They can't be even or they won't drain into one or the other(at least the top of the tanks). One must be higher than the other so it can "overflow" into the other with the help of gravity. It sounds to me as if you want water to go from your 90 and drain to the 20, then get pumped back. In such case, the top of the 90g must be higher than the top of the 20g. I'm not certain the dimensions on a 20H but I would think it is not as tall as a 90 is. If such is the case you could have each tank on the same height stand(meaning the bottom of each tank is flush). Your return pump will be in the 20H returning back to you 90. As such your water level in your 90 will never change. You will see fluctuations from evaportation in your 20H.
This is where you run into the problem, accounting for the excess drainage into the overflow when the power goes out and the return pump stops. In this event water in your 90 will drain down to the top of the overflow intake, which usually means at least an inch of water from your DT will enter your 20g. For a 90g(without the exact dimensions of your tank) I would say it is safe to say at least another 5-6 gallons will drain back your 20 when the power goes out. Which means you can't have a normal operating water level in the 20H more than 15g at most, which means you can only fill it up roughly 3/4 of the way.
I'm not sure if you want that or not, but another option would be to add another 20g, but this tank would be at the lowest height in your system and it would house your return pump sending water back to your 90g. As such you will need an overflow for your 90g to get the water to your 20H. I would take the 20H to a glass shop and have them drill a 1 inch bulkhead in it for a drain, so it can then send water to the 20g at the lowest point in your system. This way your 20H can be filled with water, as the 20g below the 20H will now be the tank to take in excess water when the power goes out. Hope that wasn't too confusing...
This is a thread in which I discussed something similiar which might help.
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If you decide to do it, I can help you out with specs a bit more. I have three tanks plumbed into my sytem-DT, fuge, sump and it is pretty much the same diagram as the one posted below