how do i ask a girl out?

rotarymagic

rotarymagic

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Originally Posted by fishfreak1242
http:///forum/post/2846072
Heres what you do. You be extremely quiet and don't say a thing whenever your around your group or whatever. That way, people don't realize your there, and then will eventually notice you and be like "Whoa, where did you come from?" and then you can start up a conversation from there. Thats how I always meet new people.
yeah... but its a good way to get bounced out of that conversation circle if you don't have anything astounding to say when you seize the floor. LOL...
Remember this is a one on one thing, not trying to sell a product to a company or group.
 
jtt

jtt

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Originally Posted by fishfreak1242
http:///forum/post/2846072
Heres what you do. You be extremely quiet and don't say a thing whenever your around your group or whatever. That way, people don't realize your there, and then will eventually notice you and be like "Whoa, where did you come from?" and then you can start up a conversation from there. Thats how I always meet new people.
one thing i have learned is that the quiet and mysterious guy is an intriguing approach but gets boring REAL fast.
 
shogun323

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I got ya on this JJT. Just flat out ask her, "Hey do you want to come over for some pizza and some Lovin?" If she freaks out, just say, "What's wrong? You don't like pizza?"
 
peef

peef

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Women like men with confidence....not an A-hole but confidence. Just tell her you think she is an amazing person and you would love to be able to take her out to a nice dinner and get to know her. Now DON'T take her to the most expensive resaurant under the sun because that can give the wrong impression of her now "oweing" you something but don't go to Mc D's either. I am sure you can pick it up from there. And lastly don't lie about anything to do with yourself....it WILL come back and kick you in the butt.
 
teresaq

teresaq

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I say ask her to dinner or coffee. Dont give up if she says no the first time, (also dont stalk her either) My husband is 4 yrs younger, we were set up on a blind date. I knew he was younger and it took me a while to say yes to this date. Well, I found out he was much more mature then his yrs and we were married less then a yr after we met. We hit our 20 yrs this last may.
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rotarymagic

rotarymagic

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dinner is 1950s... coffee... like I said... start a relationship on food and she'll end up a blimp and you'll probably have kids and it'll be too expensive to cut it off from a fatty.
that pizza thing is worse than "nice shoes.. wanna*blank*"
 
spanko

spanko

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I think of all the education that I missed.
But then my homework was never quite like this.
Got it bad, got it bad, got it bad,
Im hot for teacher.
 
snakeblitz33

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Good website to ask people who have also been through it all - www.stupid-boy.net . They can give you really good relationship and dating advice.
As far as your situation is concerned... I would say just ask her out. Age means nothing in todays society.
 
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usirchchris

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Age difference...strategies...the right approach...
. For God sake's be a man, take a couple shots of liquid courage and ask that girl out. If she says no, who cares there's lots more liquid courage out there.
 
demartini

demartini

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Originally Posted by Rotarymagic
http:///forum/post/2846057
LOL.... I'd catch one at like 32 or so and ride that out till she was like 40 and trade her in...
hahaha cougars....
First of all don't say you're nervous! That would be weird. Just smile and ask her to lunch... The worst she'll say is no.... It's pretty hard to turn down a really sweet guy =)
 
stdreb27

stdreb27

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Originally Posted by JTT
http:///forum/post/2846065
She has a doctorate in theology, a masters of divinity, and a bachelors of theology. i too am about to finish my bachelors in theology, and then will be going for a masters short after. in short, we are christians, that are very educated as such. i kept this out of the discussion because i didnt want to turn this into a religious debate (which i have seen happen a lot on the forums) and i would prefer to keep this thread from going that way.
So, i once started a conversation with her developing the trinitarian theology of pastoral ministry relating to broken relationships, fear and death. it was a great discussion however she really went off on it and i couldnt keep up due to the fact that she has 2 way more advanced degrees than i do. its quite difficult to get into very deep discussions because it goes way too far too fast to a point that i can no longer understand what we are talking about. however, those discussions are the ones that keep me up at night thinking about her and how amazing she is that she has acquired so much knowledge and can clearly communicate so easily.
I have a friend who is so amazingly intelligent but when you ask him a question, he rattles off everything he knows without stopping to think of the relevance of it. like if i were to ask him the definition of the word, oh i dunno, Salinity (since its something we talk about here) he would ramble through the dictionary in his head starting with A and working his way to S for Salinity, simply because he has so much knowledge.
She has acquired such brain power, but can manage it in a way that leaves me speechless.

