To be honest, USUALLY by the time the water gets to the tank, you've typically lost more flow than you expected. I used to try and match things up so they'd be as close as possible and still work properly, but I found that I usually needed or wanted "just a bit more", which is why I now try to get close, but tend to "overpump" a little, and bleed anything I don't want/need back to the sump. You can always reduce flow via the bleed valve, but you can't manufacture flow that isn't there.
I'm no longer a reefer, so I'm not all about "flow, flow, flow", but I still want to have proper flow patterns in the setups.