Go ahead and use the pvc primer and glue. They are fine when they are dry.
You want the ball valve to be on the return line. Mine is about a foot above the pump outlet.
Many people have good results by placing a tee at that point and directing a smaller amount of water back to the sump (controlled by a ball valve). That way there is less resistance on the pump, less wear. You control the amount of water going through the return by controlling the amount that gets diverted back to the sump. Just another option.
Good Luck,
-Christine