braydonosu
Member
shyfish - sounds like you need to go on that nanny 911 show and have one of those 'nice' little brittish ladies whip your husbend into shape.
I cannot speak from a married point of view, but as a boyfriend that holds a full time job with a girlfriend that also holds a full time job . . . times have changed.
I cook almost 100% of the time if we don't go out to eat. We both do laundry (although she does fold and iron, i just put the cloths into the wash and dryer) And she cleans most of the time (she actually likes to clean) We've discussed children and she wants to take a few years off when he/she/they are young, but then she wants to go back. If/when we do have kids I will be a huge part of their lives - some of my generation are fully capable of taking care of ourselves and helping others.
Women, sometimes you just need to put a foot down and tell him to get his own da&n dinner - maybe put an embargo on the b00ty.
I do appreciate the sacrifice that parents (most of the time mom's) make - up at the butt crack of dawn - get the kids off to school - work - pick kids up - dinner - run kids to activities - laundry - put kids to bed - just to start all over again tomorrow. Single parents especialy deserve a lot of credit - i'm sure there are a few of you on here... there is no way that I could do all of that by myself.
I cannot speak from a married point of view, but as a boyfriend that holds a full time job with a girlfriend that also holds a full time job . . . times have changed.
I cook almost 100% of the time if we don't go out to eat. We both do laundry (although she does fold and iron, i just put the cloths into the wash and dryer) And she cleans most of the time (she actually likes to clean) We've discussed children and she wants to take a few years off when he/she/they are young, but then she wants to go back. If/when we do have kids I will be a huge part of their lives - some of my generation are fully capable of taking care of ourselves and helping others.
Women, sometimes you just need to put a foot down and tell him to get his own da&n dinner - maybe put an embargo on the b00ty.
I do appreciate the sacrifice that parents (most of the time mom's) make - up at the butt crack of dawn - get the kids off to school - work - pick kids up - dinner - run kids to activities - laundry - put kids to bed - just to start all over again tomorrow. Single parents especialy deserve a lot of credit - i'm sure there are a few of you on here... there is no way that I could do all of that by myself.
jennythebugg
Active Member
i love you ^^^^^
scopus tang
Active Member
Jeeesh, I'm thinking its wife swap time - any of you gals have husbands who want to participate?! I'd really like to be able to just come home after work, put my feet up and have dinner, laundry done, and get all my needs met
da&n. Frankly, I'd have been out on my butt a long time ago, if I had that attitude
. Cudos to all you women out there who are doing it all, but as braydonosu said, the times they are achanging. Great that you can, but as Darthtang said, why would you
? That said, I also have a ton of respect for those who are doing it all on their own - that to me is amazing
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shyfish
Member
Hi,
Glad to hear times are changing, but to be honest few guys nowadays are keepers.
Jennythebug says she loves you... She is telling you that your not the norm, such nice guys are unusual.
As for me... I stayed with my jerk 33 years. My divorce was final Jan 30th 2009.
It’s not all bad, the kids think I'm a crazy saint, and I have 12 grandchildren I adore. The X is still crying he loves me and wants me back. I get the sweet pleasure of saying NO WAY!
, and now I found the SWF site. My life is finally good!
Glad to hear times are changing, but to be honest few guys nowadays are keepers.
Jennythebug says she loves you... She is telling you that your not the norm, such nice guys are unusual.
As for me... I stayed with my jerk 33 years. My divorce was final Jan 30th 2009.
It’s not all bad, the kids think I'm a crazy saint, and I have 12 grandchildren I adore. The X is still crying he loves me and wants me back. I get the sweet pleasure of saying NO WAY!
zoie2
Active Member
My grandmother had a sign in her house that read:
A man may work from sun to sun,
But a wonmans work is never done.
and for some reason it's true.
I can't complain about my husband he does help wtih dinner, he will do laundry, he cleans etc.
And I help him with his chores. I help him moe the grass (we have an 8 acre farm), prune the trees, shovel snow, bring out the trash etc.
But at the end of the day, he is done and I am not.
A man may work from sun to sun,
But a wonmans work is never done.
and for some reason it's true.
I can't complain about my husband he does help wtih dinner, he will do laundry, he cleans etc.
And I help him with his chores. I help him moe the grass (we have an 8 acre farm), prune the trees, shovel snow, bring out the trash etc.
But at the end of the day, he is done and I am not.
hlcroghan
Active Member
yep, that would be why I am divorced too........I basically did everything. My ex would wait until I came home and then ask me to do stuff that he could do himself. He wouldn't bathe, feed or put the kids to bed until we were divorced and he had to. i actually taught him to cook and he still wouldn't do it. I did all the cooking and we shared the chores. He was addicted to videogames and would sit there all day while I did everything else. Wow, memories......lol Luckily I only stayed married for 5 years......am with a great man now who does share the cleaning.....
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tizzo
Guest
Ya see TM, it's not just me. It's just the way it is...
When a guy does stuff, he's "helping"
For a guy to be the designated cooker or cleaner is not at all common. Nor, should it be. I had a role reversal once, where the hubby stayed home and did all the "chores", while I worked. I can honestly say, that I never again want THAT responsibility. To know that if I get sick, the bills fall behind! To know that if I lost my job, we potentially lose everything. No sir, no way!
He pays for the house, I keep it kept up. That's a fair trade, IMO. But throwing a job into the mix makes a simple routine, impossible!
My house looks like crap, and I could prolly have it cleaned before I go to bed. Half of me thinks, I wanna just relax, and half of me thinks, this was my choice and I hafta keep up.
my 14 year old just earned himself 50 bucks for cleaning...I mean REALLY cleaning, my whole house! But that was last week and now it's a mess again. Clean, but still, a wreck.
When a guy does stuff, he's "helping"
For a guy to be the designated cooker or cleaner is not at all common. Nor, should it be. I had a role reversal once, where the hubby stayed home and did all the "chores", while I worked. I can honestly say, that I never again want THAT responsibility. To know that if I get sick, the bills fall behind! To know that if I lost my job, we potentially lose everything. No sir, no way!
He pays for the house, I keep it kept up. That's a fair trade, IMO. But throwing a job into the mix makes a simple routine, impossible!
My house looks like crap, and I could prolly have it cleaned before I go to bed. Half of me thinks, I wanna just relax, and half of me thinks, this was my choice and I hafta keep up.
my 14 year old just earned himself 50 bucks for cleaning...I mean REALLY cleaning, my whole house! But that was last week and now it's a mess again. Clean, but still, a wreck.