Just ended

the_bandit

Member
Just ended my 3 and a half year relationship with the girl I dated all through high school. Thought it would last but she cut me off at the knee's. Don't want to be a downer or have anyone feel like I'm whinning. Just need a place to write down some raw emotions.
 

jaodissa

Member
Im sorry. Relationships at younger ages are difficult. I got married at 18 and had no idea what I was in for. Take things slow and try to cheer up! Harder done than said I know.
 

flower

Well-Known Member

Break ups hurt....give yourself a little time to get over her, try not to stew on it too much. Be sure to not judge all girls by the bad things this one did.
So big sigh, and go hang with some good friends.
 

noah's nemo

Member
Little advice my dad gave me at 16."There is going to be a girl who you swear is "the one" she will rip your heart out and make you feel like you just died".....I know this does not make you feel better,but i'm 35 now and i now know i'm with my soulmate!It happens to all of us,it will make you stronger and really know what love is when you find it. OH, and don't do anything stupid(my dad told me that too). Now go out and sew your royal oats
 

flower

Well-Known Member
Originally Posted by Noah's Nemo
http:///forum/post/3216166
Little advice my dad gave me at 16."There is going to be a girl who you swear is "the one" she will rip your heart out and make you feel like you just died".....I know this does not make you feel better,but i'm 35 now and i now know i'm with my soulmate!It happens to all of us,it will make you stronger and really know what love is when you find it. OH, and don't do anything stupid(my dad told me that too). Now go out and sew your royal oatst^
LOL...you mean "sow your wild oats". Its a very old saying and as an OLDER person....well let me leave it there
 

the_bandit

Member
I appreciate all the kind words. I am alot more mature for my age and made the mistake of dating someone that still acted like a child in certin aspects. I do plan on hanging out with friends and family. I just feel like a open nerve ending, exposed to everything and it all hurts. She emtionally detatched from me about 8 months ago and ended it extremely cold.
It just really physically and emtionally hurts my heart to know that I gave her anything she needed. A shoulder, a open ear, a friend, a caretaker, a provider and that still wasn't enough. How selfish can people get?
 

ryancw01

Member
If you are always 'giving' without wanting anything in return then people are going to take advantage of you. For your next relationship, set boundaries and make sure you are looking out for #1. That is you! Find a girl that you know is not just going to be looking for the next best thing out there because if you find the wrong type of girl and you are Mr. Nice Guy, you will always be 'chasing' and she will always be 'pulling away'. Find a girl where there is no push and no pull. It is just even. You both do things for eachother evenly. Make sense?
 

the_bandit

Member
Yeah. It makes alot of sense actually.
I did want things. Not much. I didn't need her to support my hobby, financially support me, and I barely needed anything from her. All I asked is you stay faithful, treat me with love and respect, and be affectionet. I don't think that is too much to ask for. Its what anyone should do if they cared about another person. I always tried to treat her how I would want to be treated but she was always looking out for herself, her friends, or her job. Just not the guy that has stuck around for everything.
I dont think she cheated if anyone is wondering. I always expressed how I felt about that and she seemed to be on the same level as me. Its amazing. I am surronded by people that have cheated and I absolutely hate cheaters. I hope that as long as she didnt cheat, I will be able to get over this easier.
 

noah's nemo

Member
Originally Posted by Flower
http:///forum/post/3216178
LOL...you mean "sow your wild oats". Its a very old saying and as an OLDER person....well let me leave it there

No, i meant royal oats.....I was simply quoting MR. James Earl Jones.

Bandit,trust me you will get over her,funny thing is ,in 15 years she'll be the one with regrets.Besides at 19 i was out getting as many oats as i could,my crushing blow didn't come till i was 22,but at 29 i truly found out what life was all about.It'll happen,we've all felt the way you do now,it sucks,but it ends too
 

the_bandit

Member
I understand what your sayin'
Time is good but it can be the worst too. I've decided that dating and relationships are going to be on the back burner for a while. Ive never been me. Always had someone with me so I think Im going to rekindle the relationships I have lost with my friends and family.
 
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