Woman Question...ha oh yes

[the gift]

ok well i have liked this girl for i dunno 5 years? ha so we went on a mission trip and i found out she likes me...im ecstatic...she is the greatest girl...ok anyways we talked and we are going to keep it "casual"...so we have held hands yaddah yaddah...but i don't wanna freak her out and lose her...what can i do/say, what can i not do/say?

 

[seasalt101]

Originally Posted by The Gift
ok well i have liked this girl for i dunno 5 years? ha so we went on a mission trip and i found out she likes me...im ecstatic...she is the greatest girl...ok anyways we talked and we are going to keep it "casual"...so we have held hands yaddah yaddah...but i don't wanna freak her out and lose her...what can i do/say, what can i not do/say?
be yourself she likes you for you, don't go trying to pour it all on at once that will drive her away for sure let me guess you 2 teenagers?...tobin

 

[the gift]

haha ok yes we are...but like she is going out of town tomorrow...for four days only though and i already miss her...ha we have hung out the last 5 days literally...would it be ok to tell her i miss her when shes there or would it freak her?

 

[seasalt101]

Originally Posted by The Gift
haha ok yes we are...but like she is going out of town tomorrow...for four days only though and i already miss her...ha we have hung out the last 5 days literally...would it be ok to tell her i miss her when shes there or would it freak her?
tell her you will miss her and to have fun it's 4 days tell her you want a tee-shirt or something that way she will be thinking of you too...tobin

 

[the gift]

tobin thanks alot...i will...

 

[seasalt101]

Originally Posted by The Gift
tobin thanks alot...i will...
your welcome and good luck...tobin

 

[teen]

Originally Posted by The Gift
haha ok yes we are...but like she is going out of town tomorrow...for four days only though and i already miss her...ha we have hung out the last 5 days literally...would it be ok to tell her i miss her when shes there or would it freak her?
you got to give her space, dont make it seem like shes your everything and if you loose her, you'll be crushed. you'll push her away by being to clingy.

 

[the gift]

aight aight
can you be a little more specific?

 

[prk543]

I think you got several good parts of advice: Be your self, get her thinking about you.
I also agree with teen here. Being clingy is bad, you don't want to try and monopolize all of her time, or seem like you are trying too hard to to get the ball rolling, because you will drive her away. Remember, If you act like a puppy who followed her home, you may get sent to the pound.
Basically take it slow (but not too slow), be your self. If you two like each other it should work out. If you rush into it, you might drive her away.
Might i suggest that after she returns from her trip you two set up something like mini golf or something like that. That way you can kinda try out the whole date thing, but its still in a public setting
-Prk543.

 

[the gift]

thank you all...we are going to hang out after she comes back so thats good...keep the advice coming cant ever have to much

 

[tx reef]

Go somewhere that takes at least 4 hours to drive to. If you don't get on eachothers nerves, then y'all will probably be okay together.....

 

[jennythebugg]

i agree let her know that you missed her but do it after she gets back say 'hey i missed you i'm glad your back ...wheres my t shirt?' keep it light like you said ,your keeping it casual and like seasalt just now said to me ,tell her you like whatever she got you- if she did get you something ,and if it is something wearable let her see you wear it at least twice-even if its hideous if she wants to keep it casual dont appear too needy ,that will drive a girl away , and you should always open doors for her -and your moms that will make her respect you and think your a gentleman- men should do that anyway but few ever do anymore, dont make her choose everything you guys do together if you have things planned every once in a while you will appear more of a take charge kinda guy. she sounds great... good luck

 

[teen]

Originally Posted by The Gift
aight aight
can you be a little more specific?
basically, if you act like shes your everything, she'll most likely take advantage of that/ you and use it to walk all over you. man up and make it that she needs you, not vice versa.

 

[ric maniac]

and pay her little complements here and there like "thats wonderfull perfume you are wearing today" or "wow did you do something dfferent with your hair? i really like it"

 

[kevin34]

I would also like to add dont think too much. Dont worry about screwing up and just be yourself.

 

[brandon7491]

like tobin said be ur self but never bring up stuff like I love u. or like being over mushy and what not. im 16. ur a teen and uve probably heard other people at school and stuff saying i love u to each other but infact we really dont know what love is lol. just be noyce and never go way to fast. ive lost girls personally like that and have realized what a dumb... butt and how stupid that was. good luck bro make it work.

 

[brandon7491]

o and also bro from experience make friends with the dad. moms are easy and like it if ur like yes mam no mam and hold her door nd what not. its the little things that they notice and like

 

[team2jndd]

There is no right answer here. Everybody is different. Some girls would think you didn't care if you don't say you miss them others would think you were clingy. You are the only one who knows this girl and after five years the fact you are asking a bunch of saltwater freaks about what you should do with her is deffinately not the best idea. If she likes you after 5 years she likes YOU not us. Ignore everything you have read and do what you have since you met her. The worst thing you can do is act or be fake.
*** No offense to anybody because the advice was good I just think he should follow his own instincts.

 

[seasalt101]

Originally Posted by team2jndd
There is no right answer here. Everybody is different. Some girls would think you didn't care if you don't say you miss them others would think you were clingy. You are the only one who knows this girl and after five years the fact you are asking a bunch of saltwater freaks about what you should do with her is deffinately not the best idea. If she likes you after 5 years she likes YOU not us. Ignore everything you have read and do what you have since you met her. The worst thing you can do is act or be fake.
*** No offense to anybody because the advice was good I just think he should follow his own instincts.
i think we covered that in being himself...tobin

 

[team2jndd]

being yourself is good advice... most people elaborated a little more than that though. Actually everyone did.