Hi eldiablo,
I have a pretty well established 37gal reef at this point. It's been set up for over a year, and I'm in the process of searching out my last 1-2 corals and hopefully a nice clam.
I didn't read through this thread really super carefully, but my first bit of advice is to take your time. Nothing in saltwater, it seems, is done quickly or at the spur of the moment. Problems, when they occur, will wait until you find exactly the best way to deal with them. I know that you mentioned having a 35gal in the past, but was that fresh or salt (not that it matters)?
I would be happy to post a pic of my 37gal if you would like...but again, slow and easy wins the game in this hobby!!
Have great fun with it.
Lisa :happyfish