Originally Posted by Rotarymagic
http:///forum/post/2846068
nvm... I can't offer any advice to those trying to live these religiously "pure" lives...
Good luck with your theology and christianity and this girl. I dunno how a religiously educated Christian goes about asking out another one. I'm out.
lol it is easy just say god told me we were going to get married.

Ok now to a more serious thought. Heck with it, if you like the woman, tell her. In all seriousness dating is a game like everything else. You have winners (a date, serious relationship ect) loosers never talk to her again. Lets face it, that is going to happen when she gets married anyways.
So why not just ask.
 
cowfishrule

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yo
just keep it real.
chicks can smell game before you even walk through the door.
if you are you, you'll do fine.
just take her out.. have fun. dont try anything creepy.
 
rotarymagic

rotarymagic

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Originally Posted by AquaKnight
http:///forum/post/2846300
All you need:
"Babs... You, me, tomorrow (insert name)'s coffee place. I'll see you around 9."
yeah good idea... but mr. slick over here has a high probability of not being that assertive. lol
 
yearofthenick

yearofthenick

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Okay, I know I said I was going to quit the forums, but JTT is my kid brother, and I just had to reply to this one....
I know this 28-year-old personally as well.
I think what throws off your game, JTT, is that she is just a different breed. You don't find women like her, ever. She wanted to go for a double-doctorate or something crazy like that, but decided to back out of it to take care of her grandfather. She has a big heart for family, and has little regret when family-encompassing decisions that affect her personal life need to be made.
I think you understated her intelligence a little bit JTT... lol. She's a total brainiac. Super intelligent. Also a little socially awkward, but I'm sure you were surprised as I was that she had a boyfriend at one time. I really wish I knew what he looked like. Have you ever seen a pic of him, JTT?
But knowing her, I think she's looking for someone who will compliment her. When I say that, I mean she's super smart but lacking in the social category. I've know you your whole life, and I can say that ever since you were little, you had a great sense of humor. I think that's really what she's looking for... is someone who she can have a good time with. That person would be you.
Guys, I have to share a story about JTT. When we were kids (JTT was probably 7 or 8 years old), we used to go to church with our parents on Sundays, and there was this blind lady who always sat in the front row of the church. She was totally blind... like you could wave a sledge hammer at her face and she wouldn't flinch. So after church, Jordan asked our parents why she always had to sit in the front... I mean, she's blind, she can sit anywhere to hear the message. Then we started joking more about her... "I wonder if she knows whether or not her socks match".. yada yada. Then Jordan was like "I wonder how she knows when she's finished wiping when she goes to the bathroom."

I think a lot of people are put-off by her intelligence and maybe that's why she's been single for a while. If you aren't intimidated by it, I think you guys could be a great couple. Plus, she's actually pretty good looking for how smart she is. She just needs to get out in the sun more... she's white as a ghost.
 
yearofthenick

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I do want to tell you though that when I talked to her before I moved back to NorCal, I was talking to her about her school and if she thinks she's done, and she was like "YEs, absolutely. I'm pretty burned out." So at least that is good.
I agree with everyone else on here. Ultimately, just drop your purse and ask her out. There's nothing wrong with going and getting a coffee. Just call her up and say "Hey, I'm going crazy over here in Pt., I don't know anyone. Can we hang out sometime? Like get a coffee or something? My treat." I'm sure she'd love it, since she doesn't know too many people in Oxnard either, except her grandfather.
And she definitely has a sense of humor. I remember her saying "Man, I'd love to sleep in, but I have to get up every morning at 8am to put drops in my grandfathers eyes." She meant it as a joke.
Rotary talks about how you shouldn't take her out to dinner, but we have to eat regardless... might as well do it together. She loves BJ's Restaurant. If it gets better, take her there...
 
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