HELP! I'm Mr. Mom tonight...

yearofthenick

yearofthenick

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And the baby keeps crying instead of napping. She's 14 months old and I've gone in her room twice now to see what the problem is and she's definitely tired. There's nothing wrong with her, but the second I lift her up and lay her on my chest, she falls right to sleep. The second I move to put her down, she starts crying again.
And it's an intermittent cry. She'll stop crying for 20 seconds, then cry for 20 seconds, then off and on and off and on.
What should I do? She's a VERY strong-willed baby, just like her father (me). She likes things her way, and her sassy personality is really coming through strong. I think she cries because she wants me to hold her, but I don't want to get into the habit of holding her for an hour everytime she needs to sleep. And trust me, we've JUST broken out of that habit... I don't want her to pick it up again.
What should I do???
 
teresaq

teresaq

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if she isnt wet, dirty, hungry, have a fever or teething, Then
let her cry for a few minutes to see if she will just go to sleep
let her cry for a few minutes, go in -dont pick her up, just pat her back for a few minutes and tell her its time to sleep.
maybe put on some soft music for her
TeresaQ
mom to 4
 
jennythebugg

jennythebugg

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she is baiting you with that cry
and dad is usually always an easy catch - she prolly knows this by now too huh? let her work it out on her own just keep an eye and ear out on her she'll be unhappy but she'll be ok
 
yearofthenick

yearofthenick

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She's down. Thank God.
She wasn't wet, she was clean, just ate, teething a little but my wife gave her tylenol before she left for work.
I went in there earlier and patted her back... it certainly helps, but when I stop (and even when I ease out of it) she springs back to life and watches the door to be sure I'm not leaving. If I move IN ANY DIRECTION, the crying resumes... She's a smart one.
When I actually leave, it's the end of the world to her. It sucks because everything tells me to comfort her, but I don't want her to develop any unhealthy attachments... like patting her back for an hour. It's just not good. Time to go down means time to go down.
 
yearofthenick

yearofthenick

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Originally Posted by jennythebugg
http:///forum/post/2951979
she is baiting you with that cry
and dad is usually always an easy catch - she prolly knows this by now too huh? let her work it out on her own just keep an eye and ear out on her she'll be unhappy but she'll be ok

This is what I needed to hear... I think she IS smart enough to know when she's setting a trap for me to fall into. And she's relentless about it too... we're talking like an hour here she was crying... and there was NOTHING wrong, except that she wanted me to rock her. Crap, even saying that makes me feel like such a lazy father...
 
nw2salt08

nw2salt08

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It's part of being a parent. She'll do this until she realizes that it doesn't really work anymore. It's always hard to break them of something...And yes, daddies are big suckers for a slightly upset baby but if you continue to just let her cry and check on her periodically and let her know it's naptime then she'll get the point. You're not being a lazy dad....you're teaching your child a little independance and selfsoothing. Parents can't always be there to soothe their child but when we are we care. You're doing good. Just keep it up.
 
chaoticdamsel

chaoticdamsel

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Originally Posted by YearOfTheNick
http:///forum/post/2951993
This is what I needed to hear... I think she IS smart enough to know when she's setting a trap for me to fall into. And she's relentless about it too... we're talking like an hour here she was crying... and there was NOTHING wrong, except that she wanted me to rock her. Crap, even saying that makes me feel like such a lazy father...

It is SO hard to just let a baby cry... it is havoc on the nerves and just breaks your heart. But it will be worse in the long run if you let her dictate how things go. Putting your baby on a schedule is good for you and good for them. Children need structure. You've done the right thing and you'll thank yourself for it eventually.
My son is 15 months old and we started the "if there is nothing wrong, let him cry" techniques when he was around two months old. We did what TeresaQ suggested to you... we let him cry, checked on him and soothed him every twenty minutes or so, but didn't pick him up. It was really rough at first, but now if he wakes up in the middle of the night, he knows how to 'self soothe' himself. I'll hear him jabbering to himself over the monitor, but he eventually goes back to sleep and I don't have to get up with him.
Good luck!
 
chaoticdamsel

chaoticdamsel

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Originally Posted by socal57che
http:///forum/post/2952115
I once read that acetaminophen was the #1 cause of liver disease in children. Google "acetaminophen and liver disease"...

Acetaminophen can cause liver damage in both children and adults when it is overdosed. Unfortunately, a lot of parents are too quick to give their children medicine and don't always follow the dosing instructions. It's why all the over the counter cold medicines for infants were pulled off the shelves a few months ago.
So is there a danger in using Tylenol? Sure, there's a danger in using any medication if you don't use it properly. Giving your child Tylenol every once in awhile, in the recommended dosage (or just a little less to be safer), shouldn't be a problem.
That's the advice I got from my son's pediatrician and he only prescribes medicine when it is absolutely necessary. He's not the "Oh you feel bad? Here, take a pill." type of doctor.
 
socal57che

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"New Study Links Signs of Possible Liver Damage to Lower Doses of Acetaminophen (TYLENOL), Supporting Previous Research"
 
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