Whats up man? Sounds like the ole tank is stressful once again
.. Hope I can help a bit, so for your GPH you dont need to factor your overflow into the equation for the flow in the tank just add the GPH ratings together for each of your powerheads, including your return line.. So for me I have a return rated at 350gph after the 4' climb plus a K3 and a K2 so that all together would equal about 1800GPH in my 65g.
As for the overflow I'm not exactly sure what the problem may be, what is your return pump rated at? if it matches your overflow there shoudnt be any issues.. I would maybe check what the gph of the return pump is at the 4' mark b/c I know mine is rated at 450 but drops pretty good the higher it has to pump the water, so I would maybe check that? Oh and also are you able to move your overflow up and down? I know on mine I can adjust it so the water level cant climb over a certain piont.
And what kind of algae are you getting? is it still the cyano? I know when my tank went through that stage it was hell, my sandbed was almost completely covered nothing I did worked.. But I did notice in the mornings it had faded back, so like I said killed the light for awhile and it hasnt come back since.. And I feel ya on the not feeding thing those little guys they make it seem like its life or death in there and you better feed um before the get mad at you? Crazy little fish have me wrapped around there fins..
And as a last note the whole tank was at the rim thing, that is scary stuff!! I wouldnt know what to do?