eating healthy

petieaztec

Member
Originally Posted by kellyryan
You are thinking about kids already?
No but i am a planner, i saw what happened to my parents and do not want to be that way when i come around 50 that's all.
I just hate when people say that all i am after is money when i am not, i just have had relationships where i am the bread winner and payed for everything only to have them disrespect me and take me for granted, now i am ready for someone to help me out thats all. To buy a home out here you will spend 500,000 for a fixer upper, and we will both need to have a good income. sorry for getting so defensive but this whole paragraph is why.
 

jmick

Active Member
Originally Posted by petieaztec
No but i am a planner, i saw what happened to my parents and do not want to be that way when i come around 50 that's all.
I just hate when people say that all i am after is money when i am not, i just have had relationships where i am the bread winner and payed for everything only to have them disrespect me and take me for granted, now i am ready for someone to help me out thats all. To buy a home out here you will spend 500,000 for a fixer upper, and we will both need to have a good income. sorry for getting so defensive but this whole paragraph is why.

I understand where you are coming from and I think it's good that you know what you want and won't settle for less (I think people settle far to often and it's a shame...my wife did in her first marriage and they only lasted 2 years).
 

ruaround

Active Member
Originally Posted by kellyryan
Men should be bread earners.
And why do you keep apologizing? Has anyone told you that you're too polite?
I disagree with this statement!!! Right now in the business world females are being promoted faster than males... the government will give breaks to a female that wants to start her own business... If the female is the bread winner the male should by all means pick up the slack in the areas that are traditionally taken care of by the female role!!! I am not implying any discrimination...just the facts
 

petieaztec

Member
i have been told that i am too blunt sometimes and that hurts people's feelings so I have been trying to be nicer or more clear in my explanations. Think more before i speak but it didn't happen this time
 

petieaztec

Member
Originally Posted by Jmick
I understand where you are coming from and I think it's good that you know what you want and won't settle for less (I think people settle far to often and it's a shame...my wife did in her first marriage and they only lasted 2 years).
I am not saying that people who don't have a degree are less it is just in the city there are so many oppurtunities that small towns do not offer. Sometimes working at the local Wlamrt is a great job especially if that is your towns best offer but in SD where are given so many breaks with schooling and trade programs that if you do not take it you are just being lazy, thats all. plus who am i to judge, i am not all that great either, some people protest my profession and i can't spell for anything!!
 

rberhow

Active Member
Originally Posted by ruaround
Dang your man is spoiled rber!!! I dont have a problem with traditional roles, its just that in todays society its falling to the wayside... what was his reaction???
petieaztec...no offense taken here...
RU-are you willing to retrain my man if I send him down for a couple of weeks. Heck, I will pay double if I can send the kids too. :joy: I showed him the post and all he could say is "I know" and then was wondering what time supper would be ready. I guess old habits die hard and I have truly spoiled him.
 

ruaround

Active Member
Originally Posted by rberhow
RU-are you willing to retrain my man if I send him down for a couple of weeks. Heck, I will pay double if I can send the kids too. :joy: I showed him the post and all he could say is "I know" and then was wondering what time supper would be ready. I guess old habits die hard and I have truly spoiled him.
Hellz ya... I am always up for a challenge and FUN!!!
dunno what youre looking for here, but "you can teach an old dog new tricks" and I use that cliche in its loosest of forms...
make dinner together!!!
 

kellyryan

Member
By STEPHEN OHLEMACHER, Associated Press Writer Wed Jan 18, 4:43 AM ET
WASHINGTON - Marrying for money, it turns out, works. A study by an Ohio State University researcher shows that a person who marries — and stays married — accumulates nearly twice as much personal wealth as a person who is single or divorced.
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And for those who divorce, it's a bit more expensive than giving up half of everything they own. They lose, on average, three-fourths of their personal net worth.
"Getting married for a few years and then getting divorced is clearly not the path to financial independence," said Jay Zagorsky, whose study divided married couples' assets so they could be compared with singles.
Zagorsky, a research scientist at OSU's Center for Human Resource Research, tracked the wealth and marital status of 9,055 people from 1985 to 2000. Those people have been participating in the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth, which has repeatedly interviewed them about various aspects of their lives since 1979.
The participants are now 41 to 49 years old, making them the youngest of the baby boomers.
Zagorsky cautioned that results could be different for older and younger Americans, who have faced different attitudes about marriage, divorce and living together without marriage.
Zagorsky's study, which is published in the current issue of the Journal of Sociology, defines wealth as the total value of a person's assets, such as real estate, stocks and bank accounts, minus liabilities, such as mortgages.
A big reason married people accumulate more wealth than others is simple economies of scale — one household is cheaper to maintain than two, Zagorsky said. Divorce reverses those benefits, he said.
"Divorce looks like one of the fastest ways to destroy your wealth," Zagorsky said.
David Popenoe, co-director of the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University, said people become more economically productive after they marry.
"They work harder, they advance further in their job, they save more money, and maybe invest more wisely," Popenoe said. "That's because, one can speculate, they are now working for something larger than themselves. They are working for a family."
Zagorsky showed that single people slowly accumulated wealth during the study, going from a median of $1,500 at the start to $10,900 in the 15th year.
Married people accumulated wealth much faster, accumulating 93 percent more than single or divorced people over the life of the study, Zagorsky said.
People who divorced started losing net worth four years before their divorces were final, Zagorsky said. That could be because they had separated before divorcing, forcing them to support two households, he said.
The study found that men fared better than women after divorce, holding about 2 1/2 times the wealth. However, in dollars, it added up to a difference of only $5,124.
"While men come out slightly ahead, divorce destroys wealth dramatically for both sexes," Zagorsky wrote in his study.
 

dougsback

Member
yah i eat healthy too
NOT
i have had a double cheese burger from mcdonalds everyday for the past 17 days
i work there
 

ruaround

Active Member
Originally Posted by DougsBack
yah i eat healthy too
NOT
i have had a double cheese burger from mcdonalds everyday for the past 17 days
i work there
with almost 500 calories, about 1/2 of those from fat and the just under 1200 mg of sodium... bud da bup ba ba ... "youre gettin fat"
 
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