys some answers and a good plan of action for her, they can do amazing things with therapy (as you know).

 

[scotts]

OK not sure where to go so let me just tell me where I come from. My 12 year old son is autistic. My 10 year old daughter spent the first 30 days of her life in the hospital and another week after her third surgery. She is physically fine now, although she does not have a belly button. I HEAR you about having to hold down your kid while they do stuff to her. I remember one time a friend was telling me about how upset he was because they had to take blood from his daughter and had to stick her 5 or 6 times. I told him I alwasy hate to trump his stories but have you ever had to hold your daughter down while they shove a wire up her nose?
Glad to hear she is doing better now and sounds like you did a good job.
I am of course curious about your daughter.
Scott

 

[nyyankeees]

In no way is this your fault and I understand how frustrating things are with special needs children. Some days i think back and don't know how i did it but i was a nanny for special needs triplets(all boys) for 6 1/2 yrs. Most challenging but also most rewarding job ever!! They were born at 26 weeks and all had different degrees of problems. They were seven when I left because the parents were divorcing, and let's jus say it wasn't pretty which will damge the kids even further, what can you do..... but one was diagnosed with PDD(pervasive development disorder) and MR he is non -verbal and did not walk until 4, pretty severe mental delays, when i left he was jus starting to use eating utensils, wasn't toilet trained, still non verbal, was unable to learn sign languauge so they were gonna try computerized machines. The next one was one of kind, that's for sure, lol. Also, mentally delayed but could talk some he was at about a 3yr old level when i left. He was diagnosed with autism, adhd and had problems with stimulation. Was on 2 medications, and was still off the wall, could become violent although he never really was for me beside the usual temper tantrum, but kicked and bit teachers, and was basically out of control at school. Many days he had to leave early, and was expelled 2 months early and not allowed to return in 1st grade. Also a huge problem at school was him lying on the floor and "rubbing himself", that was an effect of the stimulation prob. and the fact that he wasn't toilet trained and refused to take part in any teaching of this. Last one was pretty typical, he was a little learning delayed he repeated kindergarten, and had an auditory processing disorder, for example: if you asked him, "are you sleepy?" he would hear "you are sleepy", sometimes he would become frustrated because he thought you were accusing him or making untrue statements because he was processing them wrong. All the boys had speech, occupational and physical therapy since infancy and still do. I think this is key! If your daughter doesn't already, I get set some up. It is very hard to deal with these issues and although i'm not their parent, I watched them about 50 hrs a week for almost 7 yrs, so i know what a parent with special needs children goes thru. Whenever you get time research things on the internet too and maybe find a support group in your area, that helps alot especially when your child isn't diagnosed yet, so when Dr's talk to you about different symptoms and disorders it doesn't feel like they are speaking a foreign language. I hope hearing that other can sympathiize and that you're not alone helps cheer you up a little bit. I know alot of times it feels like no one understands or cares, but alot of people out there do, it just takes a lil time to find them. Best wishes!!

 

[kbaz]

Hi Nemo Lover.
My son who is now 4 had many of the same symptoms your daughter is showing at the same age. We were referred to a behavior specialist and my son was diagnosied with PPD, a mild form of Autism. I hope all goes well with your daughter...please keep us posted on what the doctors say.

 

[tangman99]

Hey Nemo Lover,
Like everyone has said, don't be so hard on yourself. Our kids can scare us to death sometime. Kids learn at different ages and the school where my daughter goes says that in most cases it does not matter. One little boy in her class never crawled. His parents were so worried because his would just sit up but never did crawl. He went staight from sitting to walking.

 

[nemo lover]

Thank you all so much for your support. I have been waiting for three months for her insurance to go active through Florida kid care, so I can get her diagnosed.
moraymike- good to know im not the only one who's had this happen.
Birdy- she is showing the same signs as your friends child, she always shakes her hands repeatedly especially if she wants something and you tell her NO. I can get her to make eye contact, so can her father, but not all the time. As far as her talking- most of the time she mumbles/repeats her words its not momma its -mommommoma. She walks on her tippy toes allot, shes often stares off into space. Some "change" she accepts, and some she doesn't, and some days shes more will to experiment than others.
Scotts- I have a niece who was born with her intestines, and stomach on the outside, and with some corrective surgery is doing great! she will be two real soon. I have never had to go through surgery with either of my kids, but I know how hard it can be. I am glad everything is fine now. I understand how you feel when your friends tell you stories, I don't think they mean anything by it, they just have that same love for their children as you do.
Ny Yankees- Yes, I agree with you. She needs to be in therapy. I want to get her into occupational, speech, and physical therapy, and maybe some sort of school/daycare so I can go back to work. I am having a real hard time getting her insurance. I can't afford to get her diagnosed on my own, I know I will have allot of programs and help available once she diagnosed. But theirs not much help before their diagnosed. I was told the only government program for children with special needs in Florida was CMS, children's medical services. In order to get assistance I needed a referral from her doctor, and to apply for kid care. Kid care told me based on her age and our income, we made to much for her to be on their program. Then proceeded to tell me my older child whom is five was accepted into their program, and her insurance starts this month. WTF!!
I called CMS and they told me to apply for Medicaid, what I don't understand is based on our income their is no way were getting Medicaid if we can't get kid care.We make to much money. So I have been on the phone constantly trying to get help, and answers. thats really frustrating especially when your dealing with your child and their health.

 

[nemo lover]

kbaz- What kind of tests did they preform to diagnos this? Do you have your child in any thearpy? And did you guys have any insurance problems too?
Tangman- thank you so much for your kind words. I'll try not to beat myself up.

 

[teresaq1]

Nemo, hi, my youngest daughter was a 29 week premi, we adopted her at 10 mo, she didnt sit up or roll over. she had other problems at birth, and was in theropy for over a yr. she is 5 now, and still dosent talk well, and walks on her toes. she was diag with adhd last yr. all we can do is love them and get what ever help they need.
She dosent have a belly button either.