I don't want to start any arguments here...but you may want to slow down a bit more and post some questions on either the reef of the new hobiest boards.
I think that the advise you will get will be different than you have gotten so far.
First, do not cycle your tank with a fish. Use a couple of coctail shrimp, you can find numerous explainations on how to accomplish this.
Second, if possible, get all of your live rock at the start. If you get more later it is critical that it is fully cured, if not it could but your tank back into a cycle. You may also consider getting rid of your crushed coral in favor of a deep sand bed. Do a search for DSB to see the benifits.
Lighting - if you want to keep an Anenome (lots of discussion on if as much as how) you need a lot of light. If you are going to cut corners the one place you do not want to cut is lighting.
Again, you are going about things the right way...slowly. But before you go any farther, post on the new hobiest board or reef board, that is where the sharks troll. I myself am just out of total rookie status and this is a great place to learn.