My brother tried to kill himself.....

tx reef

tx reef

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My brother (same mother, different fathers) cut his wrists because his girlfriend was going to break up with him. He did this last night at about 7:00pm (central time; last night being Friday night).
I got a call from him after he had been checked in at the emergency room. He and his girlfriend had been arguing over money and some other issues and her parents somehow got involved and were trying to get Heather (his girlfriend) away from the apartment to come stay with them. My brother decided the best way to stop this was to cut on his wrists. After this he ends up in a room in the emergency section of the hospital with a cop outside the door. My mother is just getting over a ruptured appendix that she had taken out 2 weeks ago. She is slow at recovering due to her fibromyalsia (I hope I spelled that right), so I had to stay with him and talk to the doctors.
I tried all night to convince them to keep until at least 8:00am (central time).
My wife and I got to the hospital at 8:00pm and they discharged him at 2:00am. Man am I tired.
My brother is very obsessive and insecure when it comes to relationships. He suffers from ADHD, manic depression, and bipolar. He refuses to take meds, thus the problems.
His girlfriends step-father is a police officer here in Temple. She is staying with her mother and step-father and has the only key to the apartment her and my brother just got. I took him to our grandmothers house to stay and I am going to take him to get the key at 8:00am.
The step-father despises my brother, but hopefully I can keep things from getting out of hand. It really tears me up to see my brother going through this again and there is nothing I can do about it. He has been in 2 psychiatric hospitals for a total of 1.5 years. I can't stand watching him go through this. He was crying so hard when I left him at my grandmothers house. He is so screwed up in the head and it is not his fault. His father is the minister of a local church and has never claimed his own son and has not spoken to him since he was 5. My brother is now 22. When things like this happen it makes me want to go over to his "fathers" house and kick his ass.
Anyway, I need to go to bed because I am going to pick up my brother and take him to get his keys in about 4-1/2 hours.
Sorry for the rant.
Good night.
 
windmill

windmill

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Brothers can do stupid things. I'm not suggesting yours is stupid, just that your story reminded me of my brother.
Mine tried the same thing for similar reasons a couple years ago. He built what's called a zip-gun and used a 9 mm round in an attempt to ventilate his head. Apparently he was pretty detemined too, he went for the soft temple area. But zip-guns aren't very reliable and it didn't have enough power to put the round completely through his skull. So he ended up with a 9 mm round slightly protruding from his temple, oozing blood all down the right side of his body. He got medivac'd to the closest major hospital and put under watch. Anyways, he ended up escaping a few days after that and hitch-hiking the 90 some-odd miles back home with his bandage still there. Did it change his life? No, not noticably atleast, he's sitting in prison right now, been there for about a year, still has another 4 or so to go.
I hear ya TX, family problems suck.
 
reckler

reckler

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I am really sorry to hear about your brother TX. He will eventually snap out of it. He needs to live alsone for awhile and build up his own confidence, instaed of trying to rely on someone all the time. I was like that too. after I went through (what I thought was hard times), some hard times with woman. I decided to stop dating for about 3 years. It helped me get in touch with myself better. Now I am married and, well you now the story.
If he wants a woman he needs to focus on himslf first. the reast will be easy!
I respect what you said about his dad, but you should be kicking his ass for being stupid like that. I wished I had a brother that would have done that for me. My brother lived with my grand parents my whole life and didn't really know him until I was 18. now he kicks my ass to maake up for lost time..

I hope your brother is going to be ok. it will be hard for him for awhile but just be there for him if he needs someone to talk to.
 
windmill

windmill

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This is the aquarium chipmaker. In case you haven't noticed; people post anything and everything here, fish related or not. That's what it's for. If your looking for fish news or aquarium information, go to another forum. And if your looking for something "everyone on the internet needs to be made aware of" go to CNBC or MSN.
 
chipmaker

chipmaker

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Like I said its somehting that everyone out on the internet needs to know....there certianly is other places better suited than a fish forum to announce ones brothers plans to do himself in. Oh and while were at it, I have a bad case of the runs, so perhaps this is the propper place to discuss that malady as well. Should I start another thread to see if there is any help out here in cyber land........oh, and I am alergic to pepto, so I can't use that.
 
