why does it seem people are unhappy these days

jovial

Member
I think a lot of it is because most folks live beyond their means, which perpetuates the rat race.
 

seattle

Member
I love life right now,I've never seen much depression.and religion,I think Mr.Guitar knows Byron katie,my mom is OBSESSED with religion,but thinks catholics are ok,but not getting that god accepts you no matter what,he doesn't punish people for not worshipping him.Thinking that makes me feel happy and alot of good events are happening to me,you are basicly your realtiy,if you think you aren't going to get something,you probley aren't,if you wthink your getting to get something,you probley are.and being nervous doesn't help either........
my mom was always depressed and this had changed it upside-down for her.Believing this even got us into a BIG house.When we dreamed in a moblie-home
If I was 2 religious,please forgive me I was just trying to help.
P.S.Think the world is going to get worse for you and your children,probley is.
Don't think the world is going to get worse for you and your children,probley isn't.
 

firefish9

Member
I think many people are unhappy because.......
USA haven tough times about nuclear enrichment with North Korea and Iran
High oil prices
World warmen up
Iraq warfront. Its sad to say but I've gotten used to hearing that 6 troops and 40 iraq civialians died in a sucicide bombing
Government
Africas rebals using 200,000 Child soilders
Being searched everywhere/buts its for ur own good.
Overpopulation
Fast food being 90% fat 10% death on a bun
Narsacistict people
These are a few reasons I came up with off the top.
good luck with ur cancer
 

windmill

Member
Good responses and good advice. It's interesting to see what other people think.
I've got a move planned, I just need the nearly 10 grand my friend owes me and another job. I might just completely uproot, sell everything I have and buy an RV or just go where I want and start over.
I've thought about the religion thing. That stuff is too strange to me though. I could believe there is some intangible being somewhere that might've helped with creation, but to believe in the "10 days" theory (how long it took god to create everything...I think that was 10 days) and to go to church every sunday, be preached to, etc... my personality just won't have anything to do with it.
I'm with renogaw, there is always something better somewhere.
Seattle sounds like my mom, always saying things are a matter of perspective. "If you focus on only the good things in your life, life will be good" was what she'd say. I don't really like that perspective but understand how it would work. But I consider myself a realist, and that optimistic perspective doesn't work for me. I can focus on the good things for a while, until something bad corrupts them-then it's back to the same old realistic attitude. I consider that optimistic perspective as denying certain areas of reality.
Firefish hit some good points. That fast food one shouldn't bother anybody though. I'm of the opinion that if you're not going to bother making a home-cooked meal with your family, your food quality is going to be terrible. How long ago was it that fast food was a novelty that many people didn't enjoy? Reminds me of the old phrase "if you want something done right, do it yourself".
 

rylan1

Active Member
windmill said:
I've thought about the religion thing. That stuff is too strange to me though. I could believe there is some intangible being somewhere that might've helped with creation, but to believe in the "10 days" theory (how long it took god to create everything...I think that was 10 days) and to go to church every sunday, be preached to, etc... my personality just won't have anything to do with it.QUOTE]
I can understand how people can have this opinion; however, God is timeless meaning that He always was and always is...The fact that He created our world in 7 days is not all that important, just the fact that He created us in his own image which makes us creative. Our world is too complex to believe in anything else...We have a world that is built on systems. Everything has a system and is based on rules... how could this come from nothing???
In my opinion we are unhappy because we are lost- we don't know our purpose in life, and what it is that we want to do with our time. We feel trapped in jobs and lives. We were all kids when we decided what career we wanted to choose and went to college for...now that we are older we want to go in another direction but we are trapped because we need to continue paying for the house, bills, and etc... I went to church last week and heard a message about repostioning yourself that is going to change my life....We are scared to try new things and new careers. The reason why we are unhappy is because we are bored with the normal mundane routine of our lives... We are living lives with no meaning and we regret choices that we made, and feel we can't do anything to change them.
There are 5 stages to this that includes your jobs and relationships that kind of explain this...
1. Revelation - I want that job what do I need to do to get it
2.Inspiration- you move towards that job and apply
3.Formalization- I learning this job and I am happy and look forward to work
4.Institutionalization- I've been here 10 years, part of the system
5.Crystalization - stagnate, trapped, unhappiness- I need a change
This is not true for everyone some people are unhappy because of the grief in there lives from people who have hurt them in their past or people that have abadoned them, or death of loved ones.
I think its more about the person than what is going on in the world that affects their happiness.
 

thud

Member
Originally Posted by ophiura
We are surrounded by negativity...we invite it...we need it. We watch it on the news and eat it up. Gloom and doom. We go to the movies for it, we listen for it in our music, we "play it" in video games. Horrific things. "its just entertainment" - yeah, anyone who finds that stuff entertaining has a problem, IMO. The hits are the most disgusting things out there - horror movies and raunchy music 10 years ago was NOTHING compared to this. We have little respect for others anymore...they have something we want. We are driven by greed, envy, lust and false idols. We were warned about these things...
Its hard to be good, nice and compassionate. It takes effort. And I think people aren't asked to expend that effort. If you can't do it, its all OK. You're great anyway! Yeah! You can't play sports as a kid because you may lose, so we have to be fair all the time. We don't learn, and when the real world comes around, no doubt some find it hard to adapt.
Kids are raised by parents who are their "friends" and give them all manner of things my parents would have laughed at handing out. No one wants anyone to be upset, and so many don't learn how to do so productively and constructively.
That's dead on and what I had planned to respond with after I was done reading this thread.
 

thud

Member
Originally Posted by firefish9
I think many people are unhappy because.......
USA haven tough times about nuclear enrichment with North Korea and Iran
High oil prices
World warmen up
Iraq warfront. Its sad to say but I've gotten used to hearing that 6 troops and 40 iraq civialians died in a sucicide bombing
Government
Africas rebals using 200,000 Child soilders
Being searched everywhere/buts its for ur own good.
Overpopulation
Fast food being 90% fat 10% death on a bun
Narsacistict people
These are a few reasons I came up with off the top.
good luck with ur cancer

I can't agree with most of the things you brought up unfortunately.
Most people haven't got a clue about global warming, THEIR GOVERNMENT (a lot of people don't vote then complain about why laws and policies are what they are), Nuclear or where Iraq is even located on the map. It's "live and let live" these days and as long as people have their ipods and other gadgets they are pretty much content.
I think everyone is just very competitive socially and put downs are the best way to surpass another's self esteem and social status.
 

thud

Member
Originally Posted by windmill
Good responses and good advice. It's interesting to see what other people think.
I've got a move planned, I just need the nearly 10 grand my friend owes me and another job. I might just completely uproot, sell everything I have and buy an RV or just go where I want and start over.
I've thought about the religion thing. That stuff is too strange to me though. I could believe there is some intangible being somewhere that might've helped with creation, but to believe in the "10 days" theory (how long it took god to create everything...I think that was 10 days) and to go to church every sunday, be preached to, etc... my personality just won't have anything to do with it.
I'm with renogaw, there is always something better somewhere.
Seattle sounds like my mom, always saying things are a matter of perspective. "If you focus on only the good things in your life, life will be good" was what she'd say. I don't really like that perspective but understand how it would work. But I consider myself a realist, and that optimistic perspective doesn't work for me. I can focus on the good things for a while, until something bad corrupts them-then it's back to the same old realistic attitude. I consider that optimistic perspective as denying certain areas of reality.
Firefish hit some good points. That fast food one shouldn't bother anybody though. I'm of the opinion that if you're not going to bother making a home-cooked meal with your family, your food quality is going to be terrible. How long ago was it that fast food was a novelty that many people didn't enjoy? Reminds me of the old phrase "if you want something done right, do it yourself".
I respect others beliefs but I agree with what you're saying about religion.
I am personally agnostic but I do believe religion is great guidance for people.
And about fast food - Anything I order NEVER comes out right., you gotta do it yourself!
 

nigerbang

Active Member
Originally Posted by bill109
i think life is wayyy to short so enjoy life and take it day by day rather then rush rush rush.. im a laidback kinds guy
-bill109
Had to clean up the spelling a little....
Life is not short.....Your are just dead a really long time in comparision..
 

seasalt101

Active Member
scuba guy, sorry to hear about all the cancer in your family, my prayers are with you, 1 thing i have learned is never to succomb to it, fight it all the way don't never let it get you down, everyday of living you kick it's a$$ harder than the day before, and the next day twice as much as the previous day, always fight and never give in, ok and on another note the media lies to us every day, and this thought just occurred to me lately you ever notice how wrong the weather guy is... that sets us up for the bigger dilusion of the news, the weather guy is always personable or cute and we get so used to the lies we just see them as being wrong again and again and again...it's a mindset so we all get brainwashed and we can't even see what they are doing to us, ie; liberal democrat doesn't sound even close to socialist regime...tobin
 

tahoetanks

Member
I think people tend to lose perspective. When I find myself calling other drivers names I can't post, I just have to remind myself that if this is the worst thing that happens to me all day, then I'm still alright. It works just long enough for someone else to cut me off and I have to start all over again.
But seriously, perspective. What's really important at the end of the day?
 
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