Sometimes you can hook up with a partner that really isn't into this stuff at all, like the "can't you put that in the basement" type. Then there are other types, like the " a 55 gallon tank is a good idea as the headboard for the bed in the MBR" ( that was great but NOT good fung shui, LMAO ). I guess everyone has their own idea of mature/adult behavior in the house. My situation is more different than ever, she comes home from work, tests all the tanks parameters, and starts insisting that I do a partial water change on this tank or that one...... ( my tanks ) BTW, HER tanks are HER tanks, and I don't mess with them AT ALL. She is new to this and has become a worse fanatic than I am.