Lol, gender doesn't matter on this site
We try to give anyone and everyone the correct advice.
I missed the size of your tank. So you have one large anemones then the two smaller ones right? Until you have proper lighting none of your anemones will 'be happy' and probably will roam.
So first step would be to upgrade your lighting. Which seems to be under control. Just to give you some insight, PC lighting is really only good for things that are not very light demanding at all. The list from least light dependant to most would be softies like zoas and mushrooms, then large stoney polyps and small stoney polyps, then anemones.
PC lighting would be good enough for an average tank and have mushrooms and zoas. They would do fine under PC lighting. Once you get into the other areas like stoney corals and anemones you MUST have a quality light unit like HO (high output) T5 lighting with individual reflectors or metal hallides. THe Nova Extreme lighting would be great, or you can get a MH pendant for around a decent price.
Now about the number of anemones. Usually people tend to stick with one anemone per tank. Reason is anemones are VERY territorial to say the least. I know sounds stupid someone with no eye or brain being territorial. But in the wild (and in our home aquariums) unless an anemone is from the same clone, they will usually attack eachother until one dies if they are close by. Reason being, to progress the gene pool (kinda). Like a pride of lions not allowing any other lions within their territory, but on a smaller scale and obviously must more simple. So although you may not see blood, or hear screaming, if two anemones are close together or touching they are inflicting damage on eachother whether you know it or not. This is why some people will ask "how come my two anemones roamed until they found eachother?" Reason is because through chemicals they are finding eachother out and attacking.
With that said you should try to only have one anemones for about 45 or 50 gallons of water. So if you have 3 you should have a bout 120 to 150 gallons of water. For two reasons, one they get extremely large, and two so that there is plenty of 'buffer' between each anemone. Place them as far away as possibly and MONITOR CLOSELY. If they move closer and continue to you should get rid of one (give it to a store or friend, please don't flush it).