darthtang aw
Active Member
I am gonna side with SipTang on this.
If you went to someone's home and proeceded to light a cigarette in the home even though your were a guest, would you put it out and smoke outside if asked to? This is no different. It is about RESPECT. It is SipTang's home. It is no different then coming over to someone's house, bringing your dog for a doggie play date, and being asked to keep your dog off the furniture.
I don't know when, but sometime ago, in this country, we forgot about respect.
And if the guest complains at work about having to remove thier shoes...you can always spread the rumor about how bad thier feet smelled and the amount of toe fungus they had.
Darth (my house, my rules) Tang
P.S. I find it ironic a moderator is backing the play of the person not removing their shoes, but the moderators back the play about many ridiculous rules here on the forum (no posting competitive sites, no trading forum). As I stated, their house, their rules. You don't like it, get out.
If you lose a coworker friend over being asked to remove your shoes, how much of a friend are they truly? Friendship is about Respecting each other.............
If you went to someone's home and proeceded to light a cigarette in the home even though your were a guest, would you put it out and smoke outside if asked to? This is no different. It is about RESPECT. It is SipTang's home. It is no different then coming over to someone's house, bringing your dog for a doggie play date, and being asked to keep your dog off the furniture.
I don't know when, but sometime ago, in this country, we forgot about respect.
And if the guest complains at work about having to remove thier shoes...you can always spread the rumor about how bad thier feet smelled and the amount of toe fungus they had.
Darth (my house, my rules) Tang
P.S. I find it ironic a moderator is backing the play of the person not removing their shoes, but the moderators back the play about many ridiculous rules here on the forum (no posting competitive sites, no trading forum). As I stated, their house, their rules. You don't like it, get out.
If you lose a coworker friend over being asked to remove your shoes, how much of a friend are they truly? Friendship is about Respecting each other.............
flower
Well-Known Member
Quote:Originally Posted by Siptang http:///t/393157/very-irked#post_3495331
I can understand where you are coming from. But there is a difference because you would respect my wishes and not mutter out disrespectful comment like that even if you may think it. I have many friends who are not of Asian descendant that asks for shoes off in their house simply because they don't want to bring all the dirt from outside to inside your home. Thing that bothered me was that she was so irked by something so simple and since I'm opening my house to her and her boyfriend to feed them and to show hospitality, least she can do is be respectful and respect my wishes which is for her to take off her darn shoes without showing any disrespect for me. Even after my wife explained and told her that I even mopped the floor yesterday, she made couple of smart ass comments while dinner about it too which then made me say to mop my floor if she wants to wear shoes in my house.
Whew~ still irked.
I don't think you're mad about the no shoes rule, but at the rude comments....and justly so. I wouldn't be inviting them back any time soon, if ever. That will give your wife the opportunity to explain why they are not welcome into the home. Such people are not friends, and if you must entertain them in the future, take them to a restaurant.
.....................................My sister in law is Asian, and she was so concerned about us removing our shoes, that she had her son (my Nephew) stand by the door to remind everyone who came for Thanksgiving dinner, and until this moment...LOL...I thought she didn't want her house dirty, it never occured to me it was a custom.
I can understand where you are coming from. But there is a difference because you would respect my wishes and not mutter out disrespectful comment like that even if you may think it. I have many friends who are not of Asian descendant that asks for shoes off in their house simply because they don't want to bring all the dirt from outside to inside your home. Thing that bothered me was that she was so irked by something so simple and since I'm opening my house to her and her boyfriend to feed them and to show hospitality, least she can do is be respectful and respect my wishes which is for her to take off her darn shoes without showing any disrespect for me. Even after my wife explained and told her that I even mopped the floor yesterday, she made couple of smart ass comments while dinner about it too which then made me say to mop my floor if she wants to wear shoes in my house.
Whew~ still irked.
