but W/D by themselves (without a skimmer or esp DSB) only add to the nitrate problem
Common thought here but not quite accurate. They will not add to the problem, they just do nothing for it. They only house aerobic bacteria. This bacteria is responsible for the breakdown of ammonia and nitrites.
Anaerobic bacteria which is housed in DSB and DEEP within live rock is what converts nitrates into free nitrogen which escapes through the water column.
Now, stay with me here, With the use of a wet Dry, the water is oxygetad at a much higher rate vs. that with LR only. So, the amount of 02 going in allows the escape of other gases at a faster rate.
With the escape of these other gases helps speed the nitrogen cycle. So in conlusion, the Wet/Dry is the most efficent, IMO, on the market but as you stated it does need a little help.
For the money, think about my old tank. 180 gallon. You would need 180-220 lbs of live rock for a heavy bio-loaded tank, which most aquarists have. At 3$ a pound, that would be $540-660.
Most Wet/Drys on the market large enough for that tank are around 250-450$ with pump.
Not saying any of your statments are incorrect but they do have a very meaningfull role in this hobby. I would put them up against LR in the nitrogen cycle challenge any day. But, LR does have many more advantages. My suggestion to all is, why not have all 3?
A skimmer helps by removing dissolved organics before they have an oppertunity to become nitrate and other waste. IMO, there not a contributing factor much at all in the nitrogen cycle.
P.S. Don't be affraid to arguee.... Thats what all conversation is bassed on. If me and you thought alike, we would not be posting now