Friend's sister is Anorexic-what can I do??

devildog01

devildog01

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Sorry guys, I know this is SOOOOOOO not the place for this, but I am messed up. I just got a phone call from one of my BEST FRIENDS and she was BALLING. I couldnt figure out why and I couldnt understand her, but I eventually got her to calm down and she told me that her sister is anorexic. Then she started blaming herself for it, and telling herself she hated her self, and other TERRIBLE things. I of course, told her SHE WAS SOOOOO NOT, and tried to comfort her. I feel so bad. I did get her to laugh at the end of the phone conversation, but I know she's gonna have a bad day tomorrow. Any ideas on what I can do to make her feel better? Sorry guys, I know this is not the place for this but I need some help and my parents aren't home.
 
farmboy

farmboy

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You already did the best thing for her. Listen. Be her friend. Her sister needs some pro-help, though. Hang in there.
 
devildog01

devildog01

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But I don't understand, and neither does Erica why her sister is ALL OF A SUDDEN doing this. I know her sister-very well, and she was always a straight A student, she even graduated from high school with a 4.0 GPA. She is a freshman in college now, and now she is drinking heavily, dropping classes, not doing well in college, NOT EATING, partying until morning, etc. It is soooo not like her. I just find it weird that such a "perfect" kid could all of a sudden have all these problems.
 
notenoraa

notenoraa

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Well i remember an old mad tv sketch with bob newhart... he was a psychiatrist.
He just grabbed the person and yelled STOP IT!!! over and over again... im sure it would work.
 
notenoraa

notenoraa

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Originally Posted by DevilDog01
But I don't understand, and neither does Erica why her sister is ALL OF A SUDDEN doing this. I know her sister-very well, and she was always a straight A student, she even graduated from high school with a 4.0 GPA. She is a freshman in college now, and now she is drinking heavily, dropping classes, not doing well in college, NOT EATING, partying until morning, etc. It is soooo not like her. I just find it weird that such a "perfect" kid could all of a sudden have all these problems.

first of all... being a good person doesnt mean that you cant have an eating disorder. Alot of perfectly normal people have eating disorders... that is just a mental disability.
She probably didnt care what people thought about her in high school... went to college started partying and received false notions of what or how she shouold look. it happens all the time and its sad to see someone ruin their life like this. but the only thing that can help is professional treatment. Try not to talk much to your friend about this. Its just gonna stir the pot and upset her more.
 
aquapro_1

aquapro_1

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Sounds like she has a drinking disorder. College, most kids lose weight. Stress of tests & no money. If she's drinking all night & dropping classes. Seems like she met up with some new friends & that won't last. She'll flunk out by Christmas & be home to stay by New Yrs. Hard to tell her who to hang out with. Too much freedom. Also sounds like she lived a sheltered life. They tend to party more. Tell the parents!!! Kids helping kids NEVER ends well!! Parents are always the last to know!! Get them involved & she should straighten up or they'll make her come home. What parent is going to put up with her actions & continue to pay for her partying & flunking out of school??? Friends help friends by getting the right help at the right time.
 
J

jdragunas

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well, if she is truly anorexic, you need to tell her parents at once!!! I know, she'll probably beg you not to say anything, but this is something that HAS to be done. Anorexia isn't just about being "overweight"... they feel that they have no control over anything in their life, so the solution is to control the one thing they can... what they eat. I have 2 cousins with anorexia. They were both tripped into this by a horrible event in their lives... the one found out that her "father" wasn't even her real father, and the other one found out that her parents had secretly been divorced for 2 years, and that her mom was getting remarried.
Your friend's sister needs help, and she needs it quickly, before she puts her life at risk. TELL SOMEONE IMMEDIATELY!!!
 
aquapro_1

aquapro_1

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I hope you can live with yourself after that decision. The problem isn't "not' eating. It's the fact that the body will attack organs for survival. Once that happens, there is no saving her. They will just shut down one by one!!!
It takes a phone call to tell her parents & ask to be left nameless!!!
You claim to be a friend, yet you are nailing her coffin shut!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
J

jdragunas

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lol, snailheaven wasn't the original poster... he meant he decided not to say anything in this thread... LOL!!!
And, adam's a good kid, i'm sure he'll do the right thing!
 
snailheave

snailheave

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Originally Posted by aquapro_1
I hope you can live with yourself after that decision.
you are right. i can't. so here i go.
leave her be. some things are meant to be and some things are just meant to be. in the end we are just dust and bones.
 
aquapro_1

aquapro_1

Member
It's a serious issue.
I am new the the board & so many people here already know each other. Could not believe that he wouldn't say anything! Kids never go to the parents. I have dreaded neighbors. Stupid parent gave alcohol to kids. Mom was freaking out last 4 july (04) sent a 13 yr home to get her stomach pumped. Stupid girl did it again (at someone elses home) at Christmas '04. Can't imagine the parents not doing anything to stop her!!
Am an overprotective mom and have two little girls.
 
J

jdragunas

Guest
Originally Posted by aquapro_1
It's a serious issue.
I am new the the board & so many people here already know each other. Could not believe that he wouldn't say anything! Kids never go to the parents. I have dreaded neighbors. Stupid parent gave alcohol to kids. Mom was freaking out last 4 july (04) sent a 13 yr home to get her stomach pumped. Stupid girl did it again (at someone elses home) at Christmas '04. Can't imagine the parents not doing anything to stop her!!
Am an overprotective mom and have two little girls.
The:
i decided not to say anything.
was kinda finishing the
i'll think of something to say tomorrow
from the day before...
and i agree with you 200%
 
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