Clams can't really protect themselves too well, regardless of size. It could be a softball sized Blue Spot and a 3 foot Derasa and that tail can still whip it's way inside the shell.
Cortez rays can get as big as 1 - 1 1/2 feet (or whatever it is - smaller geographic locations); and I don't recall an aquarium really restricting their growth. They pretty much live off of inverts, crustaceans, mollusks, small fish. I have never noticed a difference between their behavior and most others.