Man code?
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tangman99
Active Member
Originally Posted by crimzy
http:///forum/post/3104149
Let's not misinterpret this guys...
We're talking about fun, not relationships.
Sounds like fun to me! Pound away!
http:///forum/post/3104149
Let's not misinterpret this guys...
We're talking about fun, not relationships.
Sounds like fun to me! Pound away!
sepulatian
Moderator
They are not in a relationship... Do what you do... No need to tell the friend the details. Confidentiality is a beautiful thing
tank a holic
Active Member
since you initially gave him the courtesy of dibbs it would be against man law to revoke such right without warning
tell dude he has a month or deal's off
and yes booty calls count as dates in this situation unless both parties agree to share said "buddy"
tell dude he has a month or deal's off
and yes booty calls count as dates in this situation unless both parties agree to share said "buddy"
yearofthenick
Active Member
wait a second... you kind of already told him you wanted to make the move right? Even though he grumbled, he didn't outright say no. Now, because he didn't say no, that means he just wants to keep her in his back pocket for a rainy day... selfishly. Just do it dude. I don't think you should take a perennial bachelor seriously with stuff like this anyway.
I'm going to have to check the "GO FOR IT" box, along with the majority of the other peeps on here. Do it.
I'm going to have to check the "GO FOR IT" box, along with the majority of the other peeps on here. Do it.
briand7878
Member
I am living your drama right now. Get the official ok first, I didn't and now my good friend and I don't talk. Just because you think its a booty call doesn't mean that it wont turn into something like mine did. Now I have a great girl but a bad friendship.
cranberry
Active Member
Originally Posted by tank a holic
http:///forum/post/3104536
since you initially gave him the courtesy of dibbs it would be against man law to revoke such right without warning
tell dude he has a month or deal's off
and yes booty calls count as dates in this situation unless both parties agree to share said "buddy"
True that!
Originally Posted by BRIAND7878
http:///forum/post/3104601
I am living your drama right now. Get the official ok first, I didn't and now my good friend and I don't talk. Just because you think its a booty call doesn't mean that it wont turn into something like mine did. Now I have a great girl but a bad friendship.
True that!
Laws and logic don't prevail in these situations. If you end up really wanting to date her, talk to him. Let him know you are serious that you would really like to date her. I've been there, done that..... multiple times. I've been in all three positions. It's still kind of .... odd, even when you do talk it all out and you meet up while on a date.
http:///forum/post/3104536
since you initially gave him the courtesy of dibbs it would be against man law to revoke such right without warning
tell dude he has a month or deal's off
and yes booty calls count as dates in this situation unless both parties agree to share said "buddy"
True that!
Originally Posted by BRIAND7878
http:///forum/post/3104601
I am living your drama right now. Get the official ok first, I didn't and now my good friend and I don't talk. Just because you think its a booty call doesn't mean that it wont turn into something like mine did. Now I have a great girl but a bad friendship.
True that!
Laws and logic don't prevail in these situations. If you end up really wanting to date her, talk to him. Let him know you are serious that you would really like to date her. I've been there, done that..... multiple times. I've been in all three positions. It's still kind of .... odd, even when you do talk it all out and you meet up while on a date.
yearofthenick
Active Member
But what right does his friend have to claim ownership of another woman? Who he's not even dating? We get so caught up in this yours-mine business, but the truth is it's up to the woman to decide (big surprise).
Originally Posted by BRIAND7878
http:///forum/post/3104601
I am living your drama right now. Get the official ok first, I didn't and now my good friend and I don't talk. Just because you think its a booty call doesn't mean that it wont turn into something like mine did. Now I have a great girl but a bad friendship.
Your friend is being childish and selfish. Unless you're dating his girlfriend, he shouldn't be upset at all. The bad friendship you have is because of HIM, not you. What right does he have to keep you from a good relationship with a girl?
People regularly contort the meaning behind "bros before hoes" ... it really means that you're not going to let a girl get in the way of your brotherhood. You're not doing that, but HE is. You're dating someone and he's letting it cause problems... he's letting the hoe come between you bro's.
Originally Posted by BRIAND7878
http:///forum/post/3104601
I am living your drama right now. Get the official ok first, I didn't and now my good friend and I don't talk. Just because you think its a booty call doesn't mean that it wont turn into something like mine did. Now I have a great girl but a bad friendship.
Your friend is being childish and selfish. Unless you're dating his girlfriend, he shouldn't be upset at all. The bad friendship you have is because of HIM, not you. What right does he have to keep you from a good relationship with a girl?
People regularly contort the meaning behind "bros before hoes" ... it really means that you're not going to let a girl get in the way of your brotherhood. You're not doing that, but HE is. You're dating someone and he's letting it cause problems... he's letting the hoe come between you bro's.
cranberry
Active Member
Originally Posted by YearOfTheNick
http:///forum/post/3104797
But what right does his friend have to claim ownership of another woman?
No right.... but again....
Originally Posted by Cranberry
http:///forum/post/3104692
Laws and logic don't prevail in these situations.