I don't think you're mad about the no shoes rule, but at the rude comments....and justly so. I wouldn't be inviting them back any time soon, if ever. That will give your wife the opportunity to explain why they are not welcome into the home. Such people are not friends, and if you must entertain them in the future, take them to a restaurant.
.....................................My sister in law is Asian, and she was so concerned about us removing our shoes, that she had her son (my Nephew) stand by the door to remind everyone who came for Thanksgiving dinner, and until this moment...LOL...I thought she didn't want her house dirty, it never occured to me it was a custom.
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Originally Posted by Darthtang AW http:///t/393157/very-irked/20#post_3495488
I find it ironic a moderator is backing the play of the person not removing their shoes, but the moderators back the play about many ridiculous rules here on the forum (no posting competitive sites, no trading forum). As I stated, their house, their rules. You don't like it, get out.
Its ironic that you are talking to me about the irony of a moderator backing rule-breaking plays, since you yourself, have benefited from this moderator's interventions when others preferred that you be tossed out on your booty from this site. So, you see, I am capable of seeing beyond the tunnel vision that you suggest.
Anyway, Sip asked for opinions, and I gave him an alternative point of view. Smoking cigs, and having dogs all over the furniture doesn't really compare here. 60 years ago people commonly smoked cigs in each others homes without a 2nd thought to it; now we know it is bad for everyone's health not to mention damaging to furniture, walls, drapes, etc......and so are dogs for that matter. However, wearing shoes will not damage the flooring in Sip's home. This was over a cultural custom which may not be understood or appreciated by some people in this country.
If it were me, and it was certainly not me, but if it were, I would have taken a less drastic approach then tossing invited guests out. Again, an opinion was asked, and I gave mine. My opinion has nothing whatever to do with my being a moderator; rather it has to do with me being a member of this community--like you.
Originally Posted by Darthtang AW http:///t/393157/very-irked/20#post_3495488
I find it ironic a moderator is backing the play of the person not removing their shoes, but the moderators back the play about many ridiculous rules here on the forum (no posting competitive sites, no trading forum). As I stated, their house, their rules. You don't like it, get out.
Anyway, Sip asked for opinions, and I gave him an alternative point of view. Smoking cigs, and having dogs all over the furniture doesn't really compare here. 60 years ago people commonly smoked cigs in each others homes without a 2nd thought to it; now we know it is bad for everyone's health not to mention damaging to furniture, walls, drapes, etc......and so are dogs for that matter. However, wearing shoes will not damage the flooring in Sip's home. This was over a cultural custom which may not be understood or appreciated by some people in this country.
If it were me, and it was certainly not me, but if it were, I would have taken a less drastic approach then tossing invited guests out. Again, an opinion was asked, and I gave mine. My opinion has nothing whatever to do with my being a moderator; rather it has to do with me being a member of this community--like you.
darthtang aw
Active Member
:laughing: Its ironic that you are talking to me about the irony of a moderator backing rule-breaking plays, since you yourself, have benefited from this moderator's interventions when others preferred that you be tossed out on your booty from this site. So, you see, I am capable of seeing beyond the tunnel vision that you suggest.
Anyway, Sip asked for opinions, and I gave him an alternative point of view. Smoking cigs, and having dogs all over the furniture doesn't really compare here. 60 years ago people commonly smoked cigs in each others homes without a 2nd thought to it; now we know it is bad for everyone's health not to mention damaging to furniture, walls, drapes, etc......and so are dogs for that matter. However, wearing shoes will not damage the flooring in Sip's home. This was over a cultural custom which may not be understood or appreciated by some people in this country.
If it were me, and it was certainly not me, but if it were, I would have taken a less drastic approach then tossing invited guests out. Again, an opinion was asked, and I gave mine. My opinion has nothing whatever to do with my being a moderator; rather it has to do with me being a member of this community--like you.
He didn't throw them out. I swear half the people that originally commented on his original didn't read all of it....lol
Is there another button I can push?