coachklm

coachklm

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Originally Posted by chipmaker
Like I said its somehting that everyone out on the internet needs to know....there certianly is other places better suited than a fish forum to announce ones brothers plans to do himself in. Oh and while were at it, I have a bad case of the runs, so perhaps this is the propper place to discuss that malady as well. Should I start another thread to see if there is any help out here in cyber land........oh, and I am alergic to pepto, so I can't use that.
its a public forum thats free for speaking(typing) his posts follow the rules of SWF.com so it is allowed... some people on this board feel close enough (which is wonderful IMO) to discuss these things with fellow reefers... and its thereputic in nature.
as for your your runs..... maybe a large enima may do the trick...
 
windmill

windmill

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there certianly is other places better suited than a fish forum to announce ones brothers plans to do himself in.
I sure am glad you have the ability to make that decision for everyone. And there are better places to criticize people during hard times than a fish forum.
Oh and while were at it, I have a bad case of the runs, so perhaps this is the propper place to discuss that malady as well.
You're not all that observant are you? This is the place for ANY discussions. Be it as simple and pointless as your issue with your bowel's activity, or as troubling and difficult as serious family problems.
Should I start another thread to see if there is any help out here in cyber land.
By all means!! If that is in fact what you seek - help for your bowels - that's what this forum is for. Quit being an inconsiderate nit-picky little prick. There are a lot of useless threads on this site, go find one and be a pain in the ass there. Not here, where someone is being genuine and possibly looking for a little guidance or sympathy.....dude's going through a hard time, quit trying to make it harder.
 
torno

torno

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I feel for you man, I've had to go through the same thing with my sibling over the years, its hard, but hopefully he'll allow himself to get help and things will get better.
hang in there.
 
tx reef

tx reef

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Anyway, I just got back from dropping my brother off at work. I had to sit up at the police station for 3 hours with him just to get the keys to his apartment back. I dropped him off at work because the last thing in the world he needs is to be at home alone. Thanks to all who show concern. I am going back to sleep.
 
maroonytun

maroonytun

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I'm very sorry, TX. He will get better.
Chipmaker, why th heck did you even post that, it's the "Aquarium", for off-topic posts. He can post this here a long as he follows he rules, he did, either be nice, or find another thread.
 
lovethesea

lovethesea

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sorry for your problems. But........he will not get better with time. I have lived with a person such as your brother my entire life. He must get back on his meds.
Since he has had a suicide attempt can you or your family get him into a facility to help get him on track with meds and counceling? Trust me......it is a terrible cycle and everyone gets sucked into it. Most of these folks take their meds and then start to feel better and then "hey, I feel great.....I am getting off of them" Manic depressive disorder is a tricky one and it takes time to get meds on board to straighten things out. Mania can last days,weeks, months etc. Same with the depressive side. This break up could have flipped the switch. Rapid cycling also happens and that is another animal in and of itself.
Now is the time to see if he can get the help he needs. How old is he??
 
tx reef

tx reef

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He is 22.
My mother and I are looking into options. He needs to be pulled out of the "world" for at least six months and then maybe he will have a chance. We have been dealing with this for the last 8 years.
 
babyb

babyb

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im very sorry for your brother i hope that he is ok, i know what its like to have someone kill themselfs, my father killed himself on my sixth birthday, and its something that my family lives with the rest of our lives
i will be praying for your family
 
djmx2002

djmx2002

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We all been throgh some hard time, but this is life, he need to take his life seriously, women come and go most of the time.
I really hope you're brother will get over that real fast, and like the other guys here said there are 3,000,000,000 other girls, that's not the end of the world, and i guess probably some alone time could build up his self esteem a bit.
Take care man,
and best wishes for your brother
 
1journeyman

1journeyman

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Originally Posted by TX Reef
He is 22.
My mother and I are looking into options. He needs to be pulled out of the "world" for at least six months and then maybe he will have a chance. We have been dealing with this for the last 8 years.
I'll be praying for you guys.
Sounds like a good plan. Mental illness is not something people "just get over, get better from, etc."
As for the father... does the church know he has a son he's refused to support?
 
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