You don't even know what you are getting into if your friend says it's okay. I once gave the okay 'cause I thought it was. Then when I saw them together and it bothered me... too late. There's not a darn thing I could do about feeiling that way and of course I kept it to myself. I ended up moving further and further away from my friend. We hooked up on facebook the other day after not having talked in 10 years. It's not worth a skirt if you are close to your friend!! It's just not!
http:///forum/post/3104797
But what right does his friend have to claim ownership of another woman?
No right.... but again....
Originally Posted by Cranberry
http:///forum/post/3104692
Laws and logic don't prevail in these situations.
You don't even know what you are getting into if your friend says it's okay. I once gave the okay 'cause I thought it was. Then when I saw them together and it bothered me... too late. There's not a darn thing I could do about feeiling that way and of course I kept it to myself. I ended up moving further and further away from my friend. We hooked up on facebook the other day after not having talked in 10 years. It's not worth a skirt if you are close to your friend!! It's just not!
crimzy
Active Member
My situation is a little different than most. Based on who we are, how close we are, and the fact that no one here is talking about a real relationship, I could probably call him with her in my bed and he'd have no choice but to laugh it off.
However on a more serious note, guys do take this whole, "I got dibs..." nonsense too far. I lost a friend once because he thought that he was going to hook up with a girl who was in town for the weekend... well the girl liked me instead. Something happened and my friendship ended. It was pretty silly but he wasn't that good of a friend of mine anyway.
However on a more serious note, guys do take this whole, "I got dibs..." nonsense too far. I lost a friend once because he thought that he was going to hook up with a girl who was in town for the weekend... well the girl liked me instead. Something happened and my friendship ended. It was pretty silly but he wasn't that good of a friend of mine anyway.
cranberry
Active Member
But don't even mess with it!!! Just ask! Even though to have to ask is proper bull do-do and no one has ownership and if he was a friend he wouldn't hold you up... blah blah blah. Just ASK! A simple little unspoken friend formality.
Of course he will say yes.... so you're covered.
But what if he says NO!! Whatever his reason is, even it's a jacka.. reason, it would have ruined your friendship if you had already gone and done it.
You: "Dood, I really want to ask that girl out... seriously. But I won't if she means anything to you".
Your friend: "Sure Bro. Lemme share some things with ya she likes O.O!!!!"
You are in the clear.... easy as pie.
Of course he will say yes.... so you're covered.
But what if he says NO!! Whatever his reason is, even it's a jacka.. reason, it would have ruined your friendship if you had already gone and done it.
You: "Dood, I really want to ask that girl out... seriously. But I won't if she means anything to you".
Your friend: "Sure Bro. Lemme share some things with ya she likes O.O!!!!"
You are in the clear.... easy as pie.
bulldog123
Member
Its not about the girl. You just have to ask yourself and your buddy if becoming peter-in-laws is going to be a problem.
cranberry
Active Member
Originally Posted by Bulldog123
http:///forum/post/3104813
Its not about the girl. You just have to ask yourself and your buddy if becoming peter-in-laws is going to be a problem.
LOL
http:///forum/post/3104813
Its not about the girl. You just have to ask yourself and your buddy if becoming peter-in-laws is going to be a problem.
LOL
bulldog123
Member
Originally Posted by bigarn
http:///forum/post/3104821
3 some ..
I stopped short of that, but maybe it crossed the mind.
http:///forum/post/3104821
3 some ..
I stopped short of that, but maybe it crossed the mind.
yearofthenick
Active Member
Originally Posted by crimzy
http:///forum/post/3104806
I could probably call him with her in my bed and he'd have no choice but to laugh it off.
If this is the case, then we don't even need this thread. Because you have such a lax friendship with this guy, go for it. Again, you did already ask him, though he grumbled. He just wants to keep his options open. Well, so do you, so it's fair game. Plus, you need a little fun... you just got a friggin divorce... in light of that, this guy should be ushering women to you!
http:///forum/post/3104806
I could probably call him with her in my bed and he'd have no choice but to laugh it off.
If this is the case, then we don't even need this thread. Because you have such a lax friendship with this guy, go for it. Again, you did already ask him, though he grumbled. He just wants to keep his options open. Well, so do you, so it's fair game. Plus, you need a little fun... you just got a friggin divorce... in light of that, this guy should be ushering women to you!
crimzy
Active Member
Originally Posted by spanko
http:///forum/post/3104604
All other considerations aside, would this be a conflict of interest problem with either her's or your client??? Sounds like a risk to me.
I was thinking about this and I don't think there is a problem. There is no conflict of professional interests, nor would there be any confidentiality problems. I don't see any ethical rule that would address an issue like this. Spoke to my buddy about this issue to and he did not see an ethical problem here.
As far as the clients go, it's not their business what I do in my personal life and I see no reason it would affect the case...
http:///forum/post/3104604
All other considerations aside, would this be a conflict of interest problem with either her's or your client??? Sounds like a risk to me.
I was thinking about this and I don't think there is a problem. There is no conflict of professional interests, nor would there be any confidentiality problems. I don't see any ethical rule that would address an issue like this. Spoke to my buddy about this issue to and he did not see an ethical problem here.
As far as the clients go, it's not their business what I do in my personal life and I see no reason it would affect the case...