Darth (The Instigator) Tang
P.S. You know I love ya Beth.....in a weird brother, sister, Deliverance sort of way, sorta.
Anyway, Sip asked for opinions, and I gave him an alternative point of view. Smoking cigs, and having dogs all over the furniture doesn't really compare here. 60 years ago people commonly smoked cigs in each others homes without a 2nd thought to it; now we know it is bad for everyone's health not to mention damaging to furniture, walls, drapes, etc......and so are dogs for that matter. However, wearing shoes will not damage the flooring in Sip's home. This was over a cultural custom which may not be understood or appreciated by some people in this country.
If it were me, and it was certainly not me, but if it were, I would have taken a less drastic approach then tossing invited guests out. Again, an opinion was asked, and I gave mine. My opinion has nothing whatever to do with my being a moderator; rather it has to do with me being a member of this community--like you.
He didn't throw them out. I swear half the people that originally commented on his original didn't read all of it....lol
Is there another button I can push?
Darth (The Instigator) Tang
P.S. You know I love ya Beth.....in a weird brother, sister, Deliverance sort of way, sorta.
Ok, ok. I did miss read the original post when he said "get the heck out". Actually, you can take that sentence both ways in re-reading it.
Anyway, my point was made on the premise that the company was tossed out after the stupid remark. Sorry, Sip.
DT, I was seriously laughing when I saw the comeback you had for me.....could not resist a nice little retort for ya!
Anyway, my point was made on the premise that the company was tossed out after the stupid remark. Sorry, Sip.
DT, I was seriously laughing when I saw the comeback you had for me.....could not resist a nice little retort for ya!
2quills
Well-Known Member
I think Sip's wife was the moderator in this instance. Sip got mad cause the girl made a rude remark behind their back but they over heard it. Clearly, Sip was peeved and rightfully so. Sip remained the bigger person for not throwing the broad out on her keister. Clearly, the girl needed to be educated. So Sip, and his wife did just that. Good job, Sip.
darthtang aw
Active Member
True, but you posted well after his second comment where he describes them eating dinner in the house together.
Darth (pushing buttons) Tang
P.S. I now question your disease advice, lol
Darth (pushing buttons) Tang
P.S. I now question your disease advice, lol
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siptang
Guest
Thanks guys, you guys made me laugh for a bit.
Yes, I'm asking for opinions because at times I get so angry, I miss different perspective on things.
In case that it's not clear, I'm not angry because of the whole "custom" thing but lack of respect that she has shown towards me and my wife by saying it pretty loud. (I'm nearly 100% sure she did it on purpose so we will hear it because she's very "honest" person according to herself) and mentioning it twice while in dinner making a smart arse comments which were quickly shot down by my equally smart arse comments.
I agree with Darth that somewhere down the line, this country lost respect towards one another and it's sad.
But I wanted to see if I was over reacting and was interested in everyone's thoughts and opinions.
Yes, I'm asking for opinions because at times I get so angry, I miss different perspective on things.
In case that it's not clear, I'm not angry because of the whole "custom" thing but lack of respect that she has shown towards me and my wife by saying it pretty loud. (I'm nearly 100% sure she did it on purpose so we will hear it because she's very "honest" person according to herself) and mentioning it twice while in dinner making a smart arse comments which were quickly shot down by my equally smart arse comments.
I agree with Darth that somewhere down the line, this country lost respect towards one another and it's sad.
But I wanted to see if I was over reacting and was interested in everyone's thoughts and opinions.
darthtang aw
Active Member
Thanks guys, you guys made me laugh for a bit.
Yes, I'm asking for opinions because at times I get so angry, I miss different perspective on things.
In case that it's not clear, I'm not angry because of the whole "custom" thing but lack of respect that she has shown towards me and my wife by saying it pretty loud. (I'm nearly 100% sure she did it on purpose so we will hear it because she's very "honest" person according to herself) and mentioning it twice while in dinner making a smart arse comments which were quickly shot down by my equally smart arse comments.
I agree with Darth that somewhere down the line, this country lost respect towards one another and it's sad.
But I wanted to see if I was over reacting and was interested in everyone's thoughts and opinions.
The truly Ironic thing in this whole thread is...........................
Darth (commented about respect) Tang
Yes, I'm asking for opinions because at times I get so angry, I miss different perspective on things.
In case that it's not clear, I'm not angry because of the whole "custom" thing but lack of respect that she has shown towards me and my wife by saying it pretty loud. (I'm nearly 100% sure she did it on purpose so we will hear it because she's very "honest" person according to herself) and mentioning it twice while in dinner making a smart arse comments which were quickly shot down by my equally smart arse comments.
I agree with Darth that somewhere down the line, this country lost respect towards one another and it's sad.
But I wanted to see if I was over reacting and was interested in everyone's thoughts and opinions.
The truly Ironic thing in this whole thread is...........................
Darth (commented about respect) Tang
reefraff
Active Member
Quote:
Originally Posted by Siptang http:///t/393157/very-irked/20#post_3495514
Thanks guys, you guys made me laugh for a bit.
Yes, I'm asking for opinions because at times I get so angry, I miss different perspective on things.
In case that it's not clear, I'm not angry because of the whole "custom" thing but lack of respect that she has shown towards me and my wife by saying it pretty loud. (I'm nearly 100% sure she did it on purpose so we will hear it because she's very "honest" person according to herself) and mentioning it twice while in dinner making a smart arse comments which were quickly shot down by my equally smart arse comments.
I agree with Darth that somewhere down the line, this country lost respect towards one another and it's sad.
But I wanted to see if I was over reacting and was interested in everyone's thoughts and opinions.
You crazy Asians are all alike. Insult your heritage and culture and you fly off the handle.
Originally Posted by Siptang http:///t/393157/very-irked/20#post_3495514
Thanks guys, you guys made me laugh for a bit.
Yes, I'm asking for opinions because at times I get so angry, I miss different perspective on things.
In case that it's not clear, I'm not angry because of the whole "custom" thing but lack of respect that she has shown towards me and my wife by saying it pretty loud. (I'm nearly 100% sure she did it on purpose so we will hear it because she's very "honest" person according to herself) and mentioning it twice while in dinner making a smart arse comments which were quickly shot down by my equally smart arse comments.
I agree with Darth that somewhere down the line, this country lost respect towards one another and it's sad.
But I wanted to see if I was over reacting and was interested in everyone's thoughts and opinions.
You crazy Asians are all alike. Insult your heritage and culture and you fly off the handle.
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Originally Posted by Darthtang AW http:///t/393157/very-irked/20#post_3495506
P.S. I now question your disease advice, lol
I'll be happy to remind you of that comment if you ever need advise! LOL Peace, I've been shamed enough!
Now, did she take her shoes off or not?? LOL
Originally Posted by Darthtang AW http:///t/393157/very-irked/20#post_3495506
P.S. I now question your disease advice, lol
I'll be happy to remind you of that comment if you ever need advise! LOL Peace, I've been shamed enough!
Now, did she take her shoes off or not?? LOL
acrylic51
Active Member
My ex wife was from Thailand.....It was obvious when I met her parents for the first time that shoes weren't acceptable in the house....The shoes outside the door gave it away.....I honestly would have turned her around at the door regardless of friends of my wife or not......Actually my wife's best childhood friend isn't permitted in my house if I'm present because of a stupid; ignorant comment made 11 years ago.....
darthtang aw
Active Member
I'll be happy to remind you of that comment if you ever need advise! LOL Peace, I've been shamed enough!
Now, did she take her shoes off or not?? LOL
Good thing I use and am aware of the search function
Darth (smarter than the average swf.com member) tang
Now, did she take her shoes off or not?? LOL
Good thing I use and am aware of the search function
Darth (smarter than the average swf.com member) tang