my husband and i got together i was 18 and he was 20, 5 years later i still support him. he went from semi-pro football player, to x-ray technician, to firefighter/emt, now in the army. i wont see him the rest of this year and will go my entire pregnancy alone, im not whining about either. his job is important and if you want to have something in life that is worth having then you need a good career. love is a lot but it isnt everything. its hard work and a pain in the @$$ at times, but if its really worth it you will both be willing to give some to the relationship as a whole. when my husband comes home next year he could tell me ok were moving to alaska, i would start packing, even better if he said hawaii then i would already be packed! point is you both have to want it to work and try to make it work in order for it to work.