alyssia
Active Member
Originally Posted by ophiura
I appreciate that.
And let me just say this, because it has come up many times in "why posts don't get answered" threads.
It can be for a number of reasons. It can be a common question that people don't want to answer again. It can be because people genuinely just don't have a clue. There have been times I didn't know what the question was so didn't answer. There can be times when people aren't quick to supply requested information, so people don't bother to continue. There can be all manner of reasons why people don't answer threads...but as people don't KNOW you, it is not a personal thing. It is a matter of trying to figure out what it may be in the question that is not working.
As for tone, I know you didn't think that was a good answer when I mentioned it but it is a VERY common problem when writing. I am at work, I do give what are, frankly, terse answers sometimes because that is what I have time for. I am not saying "man, this guy is an idiot so I am going to answer in such and such a way." Often its like "oh, man, I want to get a quick answer in there before I have to go" and it is that or sometimes nothing. But not a personal thing. If I thought someone was really beyond reach, then I wouldn't answer anything at all.
Are the answers abrupt sometimes? yes...I've been around a long time, and answered the same questions many times, and each time don't put the same effort into it. I have the same issues others do...it gets "old" answering the same questions when there is a search feature.
I am guilty of that, but don't read further into the tone. As I've said many many many times in my threads I am NOT a fan of escalation in threads. I don't think it gets anywhere. If you think someone (even me ) was mean, maybe just say "hey, I don't know if it was meant that way but...?" And often they may respond with "oh no, didn't mean that." If people did that more often, so many of the flare ups we see would never get anywhere, because rarely is their truly intent to be mean - most are unintentional misunderstandings, not "condescending rhetoric"
AMEN!!!
I appreciate that.
And let me just say this, because it has come up many times in "why posts don't get answered" threads.
It can be for a number of reasons. It can be a common question that people don't want to answer again. It can be because people genuinely just don't have a clue. There have been times I didn't know what the question was so didn't answer. There can be times when people aren't quick to supply requested information, so people don't bother to continue. There can be all manner of reasons why people don't answer threads...but as people don't KNOW you, it is not a personal thing. It is a matter of trying to figure out what it may be in the question that is not working.
As for tone, I know you didn't think that was a good answer when I mentioned it but it is a VERY common problem when writing. I am at work, I do give what are, frankly, terse answers sometimes because that is what I have time for. I am not saying "man, this guy is an idiot so I am going to answer in such and such a way." Often its like "oh, man, I want to get a quick answer in there before I have to go" and it is that or sometimes nothing. But not a personal thing. If I thought someone was really beyond reach, then I wouldn't answer anything at all.
Are the answers abrupt sometimes? yes...I've been around a long time, and answered the same questions many times, and each time don't put the same effort into it. I have the same issues others do...it gets "old" answering the same questions when there is a search feature.
I am guilty of that, but don't read further into the tone. As I've said many many many times in my threads I am NOT a fan of escalation in threads. I don't think it gets anywhere. If you think someone (even me ) was mean, maybe just say "hey, I don't know if it was meant that way but...?" And often they may respond with "oh no, didn't mean that." If people did that more often, so many of the flare ups we see would never get anywhere, because rarely is their truly intent to be mean - most are unintentional misunderstandings, not "condescending rhetoric"
AMEN!!!