married women, HELP ME!

[dburr]

My mother-in-law's house was FLOODED. She ran out of oil and the pipes busted.
Well, my wifes wedding gown was preservered and under a bed. I fear it is soaked with water. My wife is freaking out and wants me to drive 20 miles (again, Iwas just there) to go get it. I didn't know it was there when I was there. I just learned this now. My M-I-L is in NC.
Anyway, I say go get it tommorow and bring it right to the cleaners, it's wet and wouldn't stains appear when it dries? So let it stay wet.
She says go get it so it wont get more damaged. Why would it? Men are coming tommorow to dry out the carpet and start cleaning.
What do I do?

 

[bang guy]

Usually preserved dresses are packed in an airtight plastic bag.
Airtight = watertight.
I hope so anyway good luck!

 

[dburr]

God I hope so, my wife doesn't think so. She calmed down now and we shall see tomorrow.

 

[beth]

You could tell her to go get it. It will only take around an hour for the whole round trip. Why does she want you to do it?

 

[blueberryboomer]

Well, I'm a married woman, and I would have reacted the same way your wife did. Our wedding dresses are the highest thing on our list for keep sakes. Go easy with her. Lisa
P.S I hope it was sealed good and the water didn't do any damage. Let us know.

 

[dburr]

You are right Beth, but it was snowing pretty good at the time. So I can't blame her for wanting me to go.
Anyway, thank God my M-I-L put it in a plastic bag.:yes: The dress was double boxed also. The outter box is alittle damp, but not to bad.
She is happy now.
I was reading some things about wedding gowns and you have to refold them every few years, geez, we never new. I guess she has some folding to do, it's been 9 years.

 

[blueberryboomer]

Well I'm happy to hear everything worked out ok. Lisa

 

[rangermonroe]

Posting of poor taste deleted

 

[doxboi]

Beth You could tell her to go get it.
That is ok but I think if you LOVE your wife and LIKE her you would be more than glad to go get it. And yes it has been nine years, but a wedding dress is a wedding dress. Some people keep them to give to their daughters. As for me I would have went without question becasue my wife is my Queen and I would love to pass the dress down even if my daughter did not use it. Queen meaning she means alot to me and if that means alot to her I would just do it. Sometime logic needs to be placed below other things. A smile on my wife means more than anything! That is the problem in current times, people are to busy thinking about self rather than others especially wifes, have you noticed the rise in divorces, that might be a clue!! Bottom line "If momma isn't happy than no ones happy!"

 

[rangermonroe]

By the way, my former post was made in jest. I've been married for forteen years to the same girl...so I obviously dint use or advocate the use of wedding dresses for polishing cloths, not filter floss.

 

[floorguy]

If she cared so much why wasnt it under your bed instead of 20 min away. LOL

 

[thomas712]

Dburr - Prase your mother in law for at least putting in a plastic bag. I have a couple of questions about what you mean by preserved.
Did you take it to a dry cleaner? or preservation company?
And does it have a lifetime gaurentee of not turning yellow?
Some Dry cleaners say preserved but that only means that it is in an acid free box with acid free paper, there should be special instructions about handling.
True preservation can cost a couple of hundred dollars, this means acid free box, paper and even gloves for future handling of the dress. You should never have to refold it. And it should not be in an airtight bag, airtight would mean that condensation could happen and then mold can set in. Heat and cold can cause this condensation after those 9 years so it has to be breathable but, yes, sealed.
I would suggest that you make this dress a concern that you wife will love you for. Make some inquiries about how the dress was truly preserved. If it was not done properly then get ahold of your local bridal shop and inquire about this subject. We used someone called Midwest Preservation out of Ohio I believe.
If you need more info let me know, my wife is a bridal consultant.

 

[dburr]

If she cared so much why wasnt it under your bed instead of 20 min away. LOL
LOL, we sold our house, moved to hers for a couple months until we bought a new one. Some were left behind. I truly thought the dress went with us. When I got the call, I did not want to tell her for fear of my life(or her uncle's{he was watching the house}).
Did you take it to a dry cleaner?
Yeah, just the drycleaners. I guess if it was done right, it would be boxed up so no folds would ever happen.
I will have to see what she wants to do with it. To do it right, it could cost some big $ huh.:nervous: But like you said, she would love me all the more.

 

[floorguy]

Thats funny. I`m glad everything work out for the good.

 

[scoobydoo]

dburr, not to bash you, but I would say that if you're wife was that upset and you wouldn't do everything in your power to make it better and you wanted her to drive in the snow, you got more problems that a wet dress. Glad it worked out though.

 

[dburr]

dburr, not to bash you, but I would say that if you're wife was that upset and you wouldn't do everything in your power to make it better and you wanted her to drive in the snow, you got more problems that a wet dress.
Now hold on a second, (I understand what your saying, and i'm not upset)But wouldn't a drying dress be worse than a wet dress? What I mean is, if I picked it up, and it started to dry until I get it to the dry cleaners, wet stains would begin to appear. Wouldn't it of been better to let it stay wet, pick it up the next morning, and take it straight to the cleaners? They know more about drying a dress than I do. I thought I was doing the right thing to wait.
If I picked it up and stains appeared, I would feel awful.

But, like you said it all right now, and we kissed and made up.

 

[thomas712]

I would have to double check but the dry cleaners are not adiquit enough to deal with all stains. Suger stains for instance can be invisible, but later can create some dark brown stains.
I did get a 1-800 number for the people that took care of my wifes dress. I'll have to check with her in the morning but I could give it to you if you like. The catch is that you would have to send the dress in, just like you would if you went through a bridal store. They can get stains seen and unseen out of the dress and make it musieum(sp) quality worthy. Protect it from yellowing with a lifetime guarentee I believe. Box it up with a window for viewing using the proper acid free materials..
Strange but my wifes dress is at my in laws as well, but they only live two streets from us.
Up to you.