OMG, my first child is starting school!!! Question...

[crimzy]

Originally Posted by T316
http:///forum/post/2905636
I think maybe you took it personal Crimzy. I was speaking generalizations of many of the parent/kid "first day of school" encounters that I have witnessed. Could elaborate more, but it's your thread, I have insulted you, so I'll leave it alone.
No worries...

 

[alyssia]

Originally Posted by T316
http:///forum/post/2905474
Maybe that's the difference between sons and daughters. I have 3 boys, and only one of them went thru this, and I said..."Have a nice day son"....and walked away. Turned out that was the best day he ever had.
Point being...they are just looking for that string to pull....mommy/daddy ain't going to make me stay here....
Well, cut off the milk supply, grow a pair, and JUST DO IT....

I have to disagree here. I have 3 school age children, and only once have I seen a girl crying on the first day. The rest were all boys crying for their mommies.

 

[dobber1111]

Whoops, Crimzy.... You're a Daddy! Sorry guess I assumed you were a mommy. I guess it doesn't matter. I think my post could be for mom or dad. I do think it is really cute of you to be worrying so much over the readiness of your daughter. I guess, my only question is... Is the Mommy having same concerns? Is she much comfort to you?

 

[crimzy]

Originally Posted by Dobber1111
http:///forum/post/2906022
Whoops, Crimzy.... You're a Daddy! Sorry guess I assumed you were a mommy. I guess it doesn't matter. I think my post could be for mom or dad. I do think it is really cute of you to be worrying so much over the readiness of your daughter. I guess, my only question is... Is the Mommy having same concerns? Is she much comfort to you?

What would make you think I was female?

Of course my wife and I are both anxious about my daughter starting school. I guess I should take it as a compliment that you would relate my concern to that of a woman's.
It's 2009 dude... I change diapers, give baths, sing to my daughters... anything to make them smile, (I may even break dance when the time is right

). And it breaks my heart when they are sad, scared, etc. But I'll tell you this... there is no way, no matter how much I try, that I could be as nurturing to the kids as my wife is. There's something unique/special about the mother/child bond.

 

[camfish]

I was the oldest in my preschool class and every other grade after. That made me think that I was automatically smarter than everyone else (which at the time wasn't true). I credit that extra waiting time to my success in school. It gave me confidence. I'm in highschool now and in all the honors classes...haven't gotten anything less than an A- since 4th grade

 

[beth]

Make the decision closer to when you need to make that decision. All children hit developmental milestones at different paces, and while most doting parents want to think that their child will be walking by 8 mos old, and reading by 4, there is no guarantees about that actually happening. Its better for your daughter to be an achiever, even if its a year later, then struggle just because she has not hit her individual developmental milestone.
Now also, is the time to push learning, in a very fun way, since mental capacity is forming now.

 

[hlcroghan]

I would say go later. i hated being one of the youngest in my class all the time. everyoone got to drive before me and everyone had their birthday before me. it sucked.

 

[crimzy]

Originally Posted by hlcroghan
http:///forum/post/2906071
I would say go later. i hated being one of the youngest in my class all the time. everyoone got to drive before me and everyone had their birthday before me. it sucked.
I think I agree with this. I skipped a grade when I was young and I hated being the only one who couldn't do the things my friends could do.

 

[alyssia]

Originally Posted by hlcroghan
http:///forum/post/2906071
I would say go later. i hated being one of the youngest in my class all the time. everyoone got to drive before me and everyone had their birthday before me. it sucked.
I had the same experience when I was in school.

 

[alyssia]

Originally Posted by crimzy
http:///forum/post/2906031
What would make you think I was female?

Of course my wife and I are both anxious about my daughter starting school. I guess I should take it as a compliment that you would relate my concern to that of a woman's.
It's 2009 dude... I change diapers, give baths, sing to my daughters... anything to make them smile, (I may even break dance when the time is right

). And it breaks my heart when they are sad, scared, etc. But I'll tell you this... there is no way, no matter how much I try, that I could be as nurturing to the kids as my wife is. There's something unique/special about the mother/child bond.

Exactly. It's 2009 dude.

 

[spiderwoman]

Our twins started full day day care when they were little over a year. They will continue there through the 4yr program. In our school district the cutoff is sometime in August if I remember correctly. Our's were born in January so luckily we don't have to worry about being oldest or youngest.
I had the hardest time during the first week of day care. I was the one leaving the facility crying. Especially the first day. I stayed strong in the class room and when I left one of the administrators came to me and asked if mommy needs a hug... flood gates were opened and I sobbed like a child.
There are still morning when one of the twins is very clingy and doesn't want me to go. I've learned that the best way to do in a situation like that is to motion to the teacher that you need to go, and they will get the child/children distracted by something else. You need to leave quickly and not drag it on. That is worse for the child. Hubby hasn't taken them in a single time because he could not leave them there when they start holding on to him. His exact words.
You'll be OK

 

[dobber1111]

Originally Posted by crimzy
http:///forum/post/2906031
What would make you think I was female?

Of course my wife and I are both anxious about my daughter starting school. I guess I should take it as a compliment that you would relate my concern to that of a woman's.
It's 2009 dude... I change diapers, give baths, sing to my daughters... anything to make them smile, (I may even break dance when the time is right

). And it breaks my heart when they are sad, scared, etc. But I'll tell you this... there is no way, no matter how much I try, that I could be as nurturing to the kids as my wife is. There's something unique/special about the mother/child bond.
Ack. Nothing made me think you were either. I just didn't read your post carefully enough...or I only saw what I wanted to see, more likely. And then the posts following sort of seemed to follow a more feminine mindset.

Isn't that terrible? I just assumed. The tendency to worry and fret, to me, fits more into the description of Mommy's job, but I guess that is just stereotypical. Dads worry, too.
How nice of you to say you could not be as nurturing as your wife and that their bond is special. But never underestimated the power of Daddy's love and concern. In some ways, it can't measure up to Mommy's. Why do you think they have the expression Daddy's Girl?