I think it is a hit or miss issue with urchins I have read alot of info about them eating coraline and their reefsafeness descriptions are monitor with corals. I have heard the Pencil is worse than most but if you have alot of good growth that you like than I would say don't bother. But since it is the wife wanting the urchin you may be able to monitor it and pull it off your rocks when it goes on.
Good Luck and wait for more advice as I have never kept an urchin in with my LR