Phixer,
I may have not stated correctly. The sum of all the products possess less energy than the sum of the reactants. Since conservation of energy tells us we cannot simply lose energy to the "ethers", this energy must be given off in some form or another. Your gasoline example is a good example of a chemical reaction that reduces matter to carbon dioxide, water, and mineral salts. In so doing, it produces heat and light. Our calcium carbonate/acetic acid example releases only heat (exothermic reaction). As for the motive force behind the reaction, you're right, it is more than just having all of the players in one spot at the same time. For instance, everyone knows that if you take a lit match and place it on the air/gasoline surface of a puddle of gasoline, you'll soon have no eyebrows. But, if you put an unlit match into gasoline, it just gets wet. All of the tangible compounds exist in both examples, yet one produces the reaction, and one does not. The successful reaction occurs because the lit match already sustains enough heat to initiate the reaction at the air/gasoline interface as the volatile nature of gasoline creates an explosive gas at that interface. Take away the heat, and you have no reaction. Similarly, remove the volatility of the gasoline, and you'll have no reaction. i.e. reduce it to a solid form. It just so happens that our calcium carbonate/acetic acid reaction proceeds quite well at room temperature and atmospheric pressure. It's lucky for us, because it provides a definitive field test for carbonatious rock in geology. We don't have to cart around a pressure vessel, or vacuum pump. Nor do we need to carry a blowtorch or any catalyst...just good ol' vinegar.