I am used to that as well. I have had people set up meetings many many times and never show up. People just are not what they used to be. Because of this it is sad, but I really do not buy or trade anything with people that are not local. Whats worse is there is no one local to buy, sell, and trade with. I would love to. I shipped some one a $150.00 coral in a trade and got nothing in return. I've contacted him to try to work something out and nothing. Now he will not even respond to my e-mails. States it's because some of the heads died, but I got the pic 6 days later of some heads that were still there and they were just starting to disiningrate. Also said everything looked great upon arrival and did not get the coral until 6 hours after it arrived at his house. It's a shame that we have to resort to this, but we have to protect our selves. I know I have worked hard on my tanks to keep everything healthy and go to great lenghts to offer good quality frags and I am sure you do the same. Good